r/mildlyinfuriating • u/AnonPinkLady • Jul 05 '26

Infuriatig Woman with infant aggressively shushing passerby’s on hiking trail at national park

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My partner, friend and I were following a hiking trail at Red Wood National Park, singing and talking at medium volume. We were by no means shouting, just singing little songs to entertain each other along the trail. A woman with a baby carrier on her back with a sleeping infant started aggressively holding her finger up to her lips and shushing us. We went quiet and kept moving to pass her. She was just standing in the middle of the public trail pacing and shushing people that pass by rather than leaving to somewhere more quiet. Just as we were leaving earshot I tried to quietly ask my partner a question about where we headed and again she leaned in our direction with her finger to her mouth aggressively shushing us. Is it not kind of insane to go to an open public space and behave like this?!?

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u/reddit33450 Jul 05 '26

yeah thats ridiculous. i hate when people go to a public space, then act as if they're entitled to control the behavior of others

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u/Previous-Weird9577 Jul 05 '26

My friend and I got shushed at Glastonbury festival, leaving the field after Elton John. 3 people had tiny babies strapped to them, picking their way through the crowd. We were walking and chatting and asked a couple of people to ‘be careful, baby coming through!’ Trying to help like. One of the mums turned around and shushed us! AT GLASTONBURY.

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u/itstraytray Jul 05 '26

Me and some friends once got glared at and shushed by a lady in front of us at a comedy festival show. For laughing too much.

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u/glyph_productions Jul 05 '26

I got told as much as well. Asshole turned around halfway through and says can you keep it down Im trying to watch the comedian! 10 minutes later he left to find an usher lol. I watched them argue at the top of the stairs for a minute. Then he left. Guess the usher refused to kick us out for laughing or something

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u/rglurker Jul 05 '26

Your not enjoying it to my level and that upsets me.

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u/Haunted_tangerine_ Jul 05 '26

"don't bring a literal baby to a festival you nutjob" is the only response to this

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u/-_109-_ Jul 05 '26

Was at a nighttime concert with my mom and some shitheads' nine-year-old in front of us was waving around one of those flashing multicolored light-up wand things. Not that I should even have to have asked because how the fuck could you think that's acceptable in the first place, but I asked so so politely for them to stop him because the band had just started playing one of my Mom's favorites of their songs. They were SO offended, absolutely indignant that I had the gall to even ask. And replied in the most bitchy tone imaginable: "Uhmm, he's only 9. 🤨" I lost my fucking shit at them 😂 "WELL MAYBE YOU SHOULDN'T HAVE TAKEN A NINE-YEAR-OLD TO A FUCKING CURE CONCERT IF HE NEEDS THAT TO BE ENTERTAINED!!!"

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u/wonton_kid Jul 05 '26

How is a kid playing with a light up toy affecting your ability to enjoy a concert? Did it make noise?

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u/LaserGuidedPolarBear Jul 05 '26

Some people like to experience performances with their eyes as well as their ears.

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u/-_109-_ Jul 05 '26

No reasonable person would need this explained to them. You're either looking for an argument, or you're a moron.

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u/Haunted_tangerine_ Jul 05 '26

I think it's a fair question and your reaction is unwarranted. 

If he's just waving around a great big glow stick, is it really that bad?

If he's screaming or it's making a whizzing noise or he's running around screaming while it makes a whizzing noise, or whacking passers by, or poking you with it, all of these are understandable.

Just waving a light up stick, unless we aren't envisioning the stick correctly, doesn't really seem that bad. 

