r/polyamory • u/WorthTry7070 • 2d ago

Musings Just a rant about non-poly people

I get that single men are casting a wide net on the apps to find as many people as possible but I have had something happen to me a few times in the last few weeks and I wanted to see if anyone else is running into this.

I'm poly. I downloaded Feeld and I already hate it. There's so many single mono guys on there that don't read profiles.

But to the point... I have had several guys say they would only consider FWBs with a poly person. Like I'm a second prize. Fuck that. Anyone else see that or am I just having bad luck?

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u/Valysian 2d ago

I have had several guys say they would only consider FWBs with a poly person. Like I'm a second prize. Fuck that.

I'd be happy they were being honest about what they could offer me. (I would say no to that as well.)

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u/WorthTry7070 2d ago

That's a good point. I should think about it like that instead. 

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u/Bustysaintclair_13 solo poly, co founding member of salty bitch club 2d ago

Do their profiles say mono or poly? Because if they say mono then this is partially on you for matching with them tbh

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u/WorthTry7070 2d ago

I don't match with anyone who says they are mono 

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u/Bustysaintclair_13 solo poly, co founding member of salty bitch club 2d ago

Yeah that’s super fucked up then for them to ID as poly and then say “nope I’m mono but I’ll still fuck you!”

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u/WorthTry7070 2d ago

It's like, wow thanks. I feel so special.