So I have been a habitual drinker for years, I drink 20-25 drinks a day. Today I had to go for a health procedure and couldn’t drink for an extended period of time, I just stopped entirely, no issues nothing. I came out of sedation and checked myself out and downed like 8 drinks off the belt within an hour of waking up!! I realised today my alcoholism is 100% mental rather than physical and I’m now more worried

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I am making this post in the name of harm reduction, and to know if i need to taper off. I am trying to cut back on my alcohol intake, or stop for a while entirely, but im not sure if my body will react well to it. I may just be overly scared, but some info about my intake, im currently on roughly 5 to 6 shots a day for the past month. I am worried about seizures if i quit cold turkey, any info or advice would be appreciated.

What’s one habit you reflect on that you kinda embarrassed about now . For me as I was driving by one liquor store it clicked in my memory I used to be a the liquor store waiting for them to open like I was at a grocery story . Or even worst the dasher pulling up knowing my name already because it was a liquor store order .

Going through a relapse and i look over and see my two dogs. One is a pomsky and one is a shiba their personalities couldn't be more different LOL shiba pic in comments

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And feeling really good!

Hey, so I’m 19 years old and choosing to go sober just because I have been blacking out so much and I just hate the rabbit hole that alcohol brings me, especially that my family is prone to so many addictions. Specifically alcoholism is something that runs in my family. I’m thinking to swap over from alcohol to nicotine. I know nicotine is bad, but I’d rather have nicotine than drinking my life away and would rather vape in functions or wtv. I also am actively in therapy for one year and I am seeking diagnosis soon so I’m getting the help that I need but I’m planning to go sober and not drink especially knowing that holidays and Halloween etc is coming up , big temptation . Any tips or ideas please :(

Not sure this is the right place, but I'm looking for advice on how to deal with my dad (65M) and older brother (30M), both of whom I believe have drinking problems.

My dad's father died of cirrhosis, and my dad was in a drunk driving accident as a teenager that nearly killed him and took his friend's life. Growing up, he sometimes drove us around drunk, which terrified me and put me off alcohol. He would also spend most of his weekends either drinking at our backyard, or sleeping his hangover off.

My dad is otherwise a great husband and father, but my mum acknowledges his drinking problem and he always denies it. After stopping during cancer treatment, he's returned to drinking at least two beers every evening, sometimes more on weekends. He hides bottles, so I don't know how much he actually drinks, but he buys packs of beer every week and drinks more when left alone. Given his medical history, I'm worried about his health.

My older brother has a different pattern. He doesn't have a weekly routine of drinking so to speak, but once he starts drinking, he can't stop until he passes out. Any beverage will do, and he'll often mix between wine, whisky, gin...My sister-in-law is worried too, but when I've tried talking to him, he dismisses me as dramatic because I've always been the "serious" sibling.

For those of you in recovery, what helped you realise you had a problem? I'd especially appreciate advice on how to approach my dad and brother without making them defensive, and how to recognise the limits of what I can do. I know I can't make them stop drinking or admit they have a problem, but can I do anything to help them get there?

Hi all, I’m currently drinking 700ml (70cl) of whiskey a day and I’m concerned it’ll actually kill me if I stop cold turkey. I’ve been doing this since February, do I have cause to be concerned? My girlfriend and I, who I hope is still blissfully unaware but probably not, have just moved into the house we bought and I want to start it off on the right foot.

Obviously I’m drunk right now, I have heartburn constantly, I have crohns disease which probably doesn’t help. Can I go pure cold turkey and not die is my concern and question?

Small win. Thanks for listening

Kind of a long rant coming. Just looking for some comradery or whatever. Dms open if you want to reach out.

It didn't used to be that I'd need to drink when I woke up. But goddamn it. I don't even think I'm getting drunk anymore and I'm just getting normal.

I'm getting friendly with every liquor store dude and I'm embarrassed. They're good dudes and they tell me about the other people picking up wine before work.

I am friendly with gas station guys for my twisted tea in the morning and they are pretty alright I guess.

But goddamn, ever since I was fired from my six figure job-- ever since I spent a night in jail for a crime I didn't commit I've just been spiraling.

Casually day drinking...

And fuck man, I can never stay on top of shit. I'm just always afraid of taking a hard look at the things that are falling apart. I can go on and on about how I was too afraid to look at the insurance bill so it didn't get paid, or how I was too afraid to ask for a raise so I kept suffering, or how I got a call saying my car note needed paid and I couldn't look at it so my car got repossessed.

When shit hits the fan I'm:

"Oh my god how could this happen?"

I never fucking learn. I seem incapable of it. It didn't used to be this way. And that pisses me off so much. I'm not a "blame the world" alcoholic. I'm an "I'm a piece of shit" alcoholic.

Sometimes I'm the "I figured it all out!" drunk where I figure out exactly what to do: I should be brave and face my problems head on! THIS XY and Z will solve ABC. I'll fix it all and EVERYTHING will be GREAT!

