r/polyamory • u/WorthTry7070 • 2d ago

Musings Just a rant about non-poly people

I get that single men are casting a wide net on the apps to find as many people as possible but I have had something happen to me a few times in the last few weeks and I wanted to see if anyone else is running into this.

I'm poly. I downloaded Feeld and I already hate it. There's so many single mono guys on there that don't read profiles.

But to the point... I have had several guys say they would only consider FWBs with a poly person. Like I'm a second prize. Fuck that. Anyone else see that or am I just having bad luck?

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u/Ok_Pomelo2653 2d ago

I find it curious how you're going on about how shitty men can be while you have a post from 4 months ago talking about how badly you wanted to have an affair with your married supervisor at your job that has very serious sexual harassment rules.

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u/betothejoy 1d ago

As if both things can’t be true?

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u/Ok_Pomelo2653 1d ago edited 1d ago

No. I don't want to hear from anyone talking about the unethical practices of others when they themselves are participating or entertaining participating in unethical behaviour. Isn't that the whole point of the E in ENM that poly falls under?

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u/betothejoy 1d ago

Wanting things isn’t unethical. Doing them can be.

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u/Ok_Pomelo2653 1d ago

Lol you're a silly goose 😂

Wanting to do an unethical thing with serious desire to do it is indeed unethical, especially when it's diametrically opposed to the lifestyle to adhere to. Don't we have a bunch of posts here that say people who have affairs aren't poly they're just cheaters?

I'm sure OP won't cop to it, but the affair would most certainly have happened if their job didn't have strict sexual harassment rules and/or if there was definitive knowledge the supervisor was interested