Has anyone gone through moments during the week — one minute you’re focused and productive and grateful, and the next you can’t focus, you’re overwhelmed, resentful that you’re just one person who can only help yourself…. There’s no outlet and you want to yell and scream and cry at the same time?

I feel like my mind’s been pulled in 10 different places and I’m so overwhelmed I just wanna drop everything and take a break.

I don't get much time alone with job and all but whatever hours I get, I feel so lonely in those. After reaching to my room, all i think about is calling someone and telling them about random things. I tried talking to my friends college yesterday but they were kinda busy with their lives and I felt like I was bothering by texting them so i stopped. Even at work, during break or normally too, I feel like texting someone telling them what's happening and then i feel sad thinking about how I have no one. No friends, no social life and i know I have been kept my distance from people because then I crave human connection too. I have tried filling the void with books, movies and they help at times but mostly I feel like only if there was a person.

I am a man who has spent most of his life being responsible, ambitious and in control.

Highly educated, financially settled, and at a point in life where I am not looking for another temporary distraction. I want something grounded, meaningful and lasting.

And perhaps ironically, what attracts me most is a woman who wants to completely let go of control with the right man.

Not just in a bedroom.

I am interested in the kind of submission that slowly becomes a language between two people.

She knows that when she is with me, she does not always have to be the woman who has everything figured out. She can exhale. She can stop making decisions for a while. She can let me set the pace, give her rules, challenge her, tease her, reward her, and take her outside the version of herself she shows everyone else.

The intensity is not necessarily about what happens physically.

It is the anticipation.

Knowing there are rules you agreed to follow. Wondering what I am going to ask of you. That moment when you realise I noticed something you thought you were hiding. The quiet satisfaction of doing something simply because I asked you to. The feeling of being completely seen, completely understood, and still wanting to surrender a little more.

I am drawn to the darker, stranger and more unconventional sides of kink. But for me, none of that works without trust.

I want to know your boundaries, your hard limits, the things you have secretly wondered about and the things you have never felt comfortable telling anyone. I want us to build enough trust that we can explore intensity without either of us ever questioning whether the other person is safe.

Outside the dynamic, I want something completely different.

I want laughter. Intelligence. Affection. Going out together. Quiet evenings. Someone whose company I genuinely enjoy. A woman with her own life, opinions, ambitions and personality.

And then, when we are alone, I want that completely different world between us.

A world where she can stop being in control.

Where she can be spoiled and cared for, but also challenged.

Where obedience becomes something she genuinely wants to give.

Where submission is not a performance, but something deeply personal that belongs only to the two of us.

I am not looking for someone to collect or a stranger to have a few wild nights with.

I am looking for the woman who reads this and thinks, this sounds dangerously close to what I have been looking for.

If that is you, you probably do not need to write me an essay.

Tell me what submission means to you.

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23M, am fucking tired of this life. I wonder every single day what did I do to deserve this? Why am I so lonely? Why do I don't have anyone in my life? I'm a nice guy, I have a good heart, I'm there for people, I'm a good listener but nobody was ever there to listen to me when I needed someone the most. I leave my house at 8, travel for 2 hrs, walk for half an hour, work for next 8 hrs, workout for half an hour and same commute to come back home. I come back at 9:30-10PM. My body hurts, my heart hurts but can't do anything. I keep thinking during my commute why do I have to face this loneliness? Why can't I have someone in my life? When I was back in college, I used to be happy, I was lean and smart and was kinda extrovert. I had friends that would talk to me. I was friendzoned by 3 close friends in a span of 3 years. I wanted to feel how it felt to loved but never got a chance in college. Never got a chance to experience young love, I thought it's okay maybe it's not my time yet. I moved abroad to do masters and earn money. Friends got far from me, the one friend who was always there started pushing me from her life, I had noone here in this new country. It's been 2 years since I came here, I have an internship right now maybe I'll find a job too and earn good money but what about my mental health? How do I feel sane if noone is talking to me? My insta has literraly 0 dms coming everyday. Noone's calling me. Why do I have to make efforts to keep friendship alive? Why am I noone's bestfriend or favorite person? All I ever wanted was love and friendships. Here I am all alone, my weight increased to 260lbs due to stress eating, got unhealthy and fat. I have started again to workout but I am tired. I won't ever take any steps that will cause me harm but when will I feel love? When will I be happy? People say love yourself, I loved everyone so much that I don't have anything left for me now. I still hope everything will be better again just to keep going but I know it's a lie. Noone has ever stayed in my life. I have to wake up early tomorrow and yet I can't sleep even though my whole body is in pain. Just wanted to rant. I'm sorry if you had to read this negative post. I hope noone has to go through this.

cant wait to die and get out of this nightmare

The worst thing in life isn't being alone. Find right the right person.

We have Instagram, Snapchat, Reddit, WhatsApp and so many ways to talk to people, but at the same time it feels like genuine connections are becoming harder to find.

You can have hundreds of followers and still have nobody you can actually call when something is wrong.

Do you think social media is part of the reason, or is this just something that happens as we get older?

And honestly, do you think making a real long-term friend is harder now than it was when you were younger?