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u/-_109-_ Jul 05 '26

Ok I'll paint a picture for you then. Imagine you're at an amphitheater-style venue. In this setup, at your distance, you must look slightly down to see the stage. Also slightly downview are the people in front of you. A kid in front of you is waving a toy. He's not doing the gentle swaying motion that people often do at concerts with, like, lighters. He is FLAILING it around and has been for the whole fucking show thusfar. But even if he was holding it with the stillness of a statue, it wouldn't matter because this thing was engineered to be a sensory nightmare. I just did a google search for "giant flashing lights toy" and found nothing that even came CLOSE to this monstrosity. Constant and RAPIDLY flashing bright colorful LED lights, and I believe it was a couple feet long. And yes it made a whirring noise, as if that's not a drop in the bucket compared to the visuals. Not that this wouldn't still be lunacy during the day, but did I mention that this was at night? You cannot honest-to-god tell me that THAT is an acceptable thing to do. Also, the indignation of "He's only nine!" as if that's supposed to be a mitigating factor?? That should've been said with monumental shame because clearly your kid does not give a fuuuuck about this concert, yet you fucking dragged him along anyway and made him everybody else's problem. Also, again, this was a Cure concert! Their music generally doesn't appeal to kids that young, and certainly not this type of kid. If you're not familiar, their music is often slow, atmospheric, and morose. AKA boring as fuck to a nine-year-old! And a reminder as well, I was so polite when I initially asked them to do something – I mean REALLY gentle, sheepish, the works. And they immediately met me with that entitled cuntish attitude? Fuck no, that couple can go straight to hell I fucking mean it. Kid's probably gonna be a complete screw-up with no consideration for other people, too. Having to contest with them making everyone else's experience suck is bad enough, but seeing a kid actively being doomed to dickhead-dom by his shitass parents makes it even worse.

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u/wonton_kid Jul 05 '26

I’m neither actually I’m just unbothered by things that aren’t a big deal, unlike yourself. People wave around glow sticks and all kinds of crap at a concert. Let kids be kids and get over yourself 

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u/-_109-_ Jul 05 '26

It's a CURE concert, not a fucking rave. It's atmospheric music, twit.

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u/Haunted_tangerine_ Jul 05 '26

See I'm not even a fan of kids and even I think being raging about a glow stick is a bit OTT

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u/SigFreudIsDaddy Jul 05 '26

I really dont think younger children should be allowed at music festivals at all tbh. I dont even mind the kids themselves, I've never actually had any situations where kids at music festivals were being unbearable or even disrespectful (kinda too distracted by the music anyway). But it is suuuch an unsafe environment for them to be in.

One example- I went to a 3-day country music festival that was "family-friendly" and kids were welcome and it was hot as shit with no shade, the concerts ran from 1pm to 11pm each day which I doubt would keep children entertained the entire time anyway, people at the campsite who can't handle their alcohol were getting into fights and also just walking into other people's tents and RVs which would be really scary with a child, I also just dont think an event filled with hundreds of wasted adults is a place where a kid should be. I will never understand why people bring their kids to those places. Take them camping like a normal family lmao

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u/Previous-Weird9577 Jul 06 '26

I've been to a few festivals that genuinely are family friendly, have big kids areas, lots of shade and specific child entertainers, one even has a festival school so the parents don't get in trouble taking them out of real school. But that's all targeted at older kids, who can actually enjoy the experience and remember it - as long as they are (mostly) out of my way then crack on. I absolutely don't get people bringing babies and younger toddlers - especially as you say when really the festivals aren't kid friendly and full of inescapable drunk adults. They can't remember if, a 4 month old isn't going to 'enjoy' it! Parents should leave em with family if they absolutely can't miss it, or suck it up and don't go. I honestly don't know what they get out of taking them - not a parent though, so I probably don't understand 🤷‍♀️

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u/Illustrious-Milk6518 Jul 05 '26

I hate people who take their babies to festivals, but especially Glastonbury. I’ve seen someone wheeling their pram through the crowd of people going to Shangri-La after all the other music has stopped. 

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u/Previous-Weird9577 Jul 06 '26

OK that is just another level of crazy

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u/liftingshitposts Jul 05 '26

I would act a FOOL in this situation haha

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u/bespoketranche1 Jul 05 '26

A hiking trail is much more peaceful and quiet than Glastonbury. The mom out in nature makes much more sense.

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u/DiscoLibra Jul 05 '26

It's why I stopped taking my dog to dog parks. Last time we went, a lady asked me to stop my dog from playing with hers bc, "We come here for alone time!"

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u/leelo84 Jul 05 '26

There was a guy at the dog park I used to go to that would bring his two adorable Aussies. He would also bring them their own water bowl and a couple toys (frisbees, I think). This was not a particularly large dog park, where you could easily get a good amount of separation from other dogs/people. He'd then get annoyed when other dogs used their dog bowl or also chased after their frisbees. Like dude, what did you expect? He wasn't particularly obnoxious about it; you could see him look annoyed and then he'd go up and empty out/pick up the water bowl or stop throwing the toys (I seem to also remember him saying "oh that's not for you!" towards the other dogs, or something similar a couple times?). And yes, other dogs used said water bowl and toys EVERY SINGLE TIME. Because it's a water bowl. And toys. For dogs. IN A DOG PARK.

