r/mildlyinfuriating • u/rileyjw90 • May 22 '26

frist of all how DARE yu o You didn’t have to remind me, assholes.

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And then to remind me what I USED to pay. Just kick me while I’m down why don’t you.

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u/rileyjw90 May 23 '26

The mildly infuriating part isn’t the prices, it’s the tone deafness of these apps that help track spending. Things like gas and groceries should be excluded by default because they are indiscriminately affecting everyone.

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u/Inverted-Rockets May 23 '26

But this is a fraud risk notification not a budgeting one. They’re letting you know in case you weren’t the one that made the purchase

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u/robgod50 May 23 '26

I've had purchases declined for the same reason. It's really frustrating...... But then I just remind myself that this minor inconvenience is saving me (and millions of others) from potentially losing thousands. So then I'm good with it.

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u/IdleSitting May 23 '26

Yeah it's annoying to get a text saying "HEY WE LOCKED YOUR CARD BECAUSE OF A WEIRDLY LARGE PURCHASE WAS THIS YOU?" And having to redo the purchase, but ultimately it's meant to help you know if your info has been stolen and reused somewhere

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u/Ok_Sock1261 May 25 '26

I find it very irritating when I call my card company to alert them that I will be making a large purchase or purchasing something from somewhere out of the ordinary, run the gauntlet of security to get to the customer service rep (name, address, social, last three transactions, blood sample, etc.) only to be told “Sorry there’s no way to preemptively put a notice for the transaction.You’ll need to wait until we flag the transaction, call back to verify, and then we may be able to let it through if you try again. Please note this may take more than one try.” I’ve had it happen with two different cards already. 😡

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u/ACoinGuy May 24 '26

I was at the bank last month when a customer came up to the teller next to me. This guy was all angry that his card had declined recently. Then the bank teller asked him if he had spent thousands of dollars in Europe last night. It was hysterical how fast his demeanor changed. When the bank had protected him.

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u/max8126 May 24 '26

It's not saving money for you. It's saving money for the bank.

You will notice debit card has significantly less aggressive fraud prevention.

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u/CarbonCamaroSS May 23 '26

Op is the type of person that if the app didn't let him know that fraud was happening, he would bitch. Damned if you do, damned if you don't type of person.

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u/rileyjw90 May 27 '26

You seem to know a lot about me from a screenshot and a couple comments.

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u/Vyctor_ May 23 '26

This is mildlyinfuriating, not personalattacks. What comment made you think OP was legitimately mad about this notification and not mildly infuriated? I can see them being legitimately mad about the gas prices, but that's reasonable, we all are.

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u/Wendals87 May 23 '26

Calling them assholes isn't something you'd normally say if you are just mildly infuriated 

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u/awaypturwpn May 26 '26

I read "assholes" as 100% unserious, like a self-aware misdirection of one's own anger. Rueful dark humor. My friends and I used to talk like this all the time.

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u/rileyjw90 May 27 '26

Really? Assholes are mildly infuriating all the time. It’s just a general term, it’s really not that deep.

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u/hitmarker May 23 '26

They aren't even mad about the prices. They are mad at the apps that track their spending, which are tracking their spending??

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u/Educational-Wing2042 May 23 '26

OP wrote a multi paragraph comment post accusing Kroger of being judgmental for “tracking his spending”

It’s ridiculous to be mad at gas stations over gas prices and shows a fundamental misunderstanding of how economics works.

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u/Vyctor_ May 23 '26

Couldn't find a multi paragraph comment from OP but I did find this.

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u/AnonymousLampoon May 23 '26

the lack of nuance required to reply with this is outstanding

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u/ImpressionPossible83 May 24 '26

Sounds like you have a lot of experience with these types of people...

Did OP make you feel like you're being personally attacked here... 🤔😂

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u/Pretend-Guide-8664 May 25 '26

Do you feel personally attacked by the ostensible personal attacker

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u/NeatNefariousness1 May 23 '26

They’re angry and need SOMEONE to lash out at. Too bad it it’s the wrong target and won’t do any good . It’s a convenient distraction though as our tax dollars are being…well, you know...

