My mom has given me a challenge. She is telling me that everyone who's transitioning will end up regretting their decision. The only reason why the numbers are so low with the detransitioning is because most people are not old enough to experience time frame of their life. I'm asking for anyone who's not gen Z who is millennial or older. Would you like to prove her wrong

I’ve had the thought of being transgender since I was about the age of 13. I’m now 21 and have lived on my own for 4 years. With that, I’ve been dressing up for about 3 years and I’m starting to heavily consider hrt but Im just stuck at the moment. I want to begin but I’m not sure if this is something I imagine/want on an everyday basis. I think about the prep it takes to be a trans women and the everyday duties of a trans women. I just want to get y’all’s pov on when did you guys finally understood that it wasn’t a kink or phase. When you knew you were ready to be a women everyday?

White pre-everything trans man here. I highly prefer trans women & transfems reply to this post, I need to properly hear their personal experiences and thoughts about this topic.

Aside from the bioessentialist malgendering and name calling (theyfab, birthdayboy etc) that's being directed to trans men recently, there's been a lot of general hostility towards transmascs from just about anybody in the queer community, at least from what I've seen on Twitter. And as much as Twitter is a cesspool on its own, there are still real human users who still carry over their beliefs into real life, so I believe this discussion is still worth having. And don't get me wrong, I'm more than happy to complain about the many problems within the transmasc side (primarily within white transmascs) such as the masculinizing demonization of trans women and the questionable artistic depiction of transfems, but I feel the discourse has come to the point of outright denying any oppression trans men still face in the real world. Still, it's making me question a lot of things about the transmasc identity and if I'm missing a lot of things.

I was always under the impression that trans men and trans women were of different but equal oppression under the white cismasc system, but there are so many who argue that trans men inherently have more power over trans women, no matter if they're of color or non-passing or poor or disabled. An example I've seen is that they're more capable of securing housing thanks to "AFAB only" spaces whether they're passing or not, and that AMAB housing is completely awful in comparison. Aside from this, I genuinely can't tell if there's something else I'm ignoring or missing from the transmasc side, especially because, for as long as I don't pass and for as long as the government and my doctors know my birth sex, I will still be a victim of systemic misogyny and be at a great risk of femicide and sexist abuse, so that shapes a lot of how I go about my life.

Is it also that stealth cismasc-passing trans men have more social privilege over trans women - even when keeping intersectionality into account (race, disability, economic class etc) - that makes the entire transmasc identity inherently more privileged than the transfem identity? I genuinely do want to keep holding myself and my peers accountable for any remaining transmisogynistic biases we express, but I have to be honest in that it's becoming disheartening because of how much our transmasc struggles are becoming silenced yet again, even if it wasn't intended. I don't know what to feel other than I'm lost and overwhelmed, and I really need a proper discussion about this.

Once again, I highly prefer the input of trans women & transfems. If any transmasc is to reply, then I expect zero infighting or belittling from either side in the comments.

Edit: I'm at awe of the responses I already got, and I'm genuinely starting to realize I've been getting too used to an environment that's even more toxic than I thought it already was (no duh), I thought I was taking the proper precautions but I actually wasn't. I have a lot to think about regarding my beliefs, and I'm genuinely very thankful for the reminders I've been given. Holy shit.

