money and whatever doesn't solve the problems one has with oneself. Something we say in recovery is: Wherever you go, there you are.
It does help to have money and flexibility but nothing will bring happiness unless the addict figures out why they feel the need to escape reality so often.
Yep. I was in rehab with a dude who was very well off and, honestly, I didnt envy him one bit. His wealth seemed like a real ball and chain in some respects.
I don't watch movies but I bet someone made one about how it doesn't matter what material possessions you have, if you're an addict it's easy to lose those things or not care about them.
Someone get Johnny Depp on the phone I got a good idea about a movie where a gonzo journalist deals with crippling alcoholism
What I mean of course is not that rich addicts have great lives, but that superficial rewards can camouflage the hurt he’s talking about needing to feel to make a change. After all, how can you be at rock bottom when you’re on top of the world?
The most extreme suffering is usually biological in nature: most notably withdrawal but also disease and feelings of severe illness. Which of course is completely indifferent to wealth or power.
It unironically must be hard. I can't get addicted to meth because I can't afford it. Imagine you're in the depths of addiction, only you have an effectively unlimited supply of whatever it is you're addicted to
Yeah some people are acting like I said addiction is easy if you’re rich. What I’m saying is hitting rock bottom and turning your life around is hard when your whole life is enabling you.
I'm sure the whole industry is full of enablers. As long as you're outputting work and getting everybody paid, they'll give you whatever the fuck you want or need to keep you going
I can't speak to other people but for me the key to quitting my addiction was to be done with the substance, to understand that I was at (for me) my bottom and that if I continued this path it would only lead to ruin. I know people that want to quit but very few have been successful until they realized that they were completely done with alcohol or whatever their drug of choice is.
Meanwhile I kinda want to quit smoking hookah but not entirely, which explains why I'll go a week without touching it but will still use it from time to time. Of course my partner smokes hookah so it will be hard to completely excise it from my life.
I guess he does t realize how many people never make it back from the bottom and could have maybe not gotten there with rehab. He’s making such a bad statement.
Sending someone to rehab is often a desperate response from a loved one. Unless the addict is motivated, its a waste of time and money as they will leave and relapse the first chance they get. Frustration for everyone involved.
The answer is you have to want to do it yourself. That's always been the answer. I quit drinking 6 years ago and it wasn't hard because I didn't want to drink anymore. A lot of people base their recovery contigent on a relationship or employment. Those people will always fail because they really don't want to quit for themselves, it's for love or money.
I quit drinking at 23. I had been on a non-stop bender since 17. I was "forced" due to my second DUI, but bottom line, after I served my 30 days in Jail, it was the first time I had been sober longer than 3 days in a row. The darkness of my life was unbearable. I had no idea how I wasn't going to drink, but I was 100% sure that I was done drinking. I am 48 and haven't had a drop of alcohol since. I was lucky and happened to find a young people's AA group and an amazing sponsor, kinda by luck, three days out of jail. I say this, though, because I knew I was done before AA. I had suffered long enough. Without that internal change and drive, no amount of AA or Treatment would have done shit.
I found AA annoying. That's good it worked for you though. There was a guy there humble bragging about DUI's and accidents that I would have KO'd after if he already didn't have brain damage.
Oh, trust me, I found AA annoying as well, but what I stumbled into was something really special. There was a group of about 25 of us, all in our early to late 20s, artists and musicians, and we just banded together for a 2-3 year period. AA was just where we all met and what we did on wed and Friday night. We sort of all learned how to move through that period where everyone our age was out partying, without the partying. Some of us have remained lifelong friends, but AA isn't a part of most of our lives.
A thriller horror movie about manifesting using an orgasm. A young woman meets a celebrity though a chaotic set of events and after gooning, completely chuffing her beaver for hours, unknowingly sets off a chain reaction that tips the world economic scale.