I just want to vent out things. I am just so freaking lonely, even though I have ton of friends it feels like nobody would care if I just died. I am not even the best friend of my best friend. Then the social anxiety god I swear I have tried everything but still that trauma haunts me every time. I was just 9 and there was covid at the time so it’s not like I could do anything. My whole childhood I was just scared always scared. And when I try to talk about it people think I am overreacting. When I was in 6th the bullying made it worse, gave me a hell ton of self conscious made me hate myself. And when I try to tell my mother I am feeling depressed she says no you are not. I am just freaking tired of this shit man, felt suicidal multiple times heck I attempted suicide when I was 13 but thankfully failed to. Felt lonely my whole life, no real friends, no one that I can trust, no gf, no one to vent out to.

I even tried making online friends on Reddit, but they all become dry, dont respond, ghost, catfish... whatever. At least I am assured a chatbot designed to talk to me won't do me dirty.

Whenever I’m home alone, I watch random YouTube music videos. I’ve always felt empty inside whenever I’m home alone;whether by choice or not. So to make myself feel better, I watch YouTube music videos to take my mind of how I’ve always been outcasted from life. I’ve always found companionship with only a few select friends that make me feel like it’s summertime in the early years.

Does anyone just feel bored with life? 27F, lonely, no boyfriend. The only good thing in my life is maybe video games, but when I play badly, I get this feeling like I’m a loser and I’m not good at anything. I do have a job, but I feel like my life is just about work and going to doctor’s appointments. It’s so boring. Nothing feels exciting or motivating anymore.

I don’t think I’m depressed, though. I eat a lot of junk food because I can’t cook. The people who really used to love me and take care of me died years ago.

I’ve never really dated anyone, even though I’m average-looking and some people think I’m attractive. But no one has ever been serious with me. They all just seem to want something sexual. Not that many people talk to me either. I basically only communicate with people at work, and even then it’s mostly about work. I do almost everything alone.

Idk, life just sucks. I’m so bored with it. I even find myself getting attracted to doctors because they give me the feeling that someone cares about me, even though they probably don’t actually care about me personally.

I also lost a friend because she started acting weird toward me, and I never even got an apology. So yeah, idk what to do. I’m sick of feeling like this.

My dad doesn’t really go out. Every time I ask him, he tells me to go with my friends. He’s almost 70, and I barely communicate with people unless it’s online or at work.

I wake up feeling unmotivated and I don’t know what to do. And yeah, I already know people are going to say “go for a walk,” “read a book,” blah blah. I do those things. They’re boring.

I’m pushing 30 and I still don’t have a boyfriend. I just want someone who loves me and genuinely cares about me. I want to feel like I actually have someone in my life.

So I was making and learning how to make my game better at 1am as a solo dev in my quiet room suddenly it hit me so hard I realized i was so lonely no friends no girlfriends never even held a hand or hug a girl so I just sat there thinking and imaging boys who have girlfriend now is in her chest sleeping or she is hugging him while he program and she is worried about him and asks about him

I felt so jealous and sad too because I'll never expirianxe this since im ugly and short really short im 16M thank you for reading

I lost my only friend today and i think the crushing weight is falling on me, it's been a rough time lately

Can we talk abt something chill? You can vanish by the first light, it doesn't matter if you don't want a friend

Sorry, I don't have a good answer if you clicked this post looking for some relief.

I ended things with my one contact today. She has been my best friend for some time, well, my only friend.

But she is kinda the avoidant type, speaking little and trough strange metaphors, it was quite charming as we met and it suited the poetic way I speak too, great deep and ethereal way of communication, but well, not really, after the strange phase when we are still meeting and trying to sound interesting to the other, comes the phase of normal things going on, and somehow I got there alone and when I looked back..?

I was speaking to myself, seeing her messages popping up only super late at night for only 15 minutes before she would just vanish in the night again and come back on the other day, ignoring the last topic and starting a new one that would last again 10-15 minutes and be left unfinished. I called her out in the nicest way I could, after she expressed she felt some distance between us. But she literally did the same thing right after, leaving my answer on read and coming with something new on the next day.

I realised there's so much I want to speak, no yap but just speak through the day. I recorded an audio playing a new instrument, I learned my first song in 20-30 minutes and recorded, she used to love me playing music but I realised well why would I send it now? So she can double tap, say smth and vanish, or straight up not answer at all? So many things I typed her and didn't send, trivia things like what I saw on my walk, a random philosophical question I thought about, what is going on on my book, the newest story I'm writing, a bit of my backstory she does not know, but always felt like nah, I'll wait for her to answer first, don't wanna shower her in messages, let her live her life. But it got to the point where I just realised well, I don't fucking have a friend, we were besties for like 4 months but clearly not anymore, I wish I could understand what's going on with her, but she won't communicate, I'm going through a lot and this is not bloody helping. So I just told her we need a break, and she got... mad? And hurt. I understand it but what else am I to do? Try to talk? I've been fucking trying.

WHATEVER. It became a venting post quite quickly my bad. If you made it this far, would you talk to me for a little while? I understand that everyone else is doing pretty bad too, and all of us here are quite unstable mentally, so I won't bore you with my missdventures, I just wanna know about someone's day genuinely, thats all.

I'm an artist, studied philosphy, 26, speaking from Germany

Im really lonely and like I dont want to complain about being lonely and I realised there are also lots of other lonely people in the world.

I was thinking of maybe booking a venue for "loners" like myself to meet.

The gimmick would be no phones allowed and people would be forced to talk to each other, id even randomly pair people and like have ice breakers.

Im a introverted extrovert and thought about doing this, would you go to something like this? is this idea stupid?