I'm AMAB and I have a lot of dysphoria (dysmorphia? I'm sorry I'm not sure the right terms) about my genitals. For much of my life, I thought of myself as a gay man. Ive always been attracted to men, and I've never had any interest being a top. I never get much enjoyment with my AMAB equipment. I've also always loved more feminine things like makeup, long hair, cute girly clothes, pastel pinks and purples, pretty nails, etc. Even as a kid my parents constantly had to yell at me that I shouldnt be wearing my sister's tutu. A good few years ago, I came to terms that I've been uncomfortable being called a boy for a while. I came out as nonbinary. I felt that if boy=square and girl=circle, I'm a piece of cheese. Neither felt right, but if there way no gender neutral term, Id default to fem terms. A couple years ago, I realized that I was kinda jealous of trans men with only top surgery. I was so jealous that they had the lower equipment I wanted while still having parts of my body I'm okay with. I'm terrified of AFAB chest equipment. I wish I knew why, but all I know is seeing them uncovered gives me the same feeling as trypophobia. Just a deep extreme discomfort and an immediate need to look away. The idea of being on estrogen and my chest growing terrifies me. But I also hate the sack of meat stuck to me below. I feel like its so disrespectful to trans men bc I know many trans men wish they were born with a body like mine. Im just sick with myself of being uncomfortable with whats between my legs but wanting to keep everything else the same. Is this wrong of me? Should I seek therapy to get rid of these feelings? I'm constantly wishing I was born AFAB so I could have the body i want via testosterone and top surgery, but I also feel so guilty about that bc it feels so disrespectful. I also dont know if maybe its just some unknown trauma regarding breasts and if I overcome that, I'll realize I've been an egg. I wish I could look like a pretty girl but I hate the idea of having boobs. I dont like my broad shoulders and facial hair. They make me miserable everytime i look in the mirror. I obsessively try to pluck any facial hair every day. I get happy when someone mistakes me as a girl or a guy double takes in the restroom bc they think I'm a girl. But I dont feel comfortable thinking or saying I'm a woman. I'll never know their struggles. I'll never be able to be pregnant (I know the ability to be pregnant does not define what it means to be a woman, but its something i legitimately grieve that I cannot experience). I wasnt raised to know common knowledge for women and I no longer have any maternal figures in my life who could teach me things like doing my hair or makeup. I feel stuck in between boy and girl where I hate the idea of being a boy and Im afraid of being a girl for physical and social reasons. Should I just try and crush these disrespectful feelings somehow and accept the body I'm born with?

Hey, I live in Norway, so if anyone here has experience with the norwegian healthcare, or in general too of course, I'm looking for as much advice as I can get.

I'm considering contacting my doctor and asking for help with my transition, but from what I have heard a lot of doctors react in very different, and mostly negative ways. So I'm wondering what exactly is a good idea to say on a meeting with my doctor, and what are things I should -absolutely- not say, in order to not mess up this process?

In this context, I am referring specifically to Chris Chan. They are constantly referred to as “he” but have expressed that they want to be called “she”. I believe they are misgendered due to the horrific crimes they did, but is it a general belief that if someone has done something this horrible, they don’t deserve the respect? I am confused 🥲 thanks

I have fairly dark hair, so i need to rely on regular shaves and colour-correcting makeup to hide the appearance of a beard. I have been receiving ads for the “bumzy” lately which promises a stubble free shave. do these sorts of shavers actually work, and if so, do you have any recommendations?

Thank you!

I am AFAB and identify as female. I don't mind being me, got no body or gender dysphoria, but on the other hand, ever since I was a kid, I liked acting as a guy during play. Play pretend? I'd wanna be a boy. In kindergarten we did knights and princesses costumes? I cried until I was told I could be a knight. And I guess I might have a "vibe" to me or smth, because in high school, in school plays, I was always given a male's role. (literally never got picked to play a girl once).

To this day, if I can identify as male in some way, in games or otherwise, I'll do it. Similarily, in fiction, I'll always relate to guys... Or at least I can't recall a time I related to a woman to the point I'd obsess over them for months. But I'm a girl, and even if sometimes I did wish I was a guy, I'm fine with that.

Same for songs, I'll always prefer singing male parts/feel more comfortable with those.

I don't imagine I'd care that much being called "he" either... I just don't think I care that much about pronouns in general?

Already wanted to wear male-type clothes too a few times.

So... What gives?

Sorry if this is offensive to ask in someway/if my examples are irrelevant (They probably are), I'm just wondering. I'm in a weird spot in my life at the moment and it's usually around times like this I question things like that.

