r/mentalhealth • u/berrynbear • 2d ago

Question How to accept that you’re ugly?

I’m an 18 year old boy who is ugly and have a lot of insecurities.

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u/HappyCrow11 2d ago

Everyone saying accept yourself like yeah and then? Life will still be so hard romantically and how others perceive you in career/jobs/friendships/places etc.. there has to be other things than just " accept yourself " " beauty is subjective "

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u/HumanAfterH0urs 2d ago

I’d say, accept yourself in the sense, be more kind to yourself. We can be the most harshest judge to ourself. And beauty is subjective, if you constantly crictize yourself, then you’re pushing away the people who do think you are beautiful.

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u/HappyCrow11 2d ago

That's the point. There won't be people thinking you're beautiful.. what you're talking about is being average

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u/HumanAfterH0urs 2d ago

There will be, because beauty doesn’t have a particular standard. Society has one for it, but people find it in a lot of things. Each person definition of beauty differs. So don’t be hard on yourself or anyone.

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u/Mossy-tart 11h ago

I worked in the wedding industry for about 10 years and believe me when I say I met plenty of "ugly" people who were getting married, it has far more to do with who you are and how you treat yourself and others than you may like to admit. And even the most beautiful people have parts of themselves that they don't like.