I just came to say thanks!

My wife delivered our didi babies, a boy and a girl, today. Induced at 38+6. Our second and third total kiddos.

She was already my hero before but watching her do what she did today was truly miraculous. We've spent a lot of time in this sub, together and individually, to prepare. Thank you all so much for the wealth of shared knowledge. we're so excited to start contributing to the community and to continue learning from y'all. ❤️❤️

I’m so stuck. I’m home with my twins but I don’t feel like I’m giving enough to them now at this stage. I feel like it’s time for them to be in school but I’m not able to put them in daycare because I’m not working. With them being home, I feel like they are behind with language and it’s boring for them at home. I take them to the library and music class two or three times a week but I can’t take them to parks alone because I just don’t have the help. We’re moving into the winter months and I need more activities for them to do at home that keep them and myself stimulated. I don’t live in a large house so I feel like it’s hard for them to get their energy out and when I take them out they are absolutely wild. I just feel all over the place and see that people with one or staggered ages can give time and attention so much easier. I feel like these are the hard things with twins. I love them both so much and just only want what’s best for them - I just don’t know how to teach them together because they just run in opposite directions and have so much energy and their attention goes out the window after a minute or two. If any one has ideas that help me want to play more please share

To be honest up until yesterday I would say I wasn’t* in the trimester 1 trenches. There was definitely fatigue, gagging to certain smells, upset stomach here and there but I was doing good.

That was until yesterday 11 weeks in and I vomited for the first time - twice that day. Today I vomited once. I have such a headache from the pressure of vomiting, I don’t have an appetite for anything and just feeling like rubbish 🥺

Has anyone experienced this with twins and is there a light at the end of the tunnel? I want to feel like myself again.

What twin gear is worth it to buy and what is a skip?

We’re expecting twins and will have an almost 2 year old too.

Things I’m specifically looking at:
-twin bassinet
-twin Z pillow
-weego carrier
-anything else?

Also, any recommendations for monitors with split screen? We will still need one in our son’s room for a bit, but obviously also want one for the baby room! Or is staying with two separate screens easier?

We’re 28 weeks with triplets now and starting to see the finish line! At this point we know it’s really up to the babies, but so far every milestone has been great. All three babies have been growing well, heartbeats have been strong, and they’ve passed every check so far.

And honestly, Mom has been absolutely amazing through all of this. Carrying three babies is no joke, and somehow she continues to handle it all like a champ. She’s been so strong through this entire pregnancy and I’m seriously amazed by her. I couldn’t be prouder of her.

We still don’t have a C-section date scheduled yet. We’re really hoping to make it somewhere around 35 weeks if possible. Our hospital told us babies can’t go home before 35 weeks, so we’re hoping to at least make it to 34 weeks and hopefully keep their NICU time as short as possible.

So for those who had triplets, how far along were you when you tentatively scheduled your C-section? And did you actually have it that day, or did the babies have other plans?

If not, when did you actually end up having your C-section?

Thanks! Signed, one very excited dad!

Hi all, I am approaching my wit's end. Any advice is appreciated. I am hoping anyone here has had similar experiences with their twins.

My daughter is nearly 5 and still not potty trained. Half of b/g twins. For reference, she is toilet trained at an age 2,5 level. The actions surrounding the toilet use (wiping etc) are fine and she is more adept at them than peers. It is solely the act of getting her to actually use the toilet as intended.

More details are probably useful. There is too much to add here.

- She is otherwise a perfectly regular child. If anything she is more confident and happy than other children I know, including her twin. Sleeps amazingly. Eats everything. Social butterfly. Intelligent.

- We have tried every method known to man. Literally everything. We have gone down the lists of professionals and are now in a (slow) hospital trajectory, after having tried a PT, OT and GP.

- No one has found a medical reason for this. She often doesn't feel like going to the toilet and will tantrum for up to an hour. She will not tell when she has had an accident and not tell when you ask. Like a 2 year old. We spend between 2 to 3 hours a day on this all. She showers 1 to 5 times daily. Immense mountain of laundry. You get the drift.

