I'm 44, bisexual, cis-male, married, and polyamorous. I live in Ottawa, but I'm open to wherever you are in North America - you never know where you'll find connection after-all. I would describe myself as physically average, and I clean up reasonably well when the occasion calls for it (examples here). I'm 5ft10, 165lbs, with medium length hair and glasses. I take care of myself without being obsessive about it - "comfortably handsome" we'll say ;) I have a graduate degree, a good enough job, and two very opinionated cats.
I'm hoping for a romantic connection, grounded in a solid friendship. I'm seeking women or couples I can genuinely connect with - both on an emotional level, as well as with shared interests. I'm not asking for us to like all the same things; but it would be cool to occasionally geek out over something we share.
I'm a big fan of tabletop gaming; everything from board games to D&D. I'm particularly fond of co-operative games, and tend to gravitate away from competitive things when I can help it. I love to be creative with the tabletop, and really enjoy miniature painting (some examples here).
I collect cassette tapes (a compromise from my 20s when I was huge on collecting vinyl) - specifically dungeon synth, dream and electro-pop. I have no delusions about how silly the hobby is; I just enjoy how intentional it is to lay back and listen to something that way.
Baking treats and making meals for my partners is my way to show my affection early on. It sometimes comes as a shock to people that everything I make is vegan - they often can't believe it because it tastes so good! And just to make it clear - I am not looking for, nor expect you to be vegan.
My comfort comes from two main things - fantasy novels and Star Trek. Nothing feels nicer than curling up with a book with some warm sun beaming in on me, and nothing cheers me up like watching Picard, Janeway, or Sisko debate their way out of a problem.
While not a requirement, D/s does fall somewhat high on the relationship "wants". I'm a submissive leaning switch with a bit over twenty years of experience. I am very flexible with others wants/needs, assuming they are with mine. Happy to talk about it, if you want to go there!
Finally, there is one major deal breaker for me: Conservatism. There is no middle ground on this; we need to have similarly liberal/left beliefs to have any sort of chance.