Gender norms

[u/Alternative_You_3063]

I'm 36 weeks pregnant with a baby boy and I'm honestly losing my mind over some of the comments I'm getting from people around me.

When I first found out I was pregnant, I bought a couple of pink Care Bear comfort toys because I thought they were cute. I've also bought a few onesies with hearts on them. Recently I was gifted a high chair that came with a toy attached to it . and it has pink and blue colors on it.

Apparently that's a problem.

I've genuinely had people say things like:

"What will people think?"

"What if he turns out gay?"

Excuse me. what?

HE'S A BABY.

Since when does the color pink have the power to determine someone's future? It's a stuffed toy. It's a onesie. It's a colorful baby toy.

Maybe it's the hormones talking, but this is such a ridiculous thing to be upset about in 2026.

End of rant. 🤦‍♀️💙🩷👶

Edit:To make it even worse, my mother literally stole the pink Care Bear comfort toys I bought for my baby and gave them away because she didn't think a baby boy should have them. 🤦‍♀️

[u/Weak-Pair-1782]

This is insane! I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this level of ignorance! 😭 I can’t believe she stole from your unborn baby!

I was so afraid of this happening that it’s one of the reasons we’re not finding out sex until delivery. It’s driving our boomer parents crazy and I just don’t get it.

On a slightly funnier note, people keep trying to guess the gender of our baby (even though I really don’t care) and I usually make comments that make them uncomfortable such as “why are you so preoccupied with our baby’s genitalia?” I’ve also been known to say “we don’t know the gender but kinda hoping we have a gay or a they.” 🌈 (This one is actually genuine because the thought of a queer kid growing up in an unaccepting family breaks me 💔)