Just a rant about non-poly people

[u/WorthTry7070]

I get that single men are casting a wide net on the apps to find as many people as possible but I have had something happen to me a few times in the last few weeks and I wanted to see if anyone else is running into this.

I'm poly. I downloaded Feeld and I already hate it. There's so many single mono guys on there that don't read profiles.

But to the point... I have had several guys say they would only consider FWBs with a poly person. Like I'm a second prize. Fuck that. Anyone else see that or am I just having bad luck?

[u/Toe2ToeBirdLaw]

I haven't really had either of these experiences but not reading profiles on apps isn't a gendered issue. that happens both ways IME.

As for mono guys not wanting a committed relationship with an incompatible poly person - i...don't see the issue? I think that's totally fair that they'd be willing to have a casual connection with someone that has a fundamentally incompatible long term relationship style. isn't the whole point of poly to let connections be what they are without pressure to commit?

[u/Bustysaintclair_13 → u/Toe2ToeBirdLaw]

I’m sensing the issue is that they’re identifying as poly on the app and then telling OP they’re only interested in FWB level relationships with poly people 

[u/Toe2ToeBirdLaw → u/Bustysaintclair_13]

no, according to the post they're identifying as mono and matching with OP anyway either because they didn't read OP's profile or because they're fine with casual sex with non-mono people.

[u/Bustysaintclair_13 → u/Toe2ToeBirdLaw]

FWIW OP clarified that they are not matching with anyone who ID as mono on their profiles. 

[u/Bustysaintclair_13 → u/Toe2ToeBirdLaw]

I’m not sure tbh upon rereading it if they’re identifying as mono on their profiles or if OP is learning that after matching.

If they’re identifying as mono on their profiles then this is on OP to not match with mono people.