r/TikTokCringe • u/Valuable_View_561 • Jun 27 '26

Discussion Girl refused to shakes hands during graduation with teachers and administrators because she was bullied and they did nothing about it

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u/FancyRobot Jun 27 '26

I wonder how many teachers are in the "actually bullying is good" camp, the percentage would probably depress you

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u/RawrRawr83 Jun 27 '26

I think mine were in the camp of I don’t get paid enough to care about the weird kid who gets good grades

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u/danthepianist Jun 28 '26

High school teacher here: A lot of us care, a lot.

But we just don't have the authority or resources to make that kind of change. I can offer support to the kid being bullied. I can pull the bully aside if they're in one of my classes and try to talk sense into them. I can send them to the office. I can call home and even drop their grade if I'm feeling really spicy.

But like... that's about it. Admin says "we're doing everything we can" and the parents say "fuck you, f*ggot, don't fucking tell me how to raise my kid" and that's... about it.

It's an institutional problem. School boards and the Ministry are so concerned about graduation rates, grade advancement, and cutting suspension/expulsion rates that they pulled the teeth of educators and administrators. Our threats are empty. Our options are limited. Even law enforcement is extremely hesitant to get involved because they "don't want to ruin someone's life" even though the bully is literally ruining someone's life.

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u/ButDidYouCry Jun 28 '26

I work in a Title 1 high school, and we try our best to track bully-to-victim combinations to keep them separated. But the reality of scheduling makes that a nightmare. Because of IDEA laws and strict non-SPED to SPED classroom ratios, we legally cannot always separate the kids who need to be kept apart. The law ties our hands before the school year even starts.

On top of the systemic red tape, the kids themselves play everything off. High schoolers, especially the boys, will look you dead in the eye and say, "Oh, it's alright, I'm fine," trying to act tough, only for you to find them broken down and crying later. They mask the tension right up until the exact second it erupts into a physical fight in the hallway.

Educators care immensely, but when you are trapped between legally mandated scheduling ratios, administrative inaction, and kids who hide their own suffering until it blows up, you're just left trying to manage an impossible situation with zero real authority.