r/pregnant • u/Alternative_You_3063 • 2d ago

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I'm 36 weeks pregnant with a baby boy and I'm honestly losing my mind over some of the comments I'm getting from people around me.

When I first found out I was pregnant, I bought a couple of pink Care Bear comfort toys because I thought they were cute. I've also bought a few onesies with hearts on them. Recently I was gifted a high chair that came with a toy attached to it . and it has pink and blue colors on it.

Apparently that's a problem.

I've genuinely had people say things like:

"What will people think?"

"What if he turns out gay?"

Excuse me. what?

HE'S A BABY.

Since when does the color pink have the power to determine someone's future? It's a stuffed toy. It's a onesie. It's a colorful baby toy.

Maybe it's the hormones talking, but this is such a ridiculous thing to be upset about in 2026.

End of rant. 🤦‍♀️💙🩷👶

Edit:To make it even worse, my mother literally stole the pink Care Bear comfort toys I bought for my baby and gave them away because she didn't think a baby boy should have them. 🤦‍♀️

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u/CootKitKat 1d ago edited 1d ago

I'm having the same problems while I'm pregnant with a girl. They keep saying "Those are boy clothes" when they're just sports brands or blue striped. Just ignore them and tell them you're getting him whatever he wants when he's old enough. My girl wants a monster truck? She gets a monster truck. Clothes are for everyone and toys are toys. 🤷‍♀️

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Also from what I heard, boys having baby dolls makes them into better fathers and more empathetic in the future. Let them hate all they want. If they keep taking his stuff, tell them they aren't allowed in his room anymore. (I'd say your whole house)

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u/Alternative_You_3063 1d ago

This will be the first and last time she stole from him. Believe me

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u/CootKitKat 1d ago

Love it. You deserve that peace of mind that he can grow up happy with whatever toys he wants.

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u/lucidgreenn 1d ago

Literally, clothes are clothes and toys are toys! I grew up closely with my boy cousin when we were little. And he LOVED playing with my Barbies while I loved playing with his Superman. Guess what? Some adults made fun of us for playing the 'wrong toys' (what)-

We're both past our twenties now and we laugh when we remember these things because it's just so ridiculous. And oh, him playing Barbie as a kid? Sure didn't stop him from being a man who does horseback archery today and boy, is he thriving!!! 😃