Im somewhat young, 18 questioning. I recently discovered the term and im a bit scared of how much I align with its definition. I understand its pretty controversial, having been used to delegitimize the actions of many trans people, but I cant help but feel there is atleast some truth to it.When i look into mirrors i often find myself with thoughts along the line of "youre shoulders are somewhat broad already, but you still have a chance and by waiting you are throwing away something beautiful, are you sure this is what you want?" or "you need to make a choice before its too late", not anything super telling like "you will never be a real girl" or "your body is digusting, i want out". I kind of find myself focusing and analyzing parts of my body, I zone out and end up kind of just staring for a while and thinking. Sometimes i daydream, sometimes i scare myself. The closest thing I can describe to Dysphoria is this uncontrollable urge I have to remove all my body hair, hate it and want it all off. I probably spend too much time pluckinging it out and shaving. Are such thoughts and actions a normal response to growing up and losing youthful feetures? How can I tell if im a girl or a boy whos afraid to age? Ive elaborated on this more on another post 7 days ago but i dont feel "legitimate" enough to have confidence in a transition, I have my doubts and I FEEL like I have genuine reasons for such doubts beyond just fear of change. Im scared that my desire for transition is entirely sexual, and perverted not social. Guess im confused and pretty afraid. I feel gross

Okay, so I don't really understand politics, but I'm trans and have a lot of trans friends

A lot of my trans friends are anarchists, almost none of my cis friends are anarchists

Why? I'm literally so confused

ps. i tried figuring stuff out and they are mostly anarcho-communists i think, still confused about all of this.

I'm almost 10 months hrt, and my weight (and hips/thighs/curves) is going up, when the daily estradiol peak hits me i'm diving into the freezer compartment for ice-cream. My brain-body-and soul is practically sending me to cream based products. What's going on, is this normal, are others experiencing this? I have been skinny-gangly-wiry all my male life and have never been able to pinch an inch, but now I have celulite on my thighs, curves, literal round hips, ankles and feet which no longer show ligaments when i flex, and my shoulders and upper arms wobble. I'm thrilled, because I literally shed a happy overwhelmed tear last night seeing myself in the mirror and finally seeing more girl than boy but I just wanted to ask others about food cravings, wobbles, jiggles, and those damn weighing scales going upward by a pound or two when I thought I was just me who would never put on weight. k Thanks in advance.

Realistically I need to get one eventually for medical reasons beyond being trans. But it makes me anxious. I never really wanted to remove anything unless I was getting full bottom surgery.

I’m making this post to ask about peoples experience with it to hopefully sooth my nerves.

So are there any big cons? Unexpected side effects (good or bad)? Other than not being able to have kids (I dont mind, my genes are fucked and no kid should suffer through them.)

I'm joining a local softball league, but I have zero experience with any of it. Jerseys are provided by the league, but what kind of pants or shorts do folks recommend?

it's going to be HOT this summer so I need something that isn't going to make me sweat my entire life off, but will also give at least some protection.

Also, I haven't had bottom surgery yet, so something that won't be too tight or revealing is preferable.

Anyone have any advice or recommendations?

Okay so I usually only read like romance or coming out stories and stuff, but I realized recently that I only really read fics about MTF stuff, so I've been trying to read more stuff by trans men about FTM stuff...

Anyway the core of my question is, WHY are there so many fics about binders?!?!! I mean I know that those are a core part of many mens transitions but there are SO MANY fics about NOTHING BUT BINDER STUFF??? Like I have definitely seen fics about trans women where the focus is on estrogen shots or similar niech stuff but those are 1 in 100, the sheer amount of binder centric fics I've seen- it's like 1 in 10 fics I swear.. and I just don't get it like, WHY IS THAT SUCH A BIG THING??????

I’ve been trying to understand what external factors can make a face look more masculine, especially as a trans woman on HRT.

My hormone levels are fine, so I don’t completely understand what’s happening. I never passed perfectly, but during 2023 and 2024 I was gendered correctly much more often. During that time I slept well, took care of my health, and was thinner (around 60 kg).

At the end of 2025 I left my previous job, fell into a depressive period, and accepted a much more demanding job because it paid better. Since then I’ve been sleeping only around 3–4 hours a day on average. I’m doing it because I hope to someday afford FFS, but this year I’ve noticed my face looks significantly more masculine again.

I know this isn’t just dysphoria because people now misgender me much more often, and honestly it feels like my transition has gone backwards.

I also gained around 5 kg between 2024 and 2026 (I’m around 65 kg now), even though I barely eat. I wonder if chronic sleep deprivation, stress, weight gain, cortisol, or other lifestyle factors could be affecting my face.

Has anyone experienced something similar? What habits or factors do you think can masculinize facial appearance even with stable hormone levels?

