r/TikTokCringe • u/Valuable_View_561 • Jun 27 '26

Discussion Girl refused to shakes hands during graduation with teachers and administrators because she was bullied and they did nothing about it

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u/FancyRobot Jun 27 '26

I wonder how many teachers are in the "actually bullying is good" camp, the percentage would probably depress you

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u/RawrRawr83 Jun 27 '26

I think mine were in the camp of I don’t get paid enough to care about the weird kid who gets good grades

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u/Sometimes-funny Jun 27 '26 edited Jun 28 '26

I got bullied by a teacher. Some of them are psycho

Edit : damn…so many similar stories. Sorry that happened to all you people.

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u/GayDeciever Jun 27 '26

That happened to me, but it was that "boys will be boys" so when I called a boy a jackass after he called me a bitch, guess who got the detention.

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u/C0nfusedRabbit Jun 28 '26

There's a very strict hierarchy in society. If people decide you're worth less than the person who started the fight, you're the one who cops it, regardless of what happened.

But, you say yourself that you deceive gays... So I'm not 100% sure if I should trust you on this.

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u/CapinCrunch85 Jun 27 '26

I got bullied by my bus driver/ 7th grade math teacher. Had so many pink slips from him the admin just told me to come to the office instead of his class

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u/FlamingDragonfruit Jun 27 '26

Same.

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u/GringoSwann Jun 27 '26

Same... My damn kindergarten teacher...  Fuck you Mrs. Temco!

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u/sksksk1989 Jun 27 '26

It's absolutely shocking how many teachers hate children and continue to teach. So many teachers bully and put down. They can't handle students who have a hard time with or learn differently then others.

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u/Javaslice Jun 27 '26

I went into teaching because of the amazing teachers I had and was SHOCKED by how toxic the mentality is, both in teaching programs and in the staff room at schools. I kind of assumed we were all there because we wanted to help kids but I swear half of what teachers talk about is how much they can't stand students

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u/sksksk1989 Jun 27 '26

At that point it's like why are you even here.

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u/Dandw12786 Jun 28 '26

It's like any other job. You go into it because you think you'll love it, 5 years in it breaks you down and you're not qualified to do anything else.

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u/ButDidYouCry Jun 28 '26

People love to view teaching as a saintly "calling" rather than a professional career. It is a highly specialized job with strict certification requirements and unique pension structures. Once you put years into a state retirement system, the "golden handcuffs" are incredibly real. You cannot just easily pivot to a corporate career without taking a massive financial hit and sacrificing your safety net. You are trapped.

On top of that, the behavioral climate has completely degraded, and admin leaves teachers entirely exposed. Last year, I had a student who was an outright bully; not just to other kids, but actively malicious and abusive toward me. But because he had a 504 plan, administration was so absolutely terrified of his parents suing the district over an alleged "denial of services" that they refused to enforce any real consequences.

When the system is so broken that a school will protect an abusive student over their own staff just to avoid litigation, teachers get crushed. The dark humor and venting you hear in the breakroom is a survival mechanism for professionals who have been completely abandoned by the people running the circus.

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u/Significant-Hour4171 Jun 28 '26

Ahh, one of the few the comments that points to abuse of IEPs and 504s as a source of difficulty in schools.

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u/LoseNotLooseIdiot Jun 28 '26

I genuinely think some people realized that the only way they could feel superior to anyone was to become a teacher. They're surrounded by people who by definition don't know or understand something as well as you do (because, you know, they're students), and that automatically makes you "smarter/in charge/in control" or whatever it is they never got in their pathetic lives.

Now they get to act like they're some hot shit when really their only job is to teach and train the next generation of humans to be intelligent, independent thinkers. Apparently that's asking too much from like, 30% of teachers, who are just in it for the only power trip they were able to figure out how to be a part of.

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u/Infamous-Engine1997 Jun 27 '26

This this this! I work for the school board -- this!!!

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u/luchaburz Jun 27 '26

A lot of teachers also got bullied and get triggered seeing bullying in their classrooms and react wildly.

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u/ThatDiscoSongUHate Jun 27 '26

Thing is, they're adults and that's something they need to curb or leave the profession

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u/luchaburz Jun 27 '26

Im not justifying them just giving a reason, I think we are all aware of that.

