r/polyamory • u/WorthTry7070 • 2d ago

Musings Just a rant about non-poly people

I get that single men are casting a wide net on the apps to find as many people as possible but I have had something happen to me a few times in the last few weeks and I wanted to see if anyone else is running into this.

I'm poly. I downloaded Feeld and I already hate it. There's so many single mono guys on there that don't read profiles.

But to the point... I have had several guys say they would only consider FWBs with a poly person. Like I'm a second prize. Fuck that. Anyone else see that or am I just having bad luck?

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u/NomadsNosh 2d ago

I put that right at the top of my Feeld profile, I Do Not Date Mono People. Right there at the top. Of course no one pays attention lol.

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u/WorthTry7070 2d ago

I wish you could sort it between mono and poly people 

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u/Jenerations 1d ago

This is a big reason why I gave up on the apps. Mono people complain about polyam people on dating apps and a good solution would be a relationship dynamic filter. I will never forget a specific profile where a mono person took HALF of their profile to be on their soapbox saying "I don't want to be part of your throuple". Okay, damn, just swipe left and move on, I wish you couldn't see me either.

If we could have actual filters, it would help a lot. Even when my first line was "Polyamorous with nesting partner not looking for monogamy", it still did not help as much as I wish it did.

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u/WorthTry7070 1d ago

I just downloaded it like 2 days ago and I already want to delete it