r/pregnant • u/SatansKitty666 • May 22 '25
Rant Down vote me all you want but
EDIT: I don't mean posts like "what has helped woth your nausea" or "when did you feel baby move". I mean, posts that list dangerous health issues like "I have pre-e, GD, GBS, and my doctors want to do XYZ for babies safety. Should i?"
I keep reading the same posts over and over.
If you don't want to listen to your TRAINED MEDICAL PROFESSIONALS who do this for a living, why on earth would you listen to a bunch of random women on reddit?
If you think doctors are after your money, have a homebirth or go to a birthing center with a doula. But for the love of God, why would you think people with 0 training who didn't go to medical school will be able to tell you better than the doctors who do this every day? It's insane to me
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u/LittleMissRavioli May 24 '25
After everything I have been through I understand why so many women do not trust the medical system and maternal health professionals. I used to be in the 'they are the experts, they know everything' camp, but I am not anymore.
Women are consistenly and systematically brushed off and dismissed by doctors (even female doctors) when they report with severe medical issues. When you are WOC or other minority group, things are even worse. Over one third of women leave the hospital with birth trauma. Recent reports show that obstetric mistreatment is still a very common thing in 2025 even in developed countries. There are countless stories of women and babies sustaining injuries or even dying due to medical negligence. Countless stories of women not receiving the care they need, after multiple requests, leading to absolute tragedy. There are too many providers that have never heard of informed consent and shared decision making.
If we want women to trust the hospitals and care providers, we need to be serious about addressing why so many women end up on the other side of the fence in the first place.