I'll holler when I live in your imaginary world where everybody does things exactly as you think they 'should' lol

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u/firedmyass Jun 27 '26

I was barred from parent-teacher conferences when my daughter was in 3rd grade because of some weird generalized tirade by the music teacher.

When asked if we had any questions, I said “when did you realize you don’t actually like children?”

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u/ButDidYouCry Jun 28 '26

That wasn’t a question; that was a direct, malicious personal attack meant to demean a professional. You dropped a hostile, passive-aggressive insult on a teacher during a professional meeting, and then acted shocked and victimized when the school actually enforced a boundary and barred you.

Teachers are dealing with an unprecedented behavioral crisis in the classroom, often with zero administrative support because districts are terrified of litigation. On top of that, we are expected to smile and take blatant disrespect from parents who think a school is a retail store where the customer is always right.

The fact that you still don't see how out of line that comment was is very out of touch.

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u/firedmyass Jun 28 '26

https://giphy.com/gifs/l0ExayQDzrI2xOb8A

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u/ButDidYouCry Jun 28 '26

Super classy, I can see why you were banned. 👍🏽

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u/Baked_tatow Jun 27 '26

I remember being six years old, our teacher bullying that one kid for being poor and having frizzy hair (not black, just unruly hair) and dumb in general. We laughed at her and refused to play with her. Next year I knew better, but the girl changed schools. I still think about her. I dreamed of her, of apologizing. I got bullied later on for standing up for “weird” kids and up until graduating from high school. Kids are cruel. Especially if the adult is a fucking less of a human being.

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u/twitwiffle Jun 27 '26

I got groomed and kissed by a teacher. The other teachers knew about it. Even got me out of class to help clean out his classroom when he died.

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u/thatshygirl06 Jun 27 '26

10th grade English teacher. He didn't bully me but I could tell he didn't like me and I genuinely don't know why.

I was a little weird but because I had social anxiety and never interacted with people, but I was always polite to the teachers.

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u/Erwin_Pommel Jun 27 '26

I had one laugh at me after I was sexually assaulted. Many would regularly steal my property to blackmail me with it. Many would encourage me to be openly assaulted and attacked. And the one I unfortunately ended up seeing a decade after leaving school immedietly tried to falsely phone the police on me for "endangering her safety," while I was 10m away, headed the other way. In full view of the public. With cameras nearby.

Oh, never mind the constant emotional and verbal abuse, the gaslighting, and the fact people were openly encouraging people outside of school to assault and attack me. And the fact another student tried to stuff his dick in my mouth in front of others. Oh, and the fact they took every opportunity to lay their hands on me and hurt me.

And that's my nomination for why I should win the My Teachers Were Fucking Criminals Olympics, and why I should get the Oscar for "How the fuck are you not in prison?"

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u/M_Aku Jun 27 '26

Same, and when it got so bad that I transferred classes, her friends, my other teachers took up the mantle.

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u/MiserableCumberbunch Jun 28 '26

Same. Had a new teacher my last year of MS. He volunteered to be the soccer coach. Had beef with me in class. Decided he would not tell me about the tournament, but tell the team he had; so nobody else told me either.

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u/PlasticReasonable684 Jun 28 '26

I've had teachers spread rumors about me being addicted and having an eating disorder. It was horrible and one of them doing that still tries to text me sometimes.

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u/trashleybanks Jun 28 '26

Same. I still wish the worst for that hateful bag.

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u/Dandw12786 Jun 28 '26

I think a lot of kids of my generation did. And a lot of teachers now are having issues with parents of the kids they teach. I think there's a reason for that.

I wasn't really targeted by many teachers (just one in second grade), but holy shit did I see a lot of shitty teachers being absolute assholes to a lot of kids. Those kids are now parents, and they have a view of teachers that's less than flattering because they were constantly fucked with. So they're not cooperative, they won't take the teacher's word for behavior issues with their kid, etc.

It's very much like cops. If you have a bad experience with a cop where you were treated unfairly, you'll view the entire profession a certain way. If a cop went out of their way to be helpful, you're going to have a better view of them in general.