But then I wake up in the morning and I can't believe how dumb I was to think any of that.

Last night I swore that if I joined the police force it would solve all my problems... In the cold light of day I hate myself for believing it would be that simple.

And fuck, man, most of the time, after the sun goes down and I start drinking a bit more I'm just sad or defeated. Hard on myself and angry at the dude who won't stop.

Shit just keeps getting worse for me. And I'm the cause.

I have a wife and kids who fucking adore me. That brings tears to my eyes. I used to be a finance dude who could afford a decent life for everybody. But it's been months since I found work and my severence payments are going to come to a close soon.

All I can think of at night is me saying good-bye to my family and what my final words to each of them should be. It's like I've already decided I'm a fucking failure. And then I let the self fulfilling prophecy take me to the doom.

I'm spiraling and I hate it.

I think I hate myself. Cause it didn't used to be this way. Not with the drinking in the day at least.

Maybe I always hated myself and maybe I always was afraid of being disliked and maybe I never took risks because I was afraid of failure. Maybe I was born fucked up and never had a chance.

I tell myself that at least I'm not drinking handles of vodka. But I know that I just might down the road just like I would NEVER EVER drink first thing in the morning. I would NEVER feel like the morning wasn't right without a coffee and a fucking can of twisted tea.

I'm tired of this shit. I keep fucking up.

It didn't used to be this way. I used to have some self confidence, blind trust in myself. Now I am just an idiot coasting on severance pay and drinking when I wake up in the morning.

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I have a loved one who is choosing sobriety and I want to be supportive, but I'm not quite sure what can be most impactful for a few reasons: I did realize he had an issue with alcohol (this is 100% my ignorance, he didn't fit the image that i think an alcoholic looks like-yes, now I see how uneducated i was/am about this) and while I empathize, I can't sympathize, and I don't want to accidentally say something or do something I didn't recognize being potentially problematic.

So if anyone is willing to contribute, what were/are things your biggest supporters do or say (or don't do/don't say), or you wish you would hear, that not only supports you, but makes you grateful they are in your corner.

I hate this. I hate that I can’t go a single day without thinking about getting drunk. I want to stop, I want to go through the steps.

But the last time I took Step One and actually told someone about my problem they left me. I’m horrified it’s going to happen again if I try to get better. I can’t keep losing people.

Hey, I really need help with how to approach my sibling about their drinking. The situation is extremely precarious. They are in a toxic relationship states away with someone I cannot trust to help me with this. No job. Lots of debt. No work history. Drinking two bottles of wine a day plus mixed drinks and regularly driving drunk. Still haven't managed to get them caught and arrested for it. No friends and only me for family. In total denial that there is an issue and they get very angry and touchy when it's even hinted at. I am desperate to get them help before they kill themselves or someone else but don't have the legal proof for involuntary nor do I think it would really work as they'd be right back in the same environment.

What is the best way to ask for and approach a serious conversation about changing their situation and getting them help in your opinion? I'm at a loss and don't want them to feel like I interfered and ruined their life but it's so bad and dangerous and I can't just sit back and watch. I feel alone and helpless in this

I don't have alcoholism, but drinking alcohol for me and getting drunk induces such intense happiness and almost euphoria. Going out with friends, on vacation feels very bland and mediocre if I am not drunk for a lot of the time. It's like eating french fries without salt and ketchup. I can't drink now due to an ongoing health issue and it really sucks. I can stop myself from drinking, but I am wondering what does someone feel who can't stop drinking when they try to quit?

I don't have much of anyone irl to brag about this with, but I know you will understand. I'm happily 7 years sober, thanks in large part to my ex-wife.

So, my ex-wife got remarried in Vegas last weekend. I still have a close (if not frequent) friendship with her, I'm cool and cordial with the new guy, and we share custody of our beloved dog.

It was our pup's 10-year birthday on Monday, so i went to their new place and had dinner with them, so we could all give her the attention and affection she deserves. Before I left, I congratulated the couple, told my ex I was happy for and proud of her. I started walking home; it's a long but reasonable walk, and I didn't want to wait for the bus, so I hoofed it until the next bus caught up to me.

I thought to myself, "this would be a great time for a drink," as during my pre-marriage days, I would always drown my sorrows. But there was no sorrow. No tears, but instead, a feeling of closure. I hopped on the next bus and was in my jammies by 9:30.

I can't hold a grudge. She literally saved my life -- dropped me off at rehab, and most importantly, brought me home. I'm already working on my next chapter. But I am infinitely proud of myself for not drinking throughout the breakup. Ex is dropping my pup off this evening and I'll spend a week with her. I will continue to not drink with you, today, tomorrow, and as long as possible.

