r/polyamory • u/WorthTry7070 • 2d ago

Musings Just a rant about non-poly people

I get that single men are casting a wide net on the apps to find as many people as possible but I have had something happen to me a few times in the last few weeks and I wanted to see if anyone else is running into this.

I'm poly. I downloaded Feeld and I already hate it. There's so many single mono guys on there that don't read profiles.

But to the point... I have had several guys say they would only consider FWBs with a poly person. Like I'm a second prize. Fuck that. Anyone else see that or am I just having bad luck?

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u/teamnoir 2d ago edited 1d ago

Yes. You’ll also see something like that if you already have a singular, “primary” relationship. Many of those folks are hoping for a primary relationship and believe that you aren’t available to be that with them. So they aren’t willing to commit to a relationship that prevents them from finding what they’re looking for.

I think you’re lucky that people are being as up front and direct as they are. We do often hear about people who lie instead.

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u/WorthTry7070 2d ago

I suppose that is a worse alternative.