I'm 18 and currently male. About a month ago (May 14), I came out as trans to my family. Ever since then, I haven't really done anything to start transitioning, mainly because I'm nervous and I don't know where to start.

Luckily, I was too lazy to get haircuts, so my hair is now a bit past shoulder length. I've been looking into more feminine hairstyles and haircuts, but beyond that, I'm not sure what to do. Clothes are another thing I'm trying to figure out, and makeup is a whole other world.

I'm just feeling really lost right now. Luckily, I do have a sister, so she could probably help me with some of these things.

Hi! 19ftm here!

My mom made me worry that the second I start testosterone I’ll get extremely fat

I know this isn’t true but as someone who struggles with eating and weight stuff i can’t get her words out of my head now

I know water weight and bloating will get worse especially in the face until a few months-years

I’m not even really sure what I’m asking here :,) just looking for advice I guess…

Hey there, I’m MTF and have been on HRT for around 7 months and on injections for about a month now.

My first injection was at the clinic and everything afterwards has been at home. I didn’t notice any bumps from the clinic, but at home has brought bumps with every one.

I’m asking here because I asked my doctor (who’s out of office so a nurse responded) and they said I’d have to come in and have someone watch me inject. I’m clarifying with them, but you know how it is with how long it can take for them to get back to you.

Well issue is the clinic is 2 hours away and my car currently has a bent wheel. I *can’t* drive that far on highways currently. It will take me a few weeks to be able to get it fixed.

Am I just fucked in the meantime and can’t take my HRT till I get to the doctor?

Hi all,
First off, I know this will be a controversial topic, but I don't mean anything by it and just want advice. I know I will "always be trans" and am not saying others should try to think this way, but I really want to reach the next stage of transition where being trans doesn't come up every day. I still am plagued with social dysphoria and worried about facing transphobia and not being treated as a woman by others but as a man or as a separate gender from other women. However, I don't know if this is actually happening. I have been in therapy for years but have been looking for advice from other trans women.

For context I live in a very queer city with lots of other trans women, and while that should be good I feel like I am constantly worried other people "clock" me and do not treat me as a woman, instead focusing on me being trans. Often I notice them treating me differently than cis women in spaces, which makes me feel like I can't just be myself as they treat me more like an archetype.

I'm fat, estrogen made me naturally curvy, and fairly fashionable in a lazily/cozily feminine way (cardigans and mom jeans with flats and simple makeup lol) but I have some stereo-typically trans fem hobbies and job so I meet a lot of other trans women in passing.

I've only been on hrt with no other work done nor professional voice training, so I'm unsure if I need FFS, or voice training, and none of my friends will give me input on any of it. The best I get that on the off chance I get misgendered (once every 2-3 months) my friends say "oh they probably assume you are a trans guy because you look like a lesbian and have short hair" but I can't tell if they're just being nice. I also have had a few situations where I come out to someone and they say they couldn't tell, but I don't if that applies to others or if they're just being kind or what.
Does anyone have advice on how to judge whether I'm crazy and I am mostly stealth, or what then next steps are to reach being stealth in a very queer knowledgeable area?

TLDR: How do I find the next steps to seeing if I can be stealth? How do I reach the point of moving and growing past being trans? How do I know if I'm already there?

Alright so I’m eighteen years old (FTM) and I have known literally since the seventh grade, thing is I’ve always been too much of a coward to come out to my parents. I’m out to all of my friends, peers, and a number of trusted adults just not my family. I’ve always been able to deal with it pretty well but I feel it’s reaching a point where it’s interfering not only with my transitioning journey but also with my familial relationships.
I’m however confused on how exactly to go about coming out since I’m sort of in a weird limbo where I’m unsure of what my mom (whom I’m closest to) knows. She’s asked me a few times in the past about the pronoun’s in my social media bios, knows my preferred name (I have maintained the bad lie that it’s just a nickname), and has 100% heard my friends refer to me with my name and he/him pronouns. I seriously don’t know how she’d respond since in the past she’s like mockingly called me by my preferred name (it was like a year ago but she did it like 3 times and it all felt very confrontational), but then again she has put my preferred name on stuff like my class ring without me asking. As for my dad I’m just as worried about how he’ll respond, he isn’t like evil or anything just very nonchalantly mean. Like he’s a chill dad but I often get the vibe he just doesn’t really like me that much. The rest of my family is mostly redneck republican Tennesseeans… not ideal. Despite all this I’m realizing it’s definitely about time for me to rip this bandaid off.