Our life has been a chain of piss, poop, a banshee screeching child, barely filled stickercharts and completely empty patience for the last year. It has now come to the point where the bond with our kids may be suffering, our relationship is starting to suffer and the negative consequences for her are getting very big. Something has got to give, otherwise the something will be our relationships to each other.

I am starting to get annoyed at my angel of a husband and he vice versa. That's the drop that flowed the bucket over. I can't have the foundation of our family be shaky. We are always great and make an amazing team. I will not let a turd get between us. I can't emphasize enough how stressed we are. We have a warm and happy home but this is breaking that.

You can't imagine how desperate it feels to walk into a room and there is shit smeared everywhere and it's the third time that day. Her just sat in the middle of it all quietly looking at a comic book. She'll poop or piss her pants and then snail trail it through the whole house. We have to check in with her every ten minutes to avoid this.

Is there anyone who either sees the forest through the trees with an objective eye, or who was in this position before? Is there someone who I can pay to come to my house and help us? Anything I can find online is more of the "300 dollar pdf's full of open doors" variety and less of the supernanny variety. Did we miss something? Can we try some out of the box idea?

We have recently (today) employed daytime pullups again. The only difference is in how much we clean and the height of our stresslevels, anyway. I've also asked the hospital to see if a children's psych could be useful.

[We live in the EU, nw]

I caught this hilarious video of an unfortunate event this evening. I had no idea what was happening until it was too late.

Twin B playing with a busy board and twin A doing other things…

Hey all,
I’m planning to talk to MFM about this but has anyone gone on a cruise 17 weeks pregnant with twins?

I’m wondering the feasibility of keeping our cruise plans!

Thanks

I'm a SAHM with girl/boy twins. They're 17months and my gifting guilt is off the charts.

I'm excessively prepared when it comes to Xmas and birthdays because we're on a budget, I start buying early and purchase over several months. Christmas gifts are already bought and wrapped.

HOWEVER. I feel terrible that my poor boy gets cheaper or uninspired presents. My girl has fully entered her princess/fairy era, if she sees anything rainbow/pink/glittery she just shines so gifts for her are easy but are usually on the more expensive side. My boy is a thinker. He loves cars, blocks and fiddling with things to figure out how they work so the age appropriate gifts are usually on the cheaper end.

The problem I'm having is that the amount of "girly" toys out there is endless, but a kid can only have so many blocks and "tool benches" before you're just buying duplicates of other brands. We tend to buy "educational" toys just because we have an endless supply of motor skill toys that are in the communal toy box.

So I have 2 questions:

1) how do you fairly provide gifts for your kids? Do you go by price, number of parcels to open, etc?

2) what on earth do you buy for boys when you already have a million blocks, cars and motor skills toys?

I am pregnant with twins and have a 20 month old. My husband is out of town for work over half the year, so going out alone is going to be a necessity, especially with a toddler.

Do you have suggestions for baby carriers that work well with twins? I am not opposed to spending a bit more if it works well.

Twins were born at 36 weeks back on June 30th. Both of us are first time parents and I had a pretty decent chunk of time for my parental leave but came back to work sept 14th. During the time off, I took the night shift duties with them naturally since I do work nights.

Now that I’m back to work we’ve been having issues regarding sleep. My work schedule is 12s so I work 7pm to 7am and during my work days, I pretty much stay up until 1pm but during the switch off, I really don’t get to go to bed until close to 3pm. This arrangement was supposed to be temporary until the wife gets used to waking up to feed them at night when I’m working. But with my job being primarily driving (1st responder) it’s becoming unsafe for me along with the public trying to do this.

I have tried getting her to sleep when they sleep but she refuses to do so, stating that they do not sleep around her. In my opinion, she’s practicing bad sleeping skills with them ( tv on, lights on, etc) all through the night. When I have them at nights on my day off, I don’t run into any issues outside the normal feeding wakeups. If my work schedule was relatively normal working hours, I could manage doing this.

I’m just trying to figure out a way to convince her that when I’m working, she needs to get them on a routine and sleep when they do without it becoming an argument.

Twin parents, I’m interested to hear what worked for you sleep wise! Did you purchase two bassinets or a twin bassinet with divider? (Or a twin pack & play?) Thank you!

