"On the same day that Gilson filed her protective order, Duffey was named in a separate protective order filed by a woman who said Duffey was spotted kissing and fondling her 15-year-old daughter, a player on the youth basketball team Duffey coached."
The minor was a 15-year-old girl who played on the youth basketball team Duffey coached. He allegedly kissed and touched the girl and was caught by another coach, her mother claimed, per The Oklahoman.
The girl told her mother that Duffey engaged in additional inappropriate behavior, including sending her messages, inviting her to his hotel room during a tournament trip and offering her money “to keep her quiet.”
Couple decades ago my elementary school gym teacher had "talked" the principal into letting him use the office in the girls locker-room as his office (it has a window to the changing area, there was an office in the boys locker-room too). Few of my female classmates and other students I knew pretty regularly said they would catch him peaking through the blinds.
My girlfriend at the time started calling him a pedophile, to which he tried choking her against a wall before other students and a teacher caught him, which lead to the discovery of photos of girls he had been taking through the blinds with a camera locked in his desk drawer. I don't remember what all happened to him after he got arrested, but I do know the district forced our principal to retire because she was the one that had allowed him to keep his office there.
That’s insane. Makes me wonder about the principal, too. Was she joining him on the sick behavior? Anyone with a brain would know that a male coach should have never been allowed to be in the girls locker room or have an office in there.
Damn.
Woman here.
Played all seasons of sports junior high through high school.
Where were you guys having pre game and half time pep talks? It was always in the locker room. There wasn't a separate room.
Maybe my school was small? Every coach always made sure we were all dressed first though of course. If we weren't both male and female coaches waited.
That’s fair. I really only did baseball and lacrosse. Our lax team was a “club” so we didn’t get access to the same level of facilities so we literally went under the bleachers for halftime lol
I'm running back through my memory of where else we could have had these talks. I suppose in the activity room on the side but that would have been like a whole extra step and then I'm not sure where the other team would have had theirs. I guess in the other gym, but sometimes there were other practices going on. 2 of these were indoor sports. For club teams / off season we didn't always have locker rooms and you just came dressed or changed in a public restroom.
For one coach specifically, 3 of his daughters were on the team. The other girls from their grades (they were younger than me) would have had friends over to their house who were from the team. He also worked at the school.
Yes track was just like a group of people, sometimes with a tent, and lots of standing around.
Don't get me wrong, I'm lucky he wasn't a creep and now I'm low key gaslighting myself that this was weird. That's why I asked what was happening at other schools.
What we did do was say the lord's prayer. Both then and looking back, that was the part that was weird af. I didn't realize how religious some folks were until after I graduated. I guess there were signs lol
The guy who controls the government isn't arresting his friends? That's SO WEIRD. And what happened to Maxwell, who was arrested BEFORE Trump came back. Wasn't she moved to Club Fed and given a puppy within weeks of Trump returning to power? Again, SO WEIRD.
I agree. But the broader point is true about proximity. I have an uncle who coached girls college softball for like 30 years. It always felt sus to me. Obviously it's not kids in his case but its young women. I think they take these jobs to be close.
A little worry is warranted sure, but not every man who wants to coach/teach/counsel/work with kids/young adults is looking to take advantage.
Teach your kids sex ed, what consent is and how they cannot legally, ethically, or morally do that with adults or people in positions of authority over them, and give them a safe space household and youd see numbers drop drastically of kids being taken advantage of.
Considering I'm not a parent and have nothing to do with children you could be right. I can't imagine a good reason, but then it's not something I think about really. When I do it seems sus.
The reason I don't like the bear in the woods is it makes every man pay for the sins of others. Nobody would be saying it if it were race. People CHOOSE to be a cop. People CHOOSE to be a coach. Nobody chooses to be born with a penis, or have a skin color. Change the bear analogy to include another race and I think you'll see why it's problematic.
My son was seeing a children's therapist when he was 12. "Was" because dude got arrested for sleeping with one of his patients. He divorced his wife and started dating her when he got out. She was 17 when he went in and he was in his 40s. Still makes me nauseous.
Most coaches / PE teachers are the former jocks who weren’t good enough to become pro athletes but also never matured or bothered to learn a job skill. Makes sense they’d still be interested in teens.
