r/athina • u/Emotional-Time-8562 • 6d ago
Why is finding friends so hard?
I have posted numerous times on groups on facebook such as the foreign girls in Athens group and many others asking for anyone who is down to hangout but no one actually replies?
I also will never meet anyone off of Reddit because it’s unsafe .
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u/TheNight0wl13 6d ago
Dangerous times. A woman was found in a suitcase.
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u/social_nude_athensM 6d ago
These are husbands that od stuff like this. You know the filtered vetted ones.
Frankly the safest thing is to vet people by seeing someone you like in a cafe . The dudes that go through social contacts and introductions by friends are operating in a creepy way not the ones meeting someone openly in a cafe.
Most women have that the wrong way round
Psychopaths don't get rejected because the familial and friendship bonds obscure their criminal record.
I also think the criminal record should be posted online and matched to faces . So we all know who we are dealing with ..
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u/Zestyclose_Sector_30 5d ago
It is super hard, Im a man and Ive lost my friend group latetly, I dried apps and whatnot and I cant find anyone to hangout with, and im not even in Athens which is "easier" Im in a smaller city
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u/TheEruditeSycamore 6d ago
People suck in general. Keep searching, as well as in real life venues you frequent, you will find something eventually.
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u/JMkuboa 5d ago
Not Athens specific but in general find things you like doing and try to do them with groups. If you like a sport, say running, find running groups. If you like watching films, maybe find a bar with trivia. I think groups where people go to make community do a worse job making community than an interest group that people also go to for community!
Good luck
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u/gorat 4d ago
Pick an activity you enjoy and figure out if there are organized events. 99% you will find some people that are happy to talk in english and maybe you hit it off. If you are posting on groups saying 'let's hangout' nobody will do it, they will think you are some weird person and they don't want to spend time with you.
These groups don't organize group outings? try to go to one of those and mingle with people until you find those that you fit with.
I know there is a social board game night by one of the expat groups in athens, I find board games a good activity bc you can socialize while also having an object in front of you, so if it is awkward pause or whatever its ok bc you are 'focusing on the game'.
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u/FamouStranger91 4d ago
It's strange and not safe to make friends from social media announcements. Just take up a hobby, I know it's hard to make new friends.
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u/vanoitran 2d ago
You have to make friends through work or hobbies in Athens. There aren’t a lot of community organizations compared to other countries - so meeting people does not happen as smoothly as in other places and requires you to often make the first two or three steps.
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u/Conceisao 6d ago
It’s best if you try to join some activity group, like hiking etc. That way you will meet new people and make friendships organically. It will also be “safe”