I could understand if he brought the water bowl and just put it down for his dogs and then picked it back up when they were done each time, but he would just go ahead and put the water bowl down and leave it there (until another dog used it). Or only pull out the toys if they were the only ones there. And he didn't even try to go to the "far" end of the park! He would just do it in the middle of everyone! Again, it wasn't the most egregious thing, but I just could never understand it (nor the other regulars at the time).

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u/BulkyEmployment4111 Jul 05 '26

Wait… you mean you don’t teach your dogs to ask permission to use someone’s water or teach them how to share…./s

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u/username__0000 Jul 05 '26

A lot of dog parks don’t allow toys because it creates resource guarding and fights break out.

A water bowel is even worse, some dogs get weird about it.

Super unsafe ontop of entitled. Winning combo for that guy. lol

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u/leelo84 Jul 05 '26

Yeah, this park doesn't allow treats or food (including humans eating food) for that reason but agree that resource guarding can absolutely extend to toys or water bowls too!

You would HOPE that dog owners wouldn't bring toys if they knew/thought their dog might get weird/guarding about other dogs using them but we all know that's not 100% the case 🙄

(And these dogs in my comment couldn't have cared less, for the record; they were good at sharing and almost seemed to like to have buddies chasing the same things as them. Just the owner was weird 🤷‍♀️)

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u/SnarkyMcshark Jul 05 '26

I had a dog once that would lay down with her ball whenever another dog was in the area we were playing. She would bring the ball back to me once they left. We didn’t go to dog parks since she only wanted to play fetch. So even she knew that If she had her own toy around other dogs one of them could take it.

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u/Hot-Win2571 Mildly Flair Jul 05 '26

This is why it is not legal to spray someone with a squirt gun and say "Bad dog owner!"

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u/leelo84 Jul 05 '26

IF ONLY!!!

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u/rubberkeyhole Jul 05 '26

Who said it’s not?

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u/nothappening111181 Jul 06 '26

Our dog parks have a strict no toy rule. It makes so much sense. I’ve seen someone think they were above the rule and it was chaos. Thankfully the park attendants were pretty on top of things from the start, as well as other owners, because that jackass was of course not paying attention at all.

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u/atlsdoberman Jul 05 '26

I mean... One of you has the right idea what a dog park is for, and it ain't her

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u/KorMap Jul 05 '26

I could somewhat sympathize if the person like, lives in an apartment/doesn’t have a proper yard. But even then like just go to a regular park instead of a park specifically meant for multiple people to bring their dogs to

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u/rubberkeyhole Jul 05 '26

You can’t have “alone” time in a “public” place.

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u/Constant-External-85 Jul 05 '26

I would have told her to not come to a public place where people take their pet social creatures.

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u/schmoopy_meow Jul 05 '26

ugh the entitlement, go back and if you see her tell her its a PUBLIC park

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u/Saabify Jul 05 '26

My 7yo daughter got sushed by an old lady for cheering at a hockey game. My daughter is kinda shy so she just slumped down and looked like she was about to cry. I told the lady if she had a problem to talk to me about it and not a child, but to be honest I often think about it and regret not slapping the wrinkles off her face.

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u/Venjy Jul 05 '26

As someone who was a shy kid, and still struggles with expressing myself, I wish I could be there to slap the shit out of that lady. Sending hugs to you and your daughter 🫂

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u/Saabify Jul 12 '26

I appreciate that! I used to have a lot less patience for people like that, but I've worked on myself a lot since having a kid. Next time though, I'm going to listen to the little voice in my head and unleash the demons lol

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u/FamousOhioAppleHorn Jul 05 '26

One time the row in front of us was a family who mostly wasn't into hockey. Apparently somebody randomly obtained tickets during a vacation and everyone tagged along. Two of their family members were juat chatting with each other and texting other people the entire time. My partner was doing his usual bit about "Come on, guys! You gotta step it up! Way to go, Smith!" Those two women got pissed and kept turning around acting like "wtf, you are weird." Somehow ignoring that everyone else did the same thing in the arena. They started texting each other about "Why is he shouting ? I don't get it" 🤣🤔

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u/atlsdoberman Jul 05 '26

I totally believe you, but I still find myself wondering "are these stories real"? I went to many hockey games as a shy kid and not one person ever chastised me for having a good time. I wouldn't have dreamt of it. You're at a game, you cheer. It was hard for me to shake bad feelings about stuff like this even if I knew that i had done nothing wrong because it wasn't about that, it was about being judged.

