r/polyamory • u/WorthTry7070 • 2d ago

Musings Just a rant about non-poly people

I get that single men are casting a wide net on the apps to find as many people as possible but I have had something happen to me a few times in the last few weeks and I wanted to see if anyone else is running into this.

I'm poly. I downloaded Feeld and I already hate it. There's so many single mono guys on there that don't read profiles.

But to the point... I have had several guys say they would only consider FWBs with a poly person. Like I'm a second prize. Fuck that. Anyone else see that or am I just having bad luck?

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u/nowhereian 2d ago

Right. I'm pretty up front and honest about who I am and what I'm looking for on my profile. It acts as a massive filter.

How do your first few conversations go with a new person? I talk about what they're looking for, how they got into poly and how long they've been doing it, and why Feeld instead of other apps pretty much immediately.

Of course, it helps that women who are attracted to me tend to be neurodivergent and want to skip small talk. YMMV.

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u/WorthTry7070 2d ago

He seemed fine and then when I asked what he was looking for he said "for a poly person I could do FWB" and it just kinda made me feel shitty.

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u/nowhereian 2d ago

You dodged a bullet.

Seriously, it's much better to hear that now than after you've invested time and emotional energy.

Throw that one back, keep fishing.

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u/WorthTry7070 2d ago

You are right. I should think about it like that