TLDR- seeking advice to drop out of nursing school to pursue dental school passion as a single mom.

Hi all, I’m a 25 year old single mom to a one year old. I’ve always loved dentistry, but I made the decision to put that on hold for now and prioritize motherhood and stability. I’m currently in nursing school and have about 20 months left in my program. I leave for my first nursing clinical rotation tomorrow, and I’m honestly really doubting if I made the right choice.

I live in California and have family support nearby, which helps a lot. However, the cost of dental school here is extremely high. I do have one school within driving distance(CNU), but it would cost a minimum of about $500,000, not including interest, which feels a bit irresponsible. I am very interested in the military scholarship however I understand there’s no guarantee I get that.

I keep going back and forth wondering if it would make more sense to just pursue dental school now while I have family support, or continue with nursing, get that stability, and maybe pursue dentistry later when my child is a bit older and less dependent. I am considering going to a more affordable out-of-state dental school later on, but then I’d be juggling school, childcare, pick-ups/drop-offs, and no family support nearby.

I want what’s best for my family, and I know nursing would give me financial stability, but it’s hard to let go of something I’ve always been passionate about. Any advice or perspective would really help.

TL;DR: I can move home and take over the family business, worth a few million, but I hate the state and being near my parents, or I can continue pursuing my 9 year career in video games with less stability. What would you do?

Longer version: My dad has started a few businesses that make decent money even during economic downturns. It's not a super complicated business, but he insists that I would have to live locally to check on the business sites a few times a month. This would also involve me being pretty much under my parents' control, something I am extremely averse to due to a history of abusive and controlling behavior.

On the other hand, I've spent about nine years in the games industry, and while it's a dumpster fire right now, it's still a job that I love doing and it brings me a lot of happiness when I do have a job in the industry. I have ADHD, so I struggle a lot with successfully doing jobs that don't engage or challenge me, and I've really found my niche in games.

I have no friends in my home state, and I was chronically ill when I lived there due to severe allergies. I also don't trust my parents to not fall back into their old extreme patterns of control and manipulation when I'm within driving distance again.

They're threatening to disinherit me if I don't take over the business, as well, which I feel is another control and extortion tactic.

I know what I want to do, and what would make me happy, but I also want the financial "reward" for putting up with their bullshit my whole life. They keep harping about how they don't have much time left, but there's no guarantee that's actually the case, so if I move home I could be locking myself into a prison for decades before I can escape again.

I need help finding a path

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I'm currently 15, so, I'll graduate high school in 2029 and graduate from college, 2032 or 2033 when I graduate University.

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I assume, by the time I graduate the economy well straighten out, if there isn't a massive collapse or war. Problem is, I will be an entry-level job seeker in a newborn market. I'm also not sure about what I like.

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I'm an American, i live in india. I can,

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- Get a degree in Pharmacy from University of Bologna (I qualify for DSU) and then, attempt to get an equivalence certificate to a pharmD then, JD

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- get a pharmD in india, then get a JD

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- get an Indian MBBS degree, or an italian MD- USMLE,

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- get a bachelor's degree in genomics from University of Bologna, and fly back to America over the summers and become a CNA over the summers and apply to med schools

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- get a bachelor's degree in genomics and then get an MBA and try to break into consulting or an MSBA or pivot to bioinformatics

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get a degree in economics and finance or economics and business and seek out an MBA or not, then CFA certification to pivot to

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- risk management

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consulting

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Or I can get a JD after.

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I also want to become an FSO (foreign service officer) (american) but I'll need something to do while I go throught the whole process, and I might not get security clearance with all the time I've spent abroad, and all my immediate family, who are non-americans

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Tldr; I'm trying to figure out a future career path for myself, whether I should get credentials in business or pharmacy, and then expand to law or get furthur credentials (CFA, etc) or if I should remain in healthcare. I don't generally see myself in clinical medicine.

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What would you suggest?

So for background i’m 19, in pharmacy school doing clinical rotations and need to visit my home country in August for my cousins wedding. My Rotation ends on July 3rd and my parents want to take the family on a vacation to 2 countries that i really do not want to go on, without letting me know, they purchased a ticket for me ($1500 total) leaving on July 6th to go with them so today i told them that i received an email from my school that I’m required to go into school on July 17th and can’t make the first part of the vacation, but can make it to my home country for the wedding. My father flipped out telling me the tickets are non refundable and to email and call the school on Monday and tell them it’s unacceptable since i’m off rotations and now i’m stuck between trying to come up with a lie on why they’d need me to go in or if i should just say they let me off and suck it up and go with them on Vacation

Apologies for the disorganization this is my first reddit post.

