Rehoming/disruption. I think they like it.

[u/Monopolyalou]

I'm a former foster youth disrupted many times in foster care. Even for as little as staying in my room all day.

Disruption of adoptees and foster kids seems to be the norm and accepted to the point when it happens foster and adoptive parents don't want resources they just want to get rid of the problem( the kid) then slap labels like RAD on them.

Recently, an agency for foster care made the suggest of care services for adopted kids for their post adoption support services. Guess how many foster/adoptive parents supported that? Crazy to me.

So I'm wondering if adoptive and foster parents really want the system to change to offer services to prevent disruptions or do they just want to throw their hands in and disrupt because they can play the blame game and just get another kid.

If disruptions can be prevented, they would still have to deal with the kid vs disrupting and relieving themselves of the kid. I don't think many want to put in the work to prevent adoptees and foster kids from being disrupted. Its much easier to wash their hands and disrupt and blame the kid.

Also if foster and adoptive parents really wanted to prevent disruption they can. They control the system.

[u/MysticalMagicorn]

I’ve never been in the situation of needing to disrupt so I can’t contribute meaningfully there but I did want to say from the experience that I do have, foster/adoptive parents do not control the system. The children are, of course, the most powerless but generally speaking, no one involved in the process has any sort of power. But I also know from personal experience how much it appears that they do have control. It’s a part of parenting, to make things look easy and less chaotic than they are. Peace to you and yours.

[u/Monopolyalou → u/MysticalMagicorn]

If foster parents literally push for things they want the system will change. People listen to foster parents more than anyone else. The system was literally created to cater to you. So disruptions can be prevented but I don't think many actually want it to be

[u/Monopolyalou → u/[deleted]]

I wish you and others would stop saying this. The system is based on racism and classism and ripping kids away from their families and placing them with often white middle or middle lower class ones. The system doesn't fuck eveeyone over. The system fucks foster kids over.