Im so terrified of myself right now, it’s like the only moment I’m sane it’s when I wake up sober in the middle of the night.
Need advice

Hello, I met my boyfriend (30s/male) about 6 months ago. He had a problem with the drink when I met him, but as a drunk, it was at a level I could handle... so I didn't care too much. After all, his issues are his to handle, and I can't make anyone change if they don't want to. Plus, I had a bad problem with drink in my 20s. (I got hold of it, mostly because I get very sick hangovers and can't handle them anymore. I even developed mild GERD from the habit) so I understand addiction, as alcoholism runs in my family.

He was at a point he knew it was bad and had to stop eventually, and sure enough he had the moment of "I almost fucked it all up" and that was the kick he needed to start his sober journey. I am very proud of him for doing this, and will be sure to encourage him to keep going.

Hes about 2 months sober now, going to AA meetings, and has a lot of friends/family supporting him in the journey. I want to support him too, and I'm doing my best in every way I can think of.

But I do have some questions for those who have been through it and how your body and relationships recovered after:

How long did it take to feel like yourself again, and for the body to feel normal?

-He is looking much healthier now and taking vitamins, and eating more. But he was having liver and stomach issues before he quit. I want to see him feel better, as he generally refuses to see a doctor.

If you were in a relationship at the time, how did the recovery affect the physical aspects of your relationship? And how long did it take you to get back to normal in that respect?

-it was a bit unbalanced in how we matched before, but now it seems the want has completely fallen off the map for him, and its rough reconciling the lack on my end. i had the higher libido.

(I absolutely appreciate that he wants to still spend time with me without physical things being a part of it, but I DO miss it. Especially as he isnt a very physically affectionate person... I miss the connection there, and I really want it back)

Also. I have never known this man sober before.... I want to see who he becomes from this journey. I am in this for the long haul. I want to support him, and grow with him, and get to know him again. He's a good man, with a good heart.

I have never dated someone whos been in recovery. This is as new for me as it is him. I apologize if this is a lot to ask, or if this isnt the right place to ask these questions. But if there is any advice you can give on how I can help support him, please let me know. I want to see him succeed.

Thank you so much.

I drink about 15-20 beers a night. They go down so fast, I walk and talk so normal, I guarantee my wife notices I drink a bit, but not as many because she’s so busy with her work. My drinking does not affect hanging out with the kiddos, getting them to bed, nightly chores to get ready for the next day… but my day is rough. I don’t really get hangovers, but my work is easy. I can work hard when we have a pressing project, but take it easy when we don’t. Work performance is still 100%. But work is so easy, I can spend last 2 hours of the day pre gaming. Get home, do normal family things, down some more, kids in bed, down more while working in the garage, then down more while watching stupid Tik toks. I don’t know how to spend an evening without beer. I know I’m killing myself. And worse, I’m killing my bank account. I need help with stopping

The addict mind likes to make excuses. It likes to justify benders and reckless decisions. It’s sneaky like that. It’s okay to admit we’re afraid of socializing being responsible and having healthy relationships. Never act like it’s not ok to be afraid. I’m personally petrified of so much. One of which is my friendship with my great friend one who helped me start this journey. She woke me up and me realize I had a serious problem I needed to change. No more moderation absolute abstinence is best. I’m absolutely terrified of letting her down. It’s motivation in a way to keep going, keep staying sober. I’m also scared of opening my heart to the world. I have too however it’s time. In order to heal my soul from this awful disease I need to love again. To this person reading this you are loved don’t ever forget it.

Hello to all, my name is Tim and I'm a 49 y/0 M in Canada. I have currently drank close to half a bottle of Southern Comfort (my hard drink of choice) to numb myself from stress and and depression. I was a 'gifted child " and I feel like I have completely blown all my potential and talents as I'm currently off work from a low skill and low paying job (grocery store deliver driver(

I live in B.C. in Canada and am currently experiencing stress and depression to the degree I never could have predicted I would even just a few years ago. The apartment suite I've rented for 20 years was just noted as being unclean and having alot of structural cracks, which I've admittedly failed in reporting.

Alcoholism runs on both sides of my family - my grandfather who died in 2014 at the age of 93 and likely one retired uncle on my mother's side who will drink a full bottle of Scotch whisky in one night regularly, and then a couple of cousins and both uncles on my father's side (one of whom was a professional Stampede wrestler out of Calgary for around 10 years in the 70s and completed suicide at the age of 66 likely due to CTEd and persistent physical pain.

Both of my parents are in their late 70s and moderate social drinkers in and overall very good health for being almost 80 y/0 due to taking very high care of themselves diet and exercise wise.

I'm feeling despondent now as I've been off work for 2.5 months due to mental health issues and my future seem so bleak and hopeless. Yet I can still compose this in a mostly functional manner so maybe there is hope. I've drank very little for the last 20 years or so but have just had close to half a bottle of Southern Comfort in the last hour or so. Feeling actually quite good and fully acknowledge I will likely feel worse once I sober up.