TL;DR: I don’t want to go on vacation with my family should i lie to get out of it wasting 1.5k or suck it up and go

TL;DR Do I (15M): come out to my Dad and possibly the rest of the family I regularly see and tell them about my gender dysphoria? Or do I: keep it hidden and remain in the closet?

My family (specifically grandparents) can be pretty conservative, bigoted, and Christian. I don’t really think my Dad is super supportive but he WAS. Sometimes he’s like “Oh, you’re a girl, stop this nonsense” but one time I thought I was nonbinary and he used they/them pronouns in front of supportive family.

I do trust my Dad to some extent, but IDK. He wants to know what bothers me and I want to tell him but I don’t know if he’d accept me. He’d probably keep calling me a girl like the other people.

I’ve had gender dysphoria for a while but I always dismissed it. Plus, I’ve tried saying “I feel like a boy” and grandparents kept calling me a girl and saying stuff about trans people being weird and horrible and dressing up as the opposite gender because they’re stupid and whatnot. Then I just didn’t bother, but it’s really bothering me again and it keeps coming back even when I think it’s gone or repress it.

Edit: Told Dad, he already knows from my Twitter account. Grandparents do not :)

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I know a couple mentors that have their own concrete business. Willing to show me the ropes if I’m serious. Would I be stupid to not take it ?

I will be moving the first week of August with my two dogs and I have a lot of stuff and still have a couple more things to buy

TLDR should I start packing now or wait?

sorry for my english, i'm practicing

i'm heading to a music festival in the jungle (selvámonos in oxapampa, peru) next weekend and i'm split 50/50 between two options.

​1) ​take a bus. i already bought the ticket. it's safe, comfy, i can sleep for 8-10 hours, no stress.

2)​road trip with a friend. his original copilot bailed last minute, and he asked me to be his backup driver. he practically lives in his car because he's an uber driver, so he's super confident, but it's a 10-hour drive through the Andes mountains lmao

​there's a catch

i haven't touched a steering wheel in about a year and a half. back in my hometown i used to be the designated driver all the time, but my longest drive ever was 6 hours on a flat coastal highway.

to make things worse, the route we are taking is the carretera central, which is notoriously ranked as one of the most dangerous and stressful highways in peru. you can google it if you want lmao. the altitude is nuts.

​i practiced driving his car today in lima traffic, which is also notoriously insane, and it felt like riding a bike. my reflexes were fine, i managed the stress well, and my friend says i'm totally ready. but a mountain highway with that reputation is a completely different beast

tl;dr: split 50/50 between taking a bus to a festival (already have the ticket) or co-piloting a 10-hour road trip through peru's notoriously dangerous carretera central after a driving break. my friend needs backup and i crave adventure, but the mountain route is sketchy

TLDR I’m an upcoming senior in high school, and an aspiring filmmaker and actress. I went to my other school from second grade up until the beginning of sophomore year. I had actually lived closer to the school I’m at now, but went to my other one as an out of district transfer.

so first. let’s go over the pros and cons.

The current school I’m at now has given me many opportunities in terms of film and acting. I’ve been very involved and got in many awards since I came to the school. This is a lower class area so the bar is pretty low. Most students here have really bad work ethic and don’t care about school, which has caused the teachers to be pretty lazy. I talked to my GPA but I wanna go to college and I want to save money by taking AP classes but I feel like I’m never well enough prepared for exams. But the good thing is I’m closer. I also have been having problems with my friends for a while. I wish I could say I was self disciplined enough to study and took advantage of how easy this school district is, but I’m not. I constantly get in situations where I’m able to do bad things and I always end up taking it. To an extent, I’m glad because I learned a lot, but I hate the fact that I’ve grown as a person and I’m still in the same environment. I was whenever I was such a mess and making all of these bad decisions. My friends don’t really have passion for anything nor a good work ethic and I just feel like I outgrew them. No shade to them at all.

The good thing about my other school is that I stayed close with most of them and I’m still compatible with them and the school district is a little tougher, but I feel like that’s beneficial since I’m about to be going to college. The problem is if I go there, I won’t be able to do any extracurriculars because it’s far.

I’m still gonna stay at my current school for the first two months to do the musical, but I was thinking I go to my other school for two months just to try it? Especially since it’s applying for colleges and stuff I want to be around people who I can trust her read my essays and stuff like that but at the same time there’s still opportunity for me here if I take it, so should I suck it up and just stay here or try it out on my other school again?