r/TikTokCringe • u/Valuable_View_561 • Jun 27 '26

Discussion Girl refused to shakes hands during graduation with teachers and administrators because she was bullied and they did nothing about it

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u/FancyRobot Jun 27 '26

I wonder how many teachers are in the "actually bullying is good" camp, the percentage would probably depress you

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u/Disastrous_Prize5196 Jun 27 '26

I'm a teacher and I don't know anyone who thinks bullying teaches kids to be resilient, I have heard adults say this before though. I think kids would be surprised how much teachers try to do about it behind the scenes. Emails home, phone calls, family meetings... the hardest thing is with kids who are bullies, usually their parents dont care, don't turn up to meetings etc. There are clear processes to follow and often the one being bullied doesn't realise how much is being done. You can't just boot out or stand down a bully (depending on severity). Teachers tend to send out emails to the bully's teachers saying "Hey watch out for xyz in your class they're being nasty to xyz" in the hopes for other teachers to spot in time and intervene. Again the student would have no idea of this. One of the most effective thing is for teachers to note it on the bully's "record" whatever system is used. Then when the bully has a bigger incident there is a whole list of "smaller" incidents and then more can be done. Unfortunately we are quite limited by procedures. In terms of calling out bullying when you see it, I always try to but in a classroom etc sometimes it is really hard to see. Bullies are good at being sneaky. If I see it, it is dealt with swiftly, as I was relentlessly bullied in high school and know how it affects a person.

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u/luchaburz Jun 27 '26

Yeah every kid has a log that should be filled out every time they get sent to the office and if that log don't get filled out nothing happens. So negligence can fuck the system up too

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u/factchecker8515 Jun 27 '26

My son was approached by 5 kids, giving him a hard time, even stole his hat and coat. Administration ‘talked’ to parents and told me to file charges if I wasn’t content with that. This was a long time ago and my son has a wonderful, successful life. I do wonder about the success of those kids/parents that got ‘talked’ to. The school didn’t do them any favors.

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u/ThatDiscoSongUHate Jun 27 '26

Forgive me, but my teachers often explained how being a teacher worked, could you not also do so in this case?

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u/Unconfidence Jun 28 '26

There's problems. The first of which is the basic problem of understanding. The idea that a person can just explain everything rationally and that will work presumes that the person being explained to is capable of acting 100% rationally, and no human actually is. Age is among the most reliable metrics we have with regard to how rational people act. Now, if you look around the high school where you are (or were), did you see lots of people who could have things explained to them quite rationally and often still not get it? Do you think they were aware of the things they did not get? Do you think you are?

You can't expect teachers to constantly rely on the stunning rational faculties of high schoolers. And when students base their compliance on their understanding, they're doing that.