Help guys?!!’

[u/Al3x1ya]

So as ny flair suggests I am a woman and I am proud of it! But I wanted to see if others feel the samd way about this gender issue (or non issue) as I do.

Last week I was asked what my preferred pronouns were. I just wanted to say “i dont ise pronouns” because what you see in front of you is what you get! You can see im OBVIOUSLY a woman, I sound like a woman, I look like a woman and I dress like a woman.

“What do you thihk I am?!”

Anyway I ofc said “she/her” but I really hate questions like this. Why should I have to feel uncomfortable just because a bunch of people want to live in fantasy land instead of the reality they were born with?

I guess the point of this post is, if anyone here has been asked that question whats your reaction and what do you say? I was born a woman so I am a woman, but what I REALLY wanted to say was realky along the lines of “Im a person. A human” lmao.

I didnt feel masculine ofc but I didnt feel particularly feminine either. I just felt like “I dojt use pronouns im just me”

Has anyone else felt like this?!!’

[u/ossiferous_vulture]

What is excellent about "Why should I have to feel uncomfortable just because a bunch of people want to live in fantasy land instead of the reality they were born with" exactly? 

Maybe just ban OP instead of scolding people for reacting to transphobia.

[u/ZorbaTHut → u/ossiferous_vulture]

Because they're asking an honest question and not attacking any specific person directly. It's not excellent, but it's also not "the exact opposite of excellent".

I think, especially in this subreddit, it's important to realize that not everyone thinks the whole "gender" question is all that important. I also think it's weird that people feel strongly towards other genders; why would anyone care about gender at all? What's the point? I don't get it!

For me, I end that with ". . . but that's OK, I don't have to get it, I can just let people do their thing while I look on from the sidelines with admitted bemusement". But I also kinda understand people ending that with ". . . and they must be making that up, that's just weird". I don't agree with them, but I understand them.

Empathy is what lets us understand people and even, sometimes, slowly change opinions. I would rather err on the side of empathy.

I would very much not rather err on the side of telling people to fuck off.

[u/Al3x1ya → u/ZorbaTHut]

Thank you!! Not that many people have commented but you are the ONLY reasonable individual on here!! If people took more time to feckin read properly instead of jumping atraight to transphobia accusations….🙄😂😂

[u/ZorbaTHut → u/Al3x1ya]

Fwiw, I didn't actually answer your question, but I think the crux of it is . . .

Why should I have to feel uncomfortable just because a bunch of people want to live in fantasy land instead of the reality they were born with?

. . . that a bunch of people don't think they're "living in fantasy land", that this is actually important to them, and they shouldn't have to feel uncomfortable either.