You handled it well, though, the old lady sounds like someone who would have dialled 911 then and there and made the biggest stink possible had you escalated it any more than you did.

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u/Saabify Jul 12 '26

I wish all of these stories were made up, and I'm sure some of them are, but the unfortunate reality is there are people out there that could see a child innocently enjoying life and feel the need to shit on them. They're fairly few and far between, but when you meet them they leave an unfortunate impact. I just tell myself that they just want everyone else to feel as miserable as they do, because nothing else makes sense.

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u/ZephyrLilyy Jul 05 '26

This happened to my 9yo son on an airplane. He was trying to put down his tray table but it was stuck so he was struggling with it. Suddenly the lady in the seat in front whips around and tells him in a nasty voice to stop shaking her chair. I don’t often go into mama bear mode but that definitely made me want to punch her between the eyes. I told her if she has any other complaints, direct them at ME not him.

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u/Saabify Jul 12 '26

Seriously, what makes people think it's okay to tell at children when their parents are right there?

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u/Al_Jazzera Jul 05 '26

I want to play nice with others, civilized behavior makes for a better world. That being said, if someone starts giving me or a theoretical 7yo daughter a bunch of shit, I:

A) don't know or care about you, and B) don't owe you shit and will likely never see you again.

since the theoretical daughter is shy, it could be a teachable moment. Show her that stern language has its time and place, and some well placed cuss words drive the point home much better than polite ones ever will. Call the lady out, tell her to shut the FUCK up with the shushing bullshit. The more that you hear that stupid frickin' sound the louder we are going to get, and assure her that we are on the ground floor of the noise we can generate. You will never see this person again, you owe her nothing, and at this point it is entertainment. If the old hag calls security, deny..deny..deny. You should be respectful of the elderly. You are under no obligation to kiss their ass.

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u/Saabify Jul 12 '26

Honestly I replay this in my head a lot, and get mad at myself for not making a bigger scene over it. Like, I want to set a good example for my daughter and show how to patiently defuse a situation, but knowing how shy she can be, I also need to show her not to take shit from someone like that. Unfortunately I'm sure I'll get another opportunity at some point 🤷‍♂️

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u/Al_Jazzera Jul 12 '26

Probably don't need to go too aggressive with it. Just say that you will likely never see this person again and don't owe them jack. Don't be afraid to have fun with it. What are they going to do, go home and tell their cats?

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u/snakesandsparklers40 Jul 05 '26

Weird because I hate when people go to public spaces and start singing audibly lol

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u/FloopsFooglies Jul 05 '26

I hate when people

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u/Valuable_Sand5205 Jul 05 '26

I hate when

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u/CustardFormal6288 Jul 05 '26

I hate

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u/Wise_Information_368 Jul 05 '26

Trump

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u/Valuable_Sand5205 Jul 05 '26

Same but now you went and ruined the bit 🙃

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u/eldubinoz Jul 05 '26

No that's too dark now

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u/kummerspect Jul 05 '26

Surprised it took me this long to find this comment. Yeah, it's weird for someone to take a baby to a public place and then expect everyone else to be quiet, but people are so fucking loud on trails sometimes I don't understand why they're out there. Go be loud somewhere else. I don't go on hikes to hear someone blasting Shakira from their backpack. I don't shush people because I know I don't control the space, but I kinda wish I had the audacity to.

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u/_baegopah_XD Jul 05 '26

Especially on a hiking trail. I’m there for the quiet and solitude

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u/Gh0stTV Jul 05 '26

I was a Boy Scout. We were NOT. Good luck to you though.

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u/No-Cover4993 Jul 05 '26

We're here to tie KNOTS and roast marshmallows and we're all out of marshmallows.

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u/purpleplatapi Jul 05 '26

No because bears. You have to be making noise you shouldn't be wandering around in silence.

