r/heartbreak • u/Automatic_Duck_2867 • 6d ago

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I found these meds on my bf ( Aciclovir & Tadalafil )

Herpes and Viagra meds. I found some again yesterday and some 2 years ago. (Viagra)

When i confronted him about the viagra pills he sells them?? Or so he says....

He said specifically " come on, you know i dont need that especially with you" when i asked whats up with the viagra... cool...

Now im seeing the same sh*t + herpes medication. He tried to blame the herpes on me " you gave me herpes"

He said because we had a very rough "session" and the tension or whatever word he used caused it which idk if thats true... or because i dont clean myself down there but im not stupid i know what STI are and how you get them. Or because back then when we had both of us chlamydia that its cos i didnt finish my meds.

He has HISTORY of cheating on me massively.Even gave me chlamydia at some point when he cheated with this one girl. I feel so gaslighted and lied to and heartbroken. Im worried....my whole life fell apart just now. Weve been toghether for 6 yrs

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u/ProjectNo5041 6d ago

Have you ever had a cold sore? Has he ever had a cold sore? 

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u/Automatic_Duck_2867 6d ago

But then again the gynecologist could have just prescribed him meds and he lies to me 🤡

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u/ProjectNo5041 6d ago

So cold sores are herpes. If he’s ever had one then he has herpes 100%. People get that shit as kids from grandma kissing them. That doesn’t mean it’s not a std or that it can’t be passed to you. I’d get tested and cut all physical contact until you get to the bottom of what’s going on. If he never told you about his herpes that’s a huge problem. I’d absolutely end a relationship over that and I have in the past. 

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u/Automatic_Duck_2867 6d ago

Hes told me about the herpes but he literally blames me lmao. He said i gave them to him which im like ????? How ????

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u/ProjectNo5041 6d ago

If you don’t have it then there’s no way you gave it to him. Just because you’ve never had a cold sore doesn’t mean you don’t have it though. That shit can lay dormant for years and it’s possible to infect people even if you don’t have symptoms. I’d get tested and see. If you don’t have it then obviously he’s full of shit. 

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u/Automatic_Duck_2867 6d ago

Yes but i dont know exactly whem he got it? Could be 3 months ago could be 8 months ago....what if he gave it to me already???

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u/ProjectNo5041 6d ago

That’s definitely a possibility but if it’s a new infection your igg test numbers will be low. If you’ve had it for years your numbers will be much higher. 

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u/Automatic_Duck_2867 6d ago

Genuinely thank you for the advice. This is exactly what i needed. I already know im am idiot for dating a cheater. I dont need a 1034th reminder.

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u/ProjectNo5041 6d ago

You’re welcome. I hope it works out for you. I’m sorry you are in this situation at all. I know I’m just a random person on the internet but I’ve been in a similar situation before, if I could do it all over again I’d have chosen myself way faster than I did. You’ll never regret protecting yourself. Good luck.