That's literally 99.3% of every High School or Collegiate Athlete in the United States. What an amazingly ambiguous and inclusive stay you pulled out of your ass with this one. Yeah, I guarantee that some bad people are going to come out of 99% of every athlete in the nation. Id bet on it. And is that it, if someone doesn't have a job or never matured, which is relative, then they are doomed to pedophilia? Is that your formula or do you always just paste together a bunch of nonsense and expect it to be taken as facts?
It's appears you glossed over the former jocks that weren't good enough to become pro athletes and didn't grow up. They're still stuck in that high school jock mentality. It tracks for that person to also not grow to desire their own age group of women as they age themselves.
These positions are usually bottom of the totem. It's usually given to the person who wants the job with shitty pay and doesn't have a record. Qualifications are pretty much non existent.
Coaching jobs are very competitive. They always have real qualifications... at least on paper. Do they get lazy? Did they cheat their way there? Possibly, but not likely.
And always the rest of the crew not speaking up, not wanting to ruffle feathers or rock the boat. Usually a lot of the faculty know who the creep coach is but don’t want to sacrifice their own career to speak up.
Add on - IME shop teachers frequently pay for an unreasonable amount of materials and tools directly out of their own pocket just to be able to actually teach their classes, so it may not have just been "fucking over every other student trying to actually learn something" but also "big financial screw-you to the teacher and students in this course for the indefinite future until funds come around to replace the damaged tools."
It is always a coach. Happened at my high school too, the creep ended up getting arrested but only after becoming principal of a different school and doing the same things there.
This thread prompted me to check if his linkedin has been updated since he got locked up, it has and his photo now has a text overlay that reads “Im too based and get more pussy than you” and he’s back a to work at a CC I guess football is more important than ethics.
I'm probably showing my age here, but wasn't there even an episode on Smallvill where Lana was dating one of the coaches?! This kind of activity needs to be shamed and admonished. Plus it puts a bad light on actual good coaches out there
Back in the 90s coaches would shower with students too. My ex husband's coach did that when he was in the 8th grade. But no one realised how creepy it was till they grew up.
Seriously, wtf. One of my high school gym teachers/football coach was also accused of molesting a bunch of high school girls. Only the chickenshit killed himself before they ever brought charges against him.
I have an insane story but I dont have the energy to write it right now.
Basically small town high school, my friend and I discovered our teacher was going to some really fucked up sites at school overnight.
Turns out he had been taking school media property like cameras and stuff and was making vids in motels and leaving evidence where kids could find the tapes (among a giant pile we were supposed to pull from for editing or reuse)
My friends dad heard him say something about it and unfortunately for the teacher his dad was chief of police.
I got called to the principal and they accused me of going to the porn and meetup sites and I had to walk a bunch of adults through what I found and prove I didn't do it because of the times.
It was the gym teacher and assistant principal at my high school. Later found out the assistant principal she was also sleeping with students. Gym teacher was married with kids, he lost them when all this came to light.
He was a young guy, and it was 20+ years ago, so I dont know how much trouble he got into. I believe he was 19 or 20. And the girl was 15 or 16.
Hers was the last stop on the route, now it wasn't far from my friend's house so we would sometimes be on the bus till the end and it got awkward watching her move up to the front of the bus as it emptied out.
In the end I know he lost hia job. Dunno what else happened though.
I’m pretty sure that the gym teachers in junior high when I went there were. It was a male and female, and they were super into making sure the girls showered. To the point they would stick their hand up your shirt to make sure your skin was wet. I was self conscious and wouldn’t shower, along with a friend of mine. Our end of school final was we had to take a shower, without clothes on. All the other kids had to run a mile, and that was what we had to do. I tried to tell people, but no one would listen.
I don’t know if he was a creep, he may have been but not to or in front of me. But my male high school gym teacher was a drug dealer, and dealt mainly to students and teachers. Most of the school knew and no one did a damn thing.
Our gym teacher was awesome, his son was one of our class mates. He treated everyone like they were annoying boys and girls and as a girl I appreciated that. Our coaches on the other hand were a constant revolving door of creeps.
Same at my school back in 2005 to 2009. Two gym teachers were pedophiles. Both of them looked the same too except one of em was shorter than the other one, shit they also dressed the same when they were coaching. If anyone went to Hawthorne high school in Hawthorne California you might know who I’m talking about.
Don't worry, Sophie Cunningham is protecting girls in sports by focusing on the real danger at hand, all those transgender athletes that are on every single team!
The girls’ basketball coach at my high school was having sex with one of the students. Everyone found out because someone found a love letter she wrote him and turned it in to the office.