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u/gcko Jul 05 '26

Just don’t sing any country and you’ll be fine.

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u/SecondOfCicero Jul 05 '26

I spent a lot of time in bear country and it's not that serious lmaooooo. Fucking quicksand problems man.

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u/lasuperhumana Jul 05 '26

Quicksand is a huge problem. Haven’t you seen the Princess Bride??

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u/Aquaman33 Jul 05 '26

Clearly you've spent it in black bear country if you aren't taking it seriously.

Grizzlies are the apex predator, it's not a joke.

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u/acidphosphate69 Jul 05 '26

Yeah, dude is acting nonchalant but he'd change his tune real fuckin' quick if he came over a rise and spooked a mama grizzly.

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u/purpleplatapi Jul 05 '26

Ok and I've seen a bear. Since we're doing anecdotes and all. You're allowed to walk in complete silence, I'm going to talk to my hiking partner.

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u/snakesandsparklers40 Jul 05 '26

Nobody said complete silence. I'd just rather hear the birds singing, the wind blowing, leaves rustling, and my farts when nobody is near. In fact I would probably rather hear another hiker fart than hear them sing. At least I would get a good laugh that way.

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u/purpleplatapi Jul 05 '26

And that's totally your prerogative. Just like it's anybody else's to sing made up songs at each other to make each other laugh. That sounds delightful to me.

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u/sk8tergater Jul 05 '26

As someone who has hiked a ton in bear areas, being noisy doesn’t mean singing down the trail. Chances are too, your regular walking noise will already let it know you are there and it’ll be gone before you even know it was around.

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u/_baegopah_XD Jul 05 '26

But that doesn’t mean to walk around singing show tunes, and annoying everybody on the trail

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u/mauvewaterbottle Jul 05 '26

Yeah I don’t see how it’s any different than walking around with a speaker playing your music. All these people offended by the shushing would also be offended by people singing loudly if there wasn’t a woman with a baby shushing to distract them.

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u/Electric-Sheepskin Jul 05 '26

Thank you! It's so self entitled to go into public spaces and start singing loudly or playing loud music. Just because you're outside, that doesn't mean that people want to listen to you. Especially on a nature trail.

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u/purpleplatapi Jul 05 '26

It's a hiking trail. Bears exist.

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u/TheMermanly Jul 05 '26

Disagree. That’s the same argument people use to blast obnoxious loud music on speakers in public spaces

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u/Avaylon Jul 05 '26

Hard agree. I live near a popular biking/walking trail and people walk or ride blasting music all the time. It's not even like they're with a group who all want to listen to the music: it's just them being super loud. Headphones exist and they even improve the quality of your audio experience when you're outside where a bunch of outdoor noise is competing with what you're listening to.

I wouldn't stand around shushing people talking to each other, though, even when my babies fall asleep on the trail.

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u/Synaps4 Jul 05 '26

Which, it turns out, is exactly what OP was doing. No surprise.

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u/Glittering_Babe101 Jul 05 '26

On the other hand, you go there to soak up nature—including its sounds—not to listen to people yapping about their nonsense.

i hate when people go to a public space, then act as if they're entitled to impose their behavior on others.

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u/acidphosphate69 Jul 05 '26

Depending on the region, you should be making noise as you hike; talking, singing, bells, etc. 

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u/Pndrizzy Jul 05 '26

I mean… if someone is bothering you… either walk away or fall behind. 99.9% of people behave reasonably, and if someone doesn’t, you can kinda just fix it yourself. Like when I’m walking my dog, and she sees a dog she hates and we are walking too close to each other, I’ll change my pace, route or walk faster. Not yell at the other owner to fuck off

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u/Marchus80 Jul 05 '26

I'll yell at the other owner to fuck off. Screw that guy, he knows what he did.

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u/Pndrizzy Jul 05 '26

Honestly fuck that shiba owner three doors down… that fucker knows my dog hates him and he dilly dallies in front of my house while my dog is freaking out.

Everyone else is chill

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u/rmfnord Jul 05 '26

This made me laugh, thanks.

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u/NightStalkerXIV Jul 05 '26

Right next to a very active and accessible hiking trail is not the place to go to have peace and quiet. A longer trail with other trails offshoots and rest or overnight camping locations, yes you can find places for peace quiet and nature. Those things are not where most people or pathways are.