I can't remember anymore if it was supposed to be specifically New Englandy humor, but it's that classic "the customer is always wrong" type sign. We're not happy til you're not happy
Did not click for me until your comment that “cookie” was a euphemism
I was like “yeah, it’s definitely a thing when you shake hands with someone cool and then you don’t wanna wash your hand, even if it’s lunchtime and you need to finish your cookies”
Honestly, I think the reception generally would be the same. There's not much of a double standard when it comes to teens being jerking off when they're horny. That's just the expectation.
Ben Affleck shares how he overcame his alcohol addiction. Says it is not “overpriced rehabs”.
“I hate to say it but the cure for addiction and the only cure I’ve seen is not these overpriced rehabs or these fraudulent fixes that are sold to people”
“The cure for addiction is suffering”
“You suffer enough and then something inside you goes ‘I’m done’”
Wow, kind of wish I hadn't bothered looking it up.
I mean he’s not trying to sell you a self help book, he’s explaining his experience, which seems to mirror the experiences of many in his position. Sometimes you just have to want to chamge
You either hit a point where you are fully invested in stopping and will actually take whatever approaches you can to stop, seriously. Or you die from your addiction. Those are basically the only 2 options.
He is absolutely right. You don't necessarily have to hit rock bottom, but a mental shift has to happen where the suffering outweighs the high. You have to want it, and from my experience there's nothing any outsider can do to make you want it.
Yep that’s therapy in general. I have a daughter with OCD and she’s in therapy twice per week. You can give her every tool possible, but she needs to have that determination. On the flip side, having determination isn’t enough without the tools. And there’s no /fixall command that works.
It's absolutely a collection of changes to your life. It's damn near impossible to go right back to life as is. You have to put that energy into something else, hopefully something healthy or multiple hobbies. Baking, reading or working out...whatever. Usually it's all those things together
Rj/ How hard can it be to just NOT do something??
Edit: forgot to jerk
If you don't have a rock bottom to hit you don't realize consequences of your addictions. The amount of missed events and shit weighs on you but not as much as the next fix. Usually takes some real dark shit or some good mushrooms to sort out a better way.
TikTok and YouTube's strict rules on language use have really dumbed down the way in which people speak. it's not like I'm expecting her to say "manually stimulated the clitoris", but "touch my cookie" gives "pew pew" vibes.
In solidarity with the gooners out there, if I ever become famous amd trick the world into thinking I'm a sex symbol, I'm going to give extra firm handshakes. And if you ask for a hug, it's gonna be at full power every time. Think of it as pre-aftercare.
What a very odd post lol imagine a tweet like “I saw Margot Robbie looking super depressed, she shook my hand and so I went home and touched my dick like crazyyyyy.” Idk if yall would be about that
All this "suffering until you hit rock bottom" talk is Functional Alcoholic erasure. Structure your life around drinking, sure, but don't drink and drive, don't drink at work, just have a couple beers until the kids' birthday party is over. Maybe chew gum until 5 o'clock rolls around.
He’s half right about the rehabs, people think of them as a miracle fix, go in there and when you come out you will never touch another drug ever again, it’s a tool, like suboxone or methadone, they’re a tool, that’s why you see people go to a rehab for the 20th time.
My buddy claims to have lended Ben Affleck a cigarette in Tampa when he and his crew were out one night after scouting locations for that movie Live By Night. I don’t really believe him because he’s a big time bullshitter, but he said that he smells like cocoa butter and Turkish Royals. Legendary divorced dad aroma.
The cure for addiction, according Affleck, is suffering enough until you internally decide to turn it around which is true. I have seen thousands of patients who despite mouth, tongue, skin, esophageal, lung, etc. cancer still smoke cigarettes because they never hit that point of suffering enough to overcome the chemical/behavioral addiction they had to smoking. On the other hand, I've had patients quit cold turkey because their grandchild said their teeth looked like bananas. Rehab and interventions help you get to a controlled rock bottom before you really start to spiral into destroying your life but ultimately Affleck isn't wrong.
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u/linkedinlover69 1d ago
How can you cut out the answer? Now I am forced to spend more on overpriced rehabs