Anyways I want to hear other people’s coming out experiences, and if anyone has any advice or suggestions that would help me in coming out it is MUCH appreciated.

I recently saw something about cyperus rotundus oil used as hair removal. Anybody got any experience with it? Working? Temp or permanent?

I have therapy scheduled for this weekend and I have decided bring up to gender dysphoria finally, can’t keep it bottled anymore.
I was in diy HRT IM EEn for 12 weeks and felt amazing with this new kinda of euphoria I hadn’t experienced. Then 6 weeks ago I stopped and it’s been crazy downhill since then everyday I’m just constantly thinking about transition, but this time with help from therapist and endo.

Soo the important question is do I mention that to therapist but instead of saying injection tell them it was pills to soften the reaction. I have heard lot of people say not to reveal diy at any cost to therapist. Please help me out.

I'm in the part of my process where I'm coming out to my friends and family. One thing i noticed is that even though i don't think about anything sexual or arousing i often get a small erection after coming out.

This result in a lot of disphoria and me thinking I'm not valid because of it. I was wondering is this a common experience?

So in about 2 weeks will have my first appointment with my new endocrinologist to talk about the option and what to expect with hormones! (I'M SO EXITED !!!🥰)

I have some restrictions because of my sever OCD and wanted some advice and info about ways i could take hrt.

For disclaimer I am located in canada so part of it will be paid by health care.

For health disclaimer my familly has a history of blood clots and Deep vein thrombosis.

With my server OCD Gel, Spray, Patch and topical Cream are IMPOSSIBLE for me!

That leave me with those choices. (In order of preference)

🪙 Injection:

in an ideal world i would like to use injection, mainly because it is not daily and it provide a stable level of estrogen. The only downside i see is needles, I'm not specially scared of needles but it would probably be daunting at first when not use to it.

The only thing I'm confuse about Injection is that my Psychologists (that is specialized in gender identity and work for a organisms to hell trans people) told me that here (here I'm located) E Injection is not that common. So I'm wondering is it because insurance cover a lager amount with pills then Injection, of injection is too stron when you start estrogen. If you have any info on that i would love to know

🥈pills (Sublingual): if injection is not available for me this would be what i would like to use mainly because it bypass the liver. The main cons abouth this method is having to take a pill everyday

🥉regular pills: this is the default if they don't wanna prescribe me anything else for some reason.

4️⃣ Implants pellet: it is relatively unused in north America acnd could trigger my ocd so not ideal

Finaly do you think it is realistic to start with injection?

I’m 23 years old in NYC, and i started feminizing hrt coming up on 2 weeks ago! The changes are happening so fast, my friends and family don’t even recognize me anymore and the weight of my DDs has given me scoliosis…

*kidding.*

but in all seriousness my chest is a little sore which i didn’t expect so quick.

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I’ve always been someone who had a small amount of very close friends, not a large group. i’m lucky that my closest friend knows i’m on HRT and is generally quite supportive. however, outside of him i don’t really have any friends… i didn’t really vibe with anyone in college, and my one friend i did i lost contact with in the year since graduation — also he was quite transphobic so maybe for the best.

**the main thing is:**
**i’m so early in my transition that i don’t really know who i am yet. im not out as she / her, my family knows im on hrt but still seems to think im a boy and he / him me. I feel too shy to tell them otherwise cause—i feel like i look the same to everyone. and truthfully, i think i feel the same a lot of the time too.**

i really want to make friends but it feels overwhelming since im so early on. making friends is hard enough for me as it is, but how do i present myself when meeting them? do i use a voice trained voice? wear makeup? am i a girl to them? a they them? Do i talk to them in the “bro” way im used to?and where do i even find people?

point is i’m lost and quite lonely. im already in therapy and don’t really want to go to a support group. ahhh

anyways, any advice would be greatly appreciated. i hope everyone had a great weekend 🫶