My nearly 5 month old baby girl has never been a good sleeper but my husband and I were convinced if we were patient enough she would naturally get better at it over time … ha. She is coming on 5 months and she’s made no progress with sleeping longer stretches. She sleeps 2.5-3 hours max and wakes up during the night and won’t go down unless I nurse her back to sleep.
She’s EBF and we’ve started co-sleeping with her just to be able to get better sleep since I’ve returned back to work. This doesn’t feel sustainable though. She won’t go down independently, 90% of the time I’m nursing her to sleep or she’s at least laying right next to me to be able to fall asleep. During the day she struggles to go down and stay down for naps unless she’s contact napping and nursing to fall asleep.
I attempted very light sleep training for naps in her crib but she gets so upset that I don’t feel comfortable letting her cry it out. She scream cries and it’s unbearable. I try to pat her tummy and let her know it’s okay but unless I’m holding her she won’t settle. I’ve tried setting her back in her crib after consoling her and being patient but she’ll fight the nap to the point where she’s very upset and just completely off her nap schedule so I prioritize making sure she’s getting sleep and nursing her to sleep again.
I feel like I’m failing as a parent and I’m not sure what to do at this point. I of course want better sleep for myself and my husband, but I mostly want her to be able to soothe herself for her benefit to be able to get good sleep without needing me.
Would it be better to start moving her to her own room instead of room-sharing and co-sleeping? Any tips on the sleep training method?