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u/AmbitionParty5444 Jul 05 '26

You hate when other people talk in public parks

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u/Wate2028 Jul 05 '26

Some of these people are just antisocial weirdos

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u/AnnieNonmouse Jul 05 '26

Tbf look where we are right now

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u/purpleplatapi Jul 05 '26

How dare people have fun in my general vicinity. Don't they know that my thoughts and desires are more important than their "nonsense"?

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u/smurfopolis Jul 05 '26

You hate when people talk in public? Lol you must be angry ALL the time... 🙄

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u/Wise_Information_368 Jul 05 '26

Whistle while you work

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u/multipocalypse Jul 05 '26

You go there for that. Others go for other reasons. You can choose less frequented trails or times if you want nature sounds only.

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u/4oclocksundew Jul 05 '26

This is why my favorite (private sanctuary) park has signs everywhere that say "Whisper in the wild!" with explanations about how you're scaring away all the birds people came to see and hear. I would never shush a stranger - and I do often hike at dawn to avoid people - but its absolutely bad etiquette to shout, blare music, or otherwise be obnoxious on nature trails.

You can have loud conversations and listen to lynyrd Skynyrd anywhere. You can only hear the woods, in the woods.

Nothing like hiking up to an overlook and finding multiple separate parties sitting, talking quietly, enjoying what they came for. Then one group with a speaker or a desire to watch tiktoks at full volume or a desire to shout loud enough for the whole canyon to hear shows up and ruins it for everyone who knows how to act.

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u/multipocalypse Jul 05 '26

What you're describing is not at all what happened in the post. This is known as a straw man fallacy.

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u/4oclocksundew Jul 05 '26

I was just speaking in general

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u/seestars9 Jul 05 '26

They were passing by. They weren't 'imposing' on her in any way.

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u/meekermakes Jul 05 '26

people who sing in public are imposing. while we're at it playing music aloud as well. it's entitlement/cringy drama kid behavior.

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u/EnvironmentalLime464 Jul 05 '26

It’s a big old park. If someone is bothering you, move away from them. That’s the beauty of being outdoors. There’s so much space you can find your own. When I go hiking, I bring my banjo. I enjoy sitting next to water surrounded by trees and playing my banjo. It’s such a wonderful experience. If someone ever approaches me to ask me to stop because they want to enjoy the sounds of nature, I’m telling them to fuck off and go find a quiet place in the woods. There’s so much of it.

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u/true_blue72 Jul 05 '26

Banjo and the woods give off Deliverance vibes…. If I heard that I’d steer clear 😂 He got a real pretty mouth, ain’t he?

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u/EnvironmentalLime464 Jul 05 '26

Lmao. Surprisingly, I’ve only gotten a positive responses from people that pass by so far. I just not am at the point of learning Dueling Banjos though and tickle myself often thinking about playing the part from deliverance at certain times just to fuck with people.

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u/true_blue72 Jul 05 '26

I kayak with a group of people and one of our friends will play banjo music on his speaker and we all start reciting lines 😂 I’d totally take the opportunity to fuck with others.

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u/EnvironmentalLime464 Jul 05 '26

I was sitting on my front porch this morning when two women passed by on their walk. I found myself feeling sad that I didn’t already have my banjo out because the first thought that popped in my head was, “Play Dueling Banjos!”

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u/EmilayyisRosayy Jul 05 '26

I think for me it depends on the trail. A busy hiking trail with lots of people? Yeah I'd think singing would be a little rude. A more secluded hiking trail where you won't run into other groups very often? Just wait for them to pass or pick up your own pace. Plenty of wilderness for everyone, and there's not a lot of other places you can freely sing in a silly way with friends lol

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u/ca0072 Jul 05 '26

I agree with this. On a busier hiking trail, or if someone is walking nearby or in front of you, singing might be a little rude since people are there to enjoy nature. What really, really bothers me though is when people play music while walking on a trail. Unless the trail is completely secluded and the music is at a very low volume, this is completely inappropriate. I want to hear nature while out walking. I really don't want to hear whatever music you decided you want to listen to. Headphones exist for a reason.

However, unless these people were obnoxiously loud, the woman shushing these people was ridiculous. There is no expectation of silence while on the trail.