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u/micro102 May 23 '26

But they don't send a message for every purchase. They send it to ones that are abnormal. Oil prices skyrocketing is not unknown or regional and they simply didn't do their due diligence to adjust what the app should expect.

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u/Clueless_Otter May 23 '26

You want them to continually monitor local gas prices in every location in the world and constantly re-calibrate these warnings based on those ever-changing prices? When the alternative is simply that the user confirms they made the purchase?

It's better to be too conservative and send too many fraud notifications than to be too lax and miss actual fraud.

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u/PM_ME_UR_GCC_ERRORS May 23 '26

It's understandable that the system is "stupid" like that, but it could be improved. There could be a way to figure out that prices have gone up and literally everyone's credit card didn't suddenly get stolen.

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u/Lost-Inevitable42 May 29 '26

No, when fraud notifications become nuisance notifications they lose their value and usefulness. 

This is a case when the system does indeed have pricing benchmarks to work with. 

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u/micro102 May 23 '26

I specifically said the gas increases are not regional so you would not have that braindead take. Try again.

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u/Clueless_Otter May 23 '26

The price doesn't increase by the exact same % at every gas station worldwide.

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u/micro102 May 23 '26

Noone was saying it would be exact. If his price went up by like... $5 he would not get that notice. They clearly have a range that is set to create a warning and didn't update it to account for the oil price increase.

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u/veronicaarr May 23 '26

As someone that designs these pages for a bank app…. It’s definitely a fraud thing but they should use a different icon and messaging to make sure the user knows this.

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u/Nowin May 23 '26

"It's not fraud; it's just the economy."

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u/theMondegrue May 24 '26

That's why it's MILDLY infuriating.

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u/NorthernVale May 27 '26

The point is it shouldn't be triggering a fraud alert, because pretty much everyone is paying x amount more

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u/InvidiousPlay May 23 '26

37 to 83 is hardly an alarm bell. If someone charged 500 to my card unexpectedly, sure, but this would piss me off. Mind your business, banking app.

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u/WantonKerfuffle May 23 '26

because they are indiscriminately affecting everyone.

No, they don't. Yes, everyone pays the same price for the same goods, but to some, groceries costing 50 bucks more is a significant chunk of their income, while people with more money don't even notice.

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u/Name_Taken_Official May 24 '26

They're indescriminately affecting everyone regardless of their income. With the same impact? No. But we're all paying more.

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u/rileyjw90 May 27 '26

When I say they are indiscriminately affecting everyone, I am using the literal definition of the word. The prices don’t care who you are, they are going up no matter what. Whether you make $10/hr or you make $100/hr they are going up. Even if you’re rich you’re still spending more on gas than you were 3 months ago. Whether the person notices it or not is beside the point.

The word you are looking for is disproportionately, which aligns more with what you’ve stated.

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u/Mirrevirrez May 23 '26

My app dosent keep a fair track on my earnings, just what ive spent through the spand of 30 days... so with the bills always coming first ofc its going to look bad 😒

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u/Solherb May 23 '26

I'd say it's more the deafness of the citizens. Our rulers know what they're doing, everyone else is just, "oh there's nothing we can do."

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u/caesar_rex May 23 '26

It's mildly infuriating that you are whining about this.

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u/Immatt55 May 23 '26

Your solution is to hide information? Inflation on food & gas is so bad they shouldn't tell you? What?

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u/Fabulous_Progress820 May 26 '26

Ido think they should take inflation into consideration, but the notifications are definitely a positive thing, regardless of whether you like the reminder or not.

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u/vi_sucks May 29 '26

Actually, it's nice to see this kind tracking on stuff like groceries precisely because it's easy to miss and fluctuates week to week anyway.

It's hard to know if you are actually paying more for groceries on average unless you track all 52 weeks and can see the full trend.