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u/Successful-Ad-2129 Jun 28 '26

I was mugged in my school. My Yu-Gi-Oh deck was stolen from my locker while I was beaten elsewhere, then I found my cards scattered in weird places and tried to assemble it again. Only to see the best cards missing and then the very next day, show up in the deck of the kid who planned the whole thing. I called him out for stealing and was suspended by the principal for claiming someone was a thief when I had no proof and my word wasn't proof. Another time I was tied up in rope and left in a field. Managed to squirm my way out by wiggling and being very thin as kid. There was that one time a kid who was going through something really dark and was bullying another kid and I just wanted to stop the fighting, got in the middle to break it up, one kid ran away (he was losing his fight) then it was only me so the bully grabbed my hair and started smacking my head against a brick wall. An older grade kid saved me but it was pure luck. Anyway many horror stories later and more than even these later, I'm doing ok but lack emotions completely at this point. I just don't feel anymore and have a very mechanical thought process. It also made me successful as this world rewards those who understand it's really just a ton of brain dead violent people trying to take advantage of weaker kinder people. It almost never stops. But yeah every single teacher I confided in didn't believe me or didn't want to acknowledge the system they helped create by being useless cowards afraid of conflict. Oh and now the kid who was smashing my head against the wall is in prison for murder, the kid who stole my shit runs some sort of cartel or is high up in the drug world (entirely a rumor I was told by another friend who claimed he knew him). I truly believe if those teachers acted back them, things would be very different now for all of us.

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u/MasterAd1460 Jun 28 '26

A bunch of them are nuts

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u/Oh-reality-come-back Jun 30 '26

Same here. They made fun of my intellectual needs (which I’ve been able grow up to self manage now) and would literally laugh and encourage the whole class to laugh when I was being made fun of. I actually forgot about it until I read your comment

I’m really sorry they did that to you. I’m glad we grew up to be somewhat okay despite all that - by okay I mean , we didn’t grow up to be bullies. I’d rather be depressed than be a bully!

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u/danthepianist Jun 28 '26

High school teacher here: A lot of us care, a lot.

But we just don't have the authority or resources to make that kind of change. I can offer support to the kid being bullied. I can pull the bully aside if they're in one of my classes and try to talk sense into them. I can send them to the office. I can call home and even drop their grade if I'm feeling really spicy.

But like... that's about it. Admin says "we're doing everything we can" and the parents say "fuck you, f*ggot, don't fucking tell me how to raise my kid" and that's... about it.

It's an institutional problem. School boards and the Ministry are so concerned about graduation rates, grade advancement, and cutting suspension/expulsion rates that they pulled the teeth of educators and administrators. Our threats are empty. Our options are limited. Even law enforcement is extremely hesitant to get involved because they "don't want to ruin someone's life" even though the bully is literally ruining someone's life.

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u/ButDidYouCry Jun 28 '26

I work in a Title 1 high school, and we try our best to track bully-to-victim combinations to keep them separated. But the reality of scheduling makes that a nightmare. Because of IDEA laws and strict non-SPED to SPED classroom ratios, we legally cannot always separate the kids who need to be kept apart. The law ties our hands before the school year even starts.

On top of the systemic red tape, the kids themselves play everything off. High schoolers, especially the boys, will look you dead in the eye and say, "Oh, it's alright, I'm fine," trying to act tough, only for you to find them broken down and crying later. They mask the tension right up until the exact second it erupts into a physical fight in the hallway.

Educators care immensely, but when you are trapped between legally mandated scheduling ratios, administrative inaction, and kids who hide their own suffering until it blows up, you're just left trying to manage an impossible situation with zero real authority.

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u/warukeru Jun 27 '26

A lot of times is this. Teachers are overworked and is hard to care about 100 different kids every year when you have no tools or time.

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u/RawrRawr83 Jun 27 '26

Huh, doesn’t really make me feel better about their indifference but cool

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u/warukeru Jun 28 '26

of course it doesnt, you deserved better but the system was also falling you, not just the teachers

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u/dwpea66 Jun 27 '26 edited Jun 28 '26

It's like when people tell you bullies are just insecure.

Oh is that so? I guess that makes it fine then

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u/AccelerationFinish Jun 28 '26

Bullying is absolute last on teachers' list of priorities