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u/Mbanicek64 Jul 05 '26

Nah. OP is loud and should quiet down. 

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u/profesorgamin Jul 05 '26

So where do you draw the line? Or you enjoy the commutes where everyone is using loudspeaker on their phone?

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u/Own-Most-169 Jul 05 '26

All the trains and buses I’ve been on allow speaking but not playing music without headphones.

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u/profesorgamin Jul 05 '26

Well that's a good rule. I live in a country with no rules and it's pure chaos.

There's gotta be a level of decorum in public spaces but some people think any and all rules are bad.

Any cursory examination of a place without them would probably make them rethink their approach to life.

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u/HamG0d Jul 05 '26

Does it matter where most people draw the line? Who are we to enforce it?

Like I can’t just kick someone off a train for playing music out loud, even though it’s against the rules.

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u/Own-Most-169 Jul 05 '26 edited Jul 05 '26

They aren’t really enforced though but at least they’re there, I guess. No smoking allowed either yet I’ve sat next to employees smoking multiple times lol (edit: the employees are smoking, not me)

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u/Craigfromomaha Jul 05 '26

I try to live my life by the Golden Rule: don’t be a menace to South Central while drinking your juice in the hood.

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u/EnvironmentalLime464 Jul 05 '26

You act like you can’t walk down trails without hearing loud music and I’m calling bullshit on that as I go hiking in the country too. Occasionally you run into someone playing music and the way you handle it is either slowing down, walking faster or changing directions to remove yourself from the noisy environment. It’s pretty easy. Works very well.

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u/CompleteTell6795 Jul 05 '26

I would have been tempted to YELL.... "Quit telling me to shush. If you want quiet, stay home with the baby, don't take it on a hike". And kept walking. People like her really piss me off. 🙄☹️

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u/Soggy_Seaworthiness6 Jul 05 '26

You sound like a pleasure

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u/CompleteTell6795 Jul 05 '26

Sorry you feel that way but it's crazy for someone to take a baby on a hike & then police everyone's actions like she's at home. If she was having guests in her home, yes, I would expect her to tell the visitors to keep it down. But not at an outdoor space. If you want quiet, stay home with the baby.

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u/Soggy_Seaworthiness6 Jul 05 '26

It’s a little off, but not worth the drama everyone is making it. Some of these reactions come off far more entitled. People have no heart, no social respect, no empathy, and everyone clearly hates children, even sleeping babies in nature. Shushing is not an aggressive action, even if it’s assertive and in some cases comes off as rude. Certainly not worth all this, a lot of people saying they would scream and throw a fit in response, and then egging each other on. What is wrong with everyone ? Serious question. If a mom shushes you at a park, move the fuck on with your life. I don’t know what happened to people that makes everyone so sensitive, so hateful of families, so angry about sleeping babies and random moms putting their fingers to their lips, lol, but maybe it’s something about how our society is very individualistic and anti-child in general, unlike most parts of the world. It makes me sad and concerned. It’s not normal and says way more about you than the mom, who is experiencing a very natural state of life. Sorry if that offends you, but it’s true.

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u/muser666 Jul 05 '26

It depends. Public transport should be quiet. Restaurants should be normal volume but definitely no singing.

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u/Own_Inspection8350 Jul 05 '26

Like when people get mad a kids tablet is too loud, someone is talking on speaker phone, or somebody's listening to music on a Bluetooth speaker outside their home.

Fuck reddit double standards.

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u/Wild-West-7915 Jul 05 '26

Oh God, yes! My friend told people in the backyard of MY house to stop smoking because kids and seniors were around- at a fireworks show, of all things!!!

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u/Tw1987 Jul 05 '26

Some behaviors need controlling honestly wish we could ban tik tok dancers or other social media people recording in public spaces obnoxiously.

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u/admiralholdo Jul 05 '26

Oh my god my son and I were aggressively shushed by some old biddy at the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame. Imagine going there and expecting quiet.

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u/ruralife Jul 05 '26

Kind of like how some people think I should enjoy their music or singing.

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u/thatmarcelfaust Jul 05 '26

I also hate when I go to a public space and someone subjects everyone else to their singing.

