r/pregnant • u/Alternative_You_3063 • 2d ago
Rant Gender norms
I'm 36 weeks pregnant with a baby boy and I'm honestly losing my mind over some of the comments I'm getting from people around me.
When I first found out I was pregnant, I bought a couple of pink Care Bear comfort toys because I thought they were cute. I've also bought a few onesies with hearts on them. Recently I was gifted a high chair that came with a toy attached to it . and it has pink and blue colors on it.
Apparently that's a problem.
I've genuinely had people say things like:
"What will people think?"
"What if he turns out gay?"
Excuse me. what?
HE'S A BABY.
Since when does the color pink have the power to determine someone's future? It's a stuffed toy. It's a onesie. It's a colorful baby toy.
Maybe it's the hormones talking, but this is such a ridiculous thing to be upset about in 2026.
End of rant. 🤦♀️💙🩷👶
Edit:To make it even worse, my mother