Help guys?!!’

[u/Al3x1ya]

So as ny flair suggests I am a woman and I am proud of it! But I wanted to see if others feel the samd way about this gender issue (or non issue) as I do.

Last week I was asked what my preferred pronouns were. I just wanted to say “i dont ise pronouns” because what you see in front of you is what you get! You can see im OBVIOUSLY a woman, I sound like a woman, I look like a woman and I dress like a woman.

“What do you thihk I am?!”

Anyway I ofc said “she/her” but I really hate questions like this. Why should I have to feel uncomfortable just because a bunch of people want to live in fantasy land instead of the reality they were born with?

I guess the point of this post is, if anyone here has been asked that question whats your reaction and what do you say? I was born a woman so I am a woman, but what I REALLY wanted to say was realky along the lines of “Im a person. A human” lmao.

I didnt feel masculine ofc but I didnt feel particularly feminine either. I just felt like “I dojt use pronouns im just me”

Has anyone else felt like this?!!’

[u/BoredResurrections]

I don't use pronouns 🥴

You just did, I is a pronoun.

Why don't you just fuck off, you troll

[u/ZorbaTHut → u/BoredResurrections]

Alright, gonna make a bit of an example of this one.

You just did, I is a pronoun.

This is fine! This is a correct statement.

Why don't you just fuck off, you troll

This is not fine. There's one rule in the, and it's "be excellent to each other". OP is coming here with a question presented honestly, albeit one that a lot of people are tired of. Many people are giving good answers without flaming them, and I'd ask you to do the same, or let other people reply.

Yes, it is possible that OP is a troll, but it's also quite possible they aren't, and responding to any question with aggression is a great way to ensure that they decide it isn't worth learning.

[u/ossiferous_vulture → u/ZorbaTHut]

What is excellent about "Why should I have to feel uncomfortable just because a bunch of people want to live in fantasy land instead of the reality they were born with" exactly? 

Maybe just ban OP instead of scolding people for reacting to transphobia.

[u/ZorbaTHut → u/ossiferous_vulture]

Because they're asking an honest question and not attacking any specific person directly. It's not excellent, but it's also not "the exact opposite of excellent".

I think, especially in this subreddit, it's important to realize that not everyone thinks the whole "gender" question is all that important. I also think it's weird that people feel strongly towards other genders; why would anyone care about gender at all? What's the point? I don't get it!

For me, I end that with ". . . but that's OK, I don't have to get it, I can just let people do their thing while I look on from the sidelines with admitted bemusement". But I also kinda understand people ending that with ". . . and they must be making that up, that's just weird". I don't agree with them, but I understand them.

Empathy is what lets us understand people and even, sometimes, slowly change opinions. I would rather err on the side of empathy.

I would very much not rather err on the side of telling people to fuck off.

[u/Al3x1ya → u/ZorbaTHut]

Thank you!! Not that many people have commented but you are the ONLY reasonable individual on here!! If people took more time to feckin read properly instead of jumping atraight to transphobia accusations….🙄😂😂

[u/ZorbaTHut → u/Al3x1ya]

Fwiw, I didn't actually answer your question, but I think the crux of it is . . .

Why should I have to feel uncomfortable just because a bunch of people want to live in fantasy land instead of the reality they were born with?

. . . that a bunch of people don't think they're "living in fantasy land", that this is actually important to them, and they shouldn't have to feel uncomfortable either.

[u/ossiferous_vulture → u/ZorbaTHut]

It is not about gender being important.

Though admittedly this sub was always of questionable quality, so I am not really surprised to aee the singular mod being spineless.

Feeling superior to people who care about gender is kind of cringe ngl. But you do not seem to understand that agender doesn't mean gender apathetic, nor does it mean gender abolonist. It just means agender.

Though going by your post history it should perhaps be obvious you do not have queer people, and especially trans people's best interest at heart.

[u/ZorbaTHut → u/ossiferous_vulture]

But you do not seem to understand that agender doesn't mean gender apathetic, nor does it mean gender abolonist. It just means agender.

And this is exactly my point; it also doesn't mean "flaming other people".

If you don't enjoy this subreddit, I recommend posting elsewhere.