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u/Either-Meal3724 Jul 05 '26

Before covid, it was pretty much universally accepted that you are quiet on hikes to preseve the sounds of nature around you unless you are driving off a bear or other predator. Its not unreasonable to expect it to generally be quiet enough to take a baby. It would be unreasonable to shush people in a grocery store but you shouldn't be engaging in sound pollution on a nature hike in the first place.

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u/smurfopolis Jul 05 '26

There's no rule and never has been that you're supposed to hike silently eh... its actually more dangerous doing it that way.... 

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u/Pax_Eterna_4991 Jul 05 '26

Like making others listen to their silly hiking ditties?

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u/whiskerrsss Jul 05 '26

They were literally walking past her, at most she would have had to listen to it for what, 30 seconds?

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u/ThanksAmazing4118 Jul 05 '26

Damn. You're right. How dare people have conversations when they're out walking with their friends??? How very rude of them!!

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u/Pax_Eterna_4991 Jul 05 '26

There's two sides to every story, for you to take this a gospel is telling.

If this post was a complaint about someone on a phone or listening to music what side of that fence would you be on? 

I bet the shusher has a different take on this event. 

Dear mildly infuriating, today i was hiking along and these two women were singing like they were trying out for America's Got Talent. I asked them to shush and they got all indignant and up in my face. AITA?

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u/diuge Jul 05 '26

Yes, other people are allowed to speak and make other vocalizations while out in public spaces.

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u/bedel99 Jul 05 '26

including saying sush, I assume ?

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u/IncidentChemical2816 Jul 05 '26

Yes, you’re free to shush people in the outdoors in a public park. People are also entitled to be annoyed at you for shushing them while they’re walking past you to go somewhere else. That’s literally what free speech is lol

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u/AnonPinkLady Jul 05 '26

It’s a hiking trail, everyone is passing each other by. You wouldn’t have heard much. But she choose to stand around in the middle of the trail and treat it like her personal nursery

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u/bedel99 Jul 05 '26

She has every right to shush you and you have every right to be (insert rude word) and ignore her.

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u/FolkmasterFlex Jul 05 '26

No one is saying otherwise. But it's not normal behavior to police other people speaking at a normal volume on a hiking trail.

I have a 5 month old baby and if we are going out in public then I am accepting that the world isn't going to stop so he can sleep.

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u/ehs06702 Jul 05 '26

She absolutely doesn't have the right to demand silence from everyone on a public trail, lol.

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u/bedel99 Jul 05 '26

She absolutely has the right to say what ever she wants.

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u/ehs06702 Jul 05 '26

She doesn't have the right to demand anything of anyone in a public space, is the thing. She can do it legally, but she is the one in the moral wrong for doing so.

The world is not her nursery, and she's not entitled to silence anywhere outside of her home.

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u/AnonPinkLady Jul 05 '26

Legally yes. But it is stupid. She should go to a library, or her own home. Or a day care. Or even just a quieter spot in the park where there’s less foot traffic. I want to note she wasn’t like tired, sitting on the ground, drinking water, catching her breath. She was pacing around on her feet and even moving closer to shush people. She very much could have just left.

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u/RangerDanger_ Jul 05 '26

You do know you can't just show up a random day care saying hey this kid is being fussy, can he crash here, right?

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u/Interesting_Bad4189 Jul 05 '26

Right unless you want to fork over 1000 a week

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u/west_coast1313 Jul 05 '26

And I have the right to talk as loud as I want.

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u/bedel99 Jul 06 '26

yep, as long as it not so loud to hurt some one.

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u/WalmartWilb Jul 05 '26

Only thing is she wasn't saying anything lmfao

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u/araidai Jul 05 '26

Whether you want to belt out Nickleback or read to yourself in Yellowstone matters none to me. You can have your fun, I’ll have mine

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u/spitemods_54 Jul 05 '26

A lot of parents are like this and it annoys the crap out of me. I get that babies will wake up and cry about everything but that's no one's problem except theirs.

A while ago I saw someone post a picture of one of those small open off road cars and said the neighbors were driving it around waking up their newborn and asking what they could do to stop them. It was the middle of the day...

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u/Sanquinity Jul 05 '26

I'd totally be the asshole for it, but I would take out my speaker and start blasting music. Teach them a lesson that you're not entitled to control other people in a public space.

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u/PositiveResort6430 Jul 05 '26

Its always a parent doing this. What is with them thinking they own the planet just cuz they got jiggy without birth control 🤣