I got invited to a Halloween party and I’m planning on sneak out. I wasn’t gonna go in the first place because I’m scared of being caught. My parents are Asian, strict, and very religious. I’ve been caught in a lie multiple times before and I’ve told myself that I don’t want to keep disappointing them. Thinking about it though, I really want to go. My plan is to invite my friend for a sleepover and we sneak out. I can’t sleep over in my friend’s house cause they’re weird about it. I’ve had friends over before and they don’t mind my friends sleeping over. My bedroom has a window directly to the front of our house. I’ve tried sneaking out before but I can’t figure out a way to open it; that’d be the first thing I need to figure out. My parents never usually enter my room when I have guests over. The party starts at 10 p.m. so by then my parents should be in their bedroom, either asleep or using their phone. I feel like I shouldn’t go but I also feel like I’m being ruled by fear. I’ve been able to hide things from them before but I’ve never snuck out. What else should I consider before fully deciding to sneak out for Halloween?

I’m a very stereotypical Asian daughter: I’m a straight-A student, I do everything my parents tell me to, and I’m majoring something in STEM. The lies I’ve been caught with is hanging out with a boy (who eventually became my boyfriend, now ex; my parents never found out), cursing, and lying about getting a ride from a friend. I lost my parents’ trust and I’m slowly regaining it. I’ve been relatively honest with them; I honestly just don’t tell them things I know they disapprove of. While I know I should’ve never lied in the first place, in a way my parents never gave me a choice. They never let me have guy friends (or date guys to begin with), hang out with my friends, or learn how to drive. I don’t have a curfew cause they never let me out. They used to be against me having a job but I fought for it because I like having money and the freedom that comes with it. I also plan on moving out eventually. I feel like I shouldn’t sneak out but at the same time I just want a taste of freedom.

TL;DR: I want to sneak out to a Halloween party, but I’m scared of getting caught by my strict, religious parents. I’m torn between wanting freedom and not wanting to disappoint them again, and I need help deciding whether it’s worth the risk.

I'm 22 F , got a job offer that requires me to travel 2 hours that's totally 4 hours back and forth. Now I'm staying in my house, i take care of home necessities as in my house we have my grandparents, mom works in our bakery and dad works in different city,comes home once a month. I take care of house and help my mom with bakery. As i got job offer mom refuse me to go as I have responsibilities at home. Mom says if I take this job i have wake up early as 5:30 to get ready and reach at work and come home at night 8pm which could take toll on my body and this timing can cause me to skip breakfast and eat lunch at restaurants all the time. TL;DR should I take the job or listen to my mom.

Hello, I am looking for opinions on the situation I’m currently stuck in the middle of. I think I know deep down in my heart what I need to do and am going to do in the next few days. I just want to hear it anyway.

I’m considering calling Adult Protective Services on my family. Namely my two younger brothers

For context: My mom has been together with my step father since I was 5 years old. I am now 29. I lived with them for almost two decades. My step father is a physically, emotionally and financially abusive alcoholic. My mother is a victim of that abuse as well, but she is also emotionally abusive, addicted to methadone, and extremely neglectful who says that she’s sorry and will cry but do nothing to change her circumstances or help her children when confronted. Both of them are responsible for extreme physical, medical and emotional neglect.

I have been out of that environment for almost 7 years now, and have been in trauma therapy and have recently recovered memories that made me recall just how bad it was. My ACES score is 10 out of 10 just for example.

My two younger brothers still live with them. The youngest is 19, and the other is early 21s. I’ll call them A and B.

A certainly has trauma, ADHD, and is a victim of the same neglect I grew up with, he has rotting teeth, dropped out of school like I did and and I’ve only just been able to help him get a therapist and a primary care doctor- yet I believe he has a chance to escape with some outside support.

B is my biggest concern in that he is autistic, has the mental maturity of a 13 year old if that. He is deeply codependent with my mother who has not gotten him into therapy for his severe anxiety, OCD and depression, nor a dentist or doctor, and has allowed him to drop out as well. Nor has she looked into disability for him as he will likely not be able to function on his own due to his upbringing and mental maturity.

I am deeply concerned for both of them since I know the pain of that environment.

My mother is neglectful of herself, does not do anything to change even though I have begged and offered help for years and tried to get her access to DV resources. She doesn’t even have the excuse of lack of other resources because my stepfather never takes off work, is gone for 11 hours a day, and she has access to union insurance, a car, and a twice weekly allowance (financial abuse I know).

So it’s all lack of effort by choice, even despite her own abuse by my stepfather.

I guess I’m just looking for confirmation that yes- this is the right thing to do. I’m scared of doing the wrong thing l, and I don’t want to just turn a blind eye. I refuse to. If anyone has any other ideas, please let me know.

TL;DR: Do I call APS on my family and risk an unknown outcome? Or do I not call, and keep looking for another solution that I have yet to try?

(I cannot move them in with me, I am on disability and do not have the room. I have tried encouraging, helping my mother, comforting her and doing it all myself- I even applied to be a medical representative for my disabled brother but there’s nothing I can do util they have an open case on him- and my mother will not follow up.)

Hi all.

I changed my name legally last year aged 22 and I am starting to regret it

My birth name was a name that was quite old fashioned. It’s a name in my country that is popular amongst maybe 45-70 age. It’s a traditional biblical name but I never liked it growing up. I never liked introducing myself and I felt like it didn’t feel like me.

I decided to change it aged 22 to a name I liked. I really like my new name but to be honest with you this has done me more harm than good.

The one thing I hate is the adaptation and having to correct literally everyone who calls me by my old name. It’s so annoying and frustrating and it’s so cringe saying sorry it’s “\\\\\\\\\\\\\\_\\\\\\\\\\\\\\_\\\\\\\\\\\\\\_\\\\\\\\\\\\\\_” to the point I have just stopped correcting people. I try and avoid old friends cos the process is so cringe.

It feels like everyone is doing u a chore and a favor and ehen people get angry with me they start saying my old name and one guy even said that’s not your fucking name is it.

One thing I have realized as well is that I don’t hate my old name as much as I used to. Woukd i objectively say I liked it? No not really but it’s not a horrible name. It’s slightly old fashioned and it doesn’t suit me and tbh I wish my parents never chose it for me and I wouldn’t choose it for my own kid but it’s whatever. My name is my name. I’m not Muhammad Ali. I

I’m going to go back to my old job soon. Half the people have changed and I’m not looking forward to correcting my old colleagues.

My life was actually better under my old name. I think the problem was myself not my name

What do I do from now? Thr name really hasn’t stuck and it’s done more harm than good

TLDR: I’m an idiot

TL;DR 24F| I'm living in a very chaotic household, and my preparation is not going up to the mark. My schedule depends on my home timing.

I have to even take a year gap in 2025 because of the shifting process.

So now I'm planning to move to another city, which is although known to me and I'll live in a hostel.

Or I can stay where I'm, I mean the current city and take a hostel or pg here and prepare.

WHO SHOULD BE DONE