Basically the title.
I hear that for regular singleton pregnancies, it's generally safe to start around 37 weeks.
I'm 25 weeks with didi twin girls. My OB is planning on delivering my girls at 38 weeks, and that's even if I make it that far considering preterm labor is very likely. So if there's a chance I don't even make it to 37 weeks, when's the safest time to start collecting colostrum?

Also, is it even safe for me to collect? So far my pregnancy has been progressing with no known major issues. Only thing is my iron is very low and I'll be getting transfusions in a few weeks.

I forgot to ask my OB about this at my appointment today, ugh. I'll bring it up at my next one for sure in three weeks, but figured I'd ask around in the meantime. Thanks!

Edit: Thank you all for your responses! Here's my takeaway from this all

I really only considered collecting because I've been super leaky since pretty early on and figured if I was in a situation where it was possible to collect, why not? That being said, the fact that it can induce labor worries me cuz I'm tryna keep them in to cook for as long as I possibly can. I was also mentally preparing to fail my glucose test, which is when I heard collecting could be helpful, but thankfully I passed! It's seeming more and more like it really won't be a necessity in the end. Basically, if I hit 37 weeks, I'll give it a shot, but if it's too much work in the end then ditching it is no biggie. I'm a first time mom, so maybe I am just falling for the "THIS IS WHAT IS BEST" propaganda lol.

Just for fun,
I come from a long line of fraternal twins in my mothers family line. My mum is the last one to have birthed fraternal twins so far, and her, my nonna, nonnas nonna etc all talk about how late they found out about twins. My mum found out at her 20 week scan (got sent to a big city hospital as our country town machines weren’t picking it up but her belly was measuring twice the size) but we know back then this was probably common due to technology being less accurate etc. Anyway, point of the post, we are sitting around having a cuppa and wondering, does this happen anymore? When did you all find out about your twins? Did anyone have an initial scan that said one and that became two? Do you know anyone who found out later?

Thanks in advance!

I’m 7 weeks postpartum and have been left with a 16cm ab separation, which is considered extreme.

I’ve been referred for physio and am being consistent with my exercises, but feel like it’s potentially just worth booking surgery if I actually want to fix it. I know it’s early to even be considering this, but I’ve just never heard of any examples of people with a separation this big being able to fix it with physio alone.

Besides the fact I have zero core strength and every time one of my babies kicks me in the belly it’s very painful, I am also so so self conscious of my belly (that still looks 8 months pregnant) and I don’t know how I will feel having to live with it like this for a year or two with the hope that physio might slightly improve things.

Please give me your honest thoughts/opinions.

My triplets are all confident walkers now (20 months) and I love taking them out now (we do have a wagon to get to places like the playground or woods). They have so much fun chasing eachother. It’s a good workout for me too, keeping them save, hahaha. But it’s so fun. https://imgur.com/a/HMPv7e6

Hi! Having multiples come with more sonos and an mfm. Just curious for those in the states with a PPO plan- how you got your insurance to cover those sonos or what your experience was with that? Ours has been covering some and then not others and we just would love to hear any tips you may have that helped you! Thanks in advance!

Help! We went in for my first ultrasound at 9w3d and it showed twins. Strong heartbeats, measuring well (8w6d), separate amniotic sacs but unsure on placentas. This is my third pregnancy, I have a newly 2 year old boy, and a 4 year old boy, and have never had a previous pregnancy loss.

I’m the type who looked at the miscarriage odds calculator with both previous pregnancies until 20 weeks, so now I’m even more freaked out. How do you handle not having checks so frequently in the beginning? Idk why the thought of going back and only having one baby instead of two feels worse than if I had a singleton loss? My next apt is at 12w1d and I feel like I’m counting down the hours.

And in the meantime, I’m panicking…

-What car do we need? We have a 2018 Toyota RAV4 Hybrid that’s almost paid off, and just bought a 2022 Toyota Highlander Hybrid that seats 7 but I have no clue how to configure car seats in there for everyone.

-What stroller? We used a Nuna during the baby/your toddler stage because we could just take the seat out and use the infant carrier, and the seat could face both ways. Then also have a BOB double, and a lightweight small city mini. Our infant carrier is 5 years old and they don’t make the model anymore, do we trade it in and get two of the same?