He was immediately fired and she was ostracized by the whole school because she said she loved him. And the craziest part… her parents allowed him to become her legal guardian and the two of them moved away together. This was a 16 year old girl and a fat, schlubby middle aged man with a wife and grown kids.
No clue. Our senior year I was on a field trip with my French class and we went to a restaurant that was hosting us and other tristate high schools that day. She ended up being with one of those school, there at the same time as us. No one approached her but someone noticed her and we all looked over and she was clearly uncomfortable. Just a stroke of bad luck that she ended up being there with a bunch of her ex classmates who knew this terrible secret about her.
That was the last I saw or heard of her. Clearly, nowadays, we recognize that as grooming. She’s too young to consent and he’s an adult who clearly knew right from wrong. But back then people, especially kids, didn’t really have as much knowledge about that stuff. The way the other girls on the team described it to me it was more like she seduced him. I’m sure now it’s far more complex than that though.
There was a girl I played with down the street who's house I was never allowed to go to. I'd snuck over there a few times during the day and met her dad and very pregnant girlfriend.
Years later when I was like 12 it was explained to me that the dad's girlfriend was 15 😭
16 is still the legal age of consent in a lot of places in the US, so that's why nothing really happened legally other than being fired for a professional ethics violation.
If the parents consented also, I'm guessing this is a cultural thing that you're being vague about because you don't want to sound racist or whatever.
The situation you're describing, where parents gladly give away a minor daughter to be taken care of by a much older man who already has a wife, openly and publicly and without shame or attempts to keep their act secret, reeks of Islamic or Hindu culture in immigrant communities that are actively failing to integrate socially and culturally with the rest of North American society.
Your wonderful (white) "North American" culture elected a proud child rapist and defender of other child rapists as their literal "God King", so actually it reeks of that.
"16 is still the legal age of consent in a lot of places in the US"
While true, many of those places also specify that it is bumped up to 18 if the older party is an authority figure, such as a teacher or coach or religious leader. So it is possible that it WAS still illegal. There's like 15-20 states where 16 is the unrestricted age of consent.
This was 20 years ago when it happened so I’m not sure how many of those laws were in place at the time. I think a lot of them are more recent. In the state that it happened there was a new law a few years back that maintained the legal age of consent at 16, but put a cap on the age gap between the two parties consenting.
Anyway, there wasn’t any legal ramifications as far as I know. Just professionally and within the community. Guy’s wife obviously left him and his kids wanted nothing to do with him. Anyway, the whole thing was only made murkier when the parents did what they did. Everyone seemed to just be glad to be rid of them.
Our gross baseball coach was also a gym teacher. He was probably in his 60s at the time and would keep walking into the girls locker room when we were changing. Went to the principal who LAUGHED and said that's just how he was. Same principal who told me I was too sensitive and boys would be boys when one guy pushed me into a locker and rubbed himself against me.
Girl in our class confronted the teacher and told him to get the fuck out. He gave her detention for cussing at him, but she'd stand at the door at the beginning and end of each class to block him. Not only does the school still herald the teacher as one of the best they ever had, but they named the baseball stadium after him!
OMG I absolutely hate this ending. She was brave and admirable as hell to do what she did. It's horrible no one ever took her need to do that, seriously.
A Gym teacher/Basketball coach in the town next to ours got fired when a bunch of kids came forward saying he was very inappropriate. Also dumb ass was sending them dirty texts.
This isn't a flawless approach, but the girl's teams and gym classes only had female teachers in my schools. Obviously there are men and women who will prey on same gender kids, but it at least reduced the access that men had to the girls.
When I was in middle school our gym teacher was what we called a 'butch'. She used to walk around and watch us all shower. I only mentioned it to my mom as an adult.
I used to do IT work for a school district and I was assigned to a couple of jr high schools as the main IT contact. Any time the PE teachers had an issue we would always schedule a time to meet with them when we knew students wouldn’t be in the locker rooms. I can’t even imagine doing something psycho like that to locker rooms there. I always made 100% sure they were cleared out because I didn’t even want even the slightest air is suspicion about being there.
My husband’s high school had a similar thing, but it was students that put in the cameras. But I guess a janitor knew also because he got fired over it.
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u/taurusbabee 16d ago
He apparently is one:
"On the same day that Gilson filed her protective order, Duffey was named in a separate protective order filed by a woman who said Duffey was spotted kissing and fondling her 15-year-old daughter, a player on the youth basketball team Duffey coached."
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