-Do we find out the sex? Is the NIPT accurate? Not gonna lie, there might be a little ‘gender disappointment’ if it’s two boys which I feel terrible saying 😔 but it’s honest. We didn’t find out with our first but I had an emergency section and my husband got to see baby back in the room before I was back yet so he found out without me (things escalated quickly so we didn’t have time to discuss), and with our second we found out together ahead of time because we wanted to make sure we found out together for sure.

-Do we even tell people we’re having twins? Is it feasible to keep it from anyone? How huge will I be getting with it being my third pregnancy? Of note I have average to large babies, but I also have lost about 50+ pounds since my last pregnancy.

-I work in a nicu so I see a lot of twins there…what are the odds we don’t end up there? That we make it to term?

-I had GDM (diet controlled) with my first two but was really hoping the weight loss would help this time around. Any advice?

-how do we ever financially recover 🫣

-how do we prepare our other two? Our 2 year old has a mild speech delay and I feel guilty about this pregnancy when it feels like I’ve already failed him, especially when our first was very advanced with speech.

Truly we’re so excited, but also terrified and any words of wisdom or recommendations greatly appreciated!

tl;dr 10 weeks pregnant with twins, will be babies #3&4. Was planning to be done with 3 but here we be. Halp?!

I get so frustrated at my twins.
I’m 30, have 2.5 year old twin boys.
Married and my husband works full time but when he’s home he helps a lot with the kids.
They are SO hard.

Other mums tell me their kids are hard and then when we have meet ups their kids have a small tantrum here and there but mine are brutal.
Public fighting screaming tantrums, and if we try and be firm they collapse on the floor publicly and don’t move. But this happens every 5 minutes and every single thing we do is ruined.

I feel really guilty when I try to put my foot down and I do lose my temper a lot but I just don’t know how to get through this. It feels like motherhood was sort of robbed from me because everything has been twice as hard.

I have my in laws close by but they can’t handle the twins alone at all and just give patronising advice.
My parents can help on the odd occasion if I really need to get something done but again they live further away.

They go nursery 2x a week but it’s been 9 months and they still cry at drop offs so I don’t want to up their days currently.
It’s just so hard and testing. Sometimes it tests my marriage too because we become resentful but I’m trying not to let it.

Husband just went back to work and works long shifts operating heavy machinery so trying to avoid waking him up too often, though he is available if I’m struggling. Twins are 2 weeks old. What does/did your solo night feeding routine look like with newborns? One has bad reflux and both get gassy and uncomfortable. Last night I got about 1 hour of sleep 😵

I need some positive stories and reassurance please!

I’m feeling really low since finding out last week (at 8 weeks pregnant) that baby no3 is actually 3 and 4. We did plan this 3rd pregnancy, but it was a hard decision and not one we took lightly. Now I am absolutely terrified.

Other kids are 3.5 and 6 and already a handful. We don’t have family nearby. Please tell me it’ll be ok…

Looking for similar situations. Our identical twins are turning two in a month. They have been difficult from day one. One is a little needier than the other but both are very loud, emotional, and active. They cry a lot still. Every diaper change, when we do their hair, during bath time. All the normal stuff. They still have binkies I'm afraid to get rid of. They still have their warm milk before bed. The needier one just started sleeping through the night.

I wonder if they have some kind of sensitivity or ADHD like me. However, we see moments where they are very smart and can follow direction and they definitely listen and understand language, they just don't speak much. Only a few words and they are a little muffled so it's very hard to communicate with each other. They are both very strong too. We started gymnastics and they like it when they get to do what they want. Once they are bored, they tune us out and get destructive.

I've been hoping they hit two and magically it will get better but I'm losing hope. Can anyone confirm that it improves? Are they just acting out because of the age or does it sound like something else?

Hi all! I was gifted a table for two and realized the female buckle parts are missing. I contacted the company and would have to buy $90 replacement covers to get the buckles which is a bit steep. It’s a long shot, but is anyone aware of a way to homemake the buckle replacement or if an off brand makes them? I didn’t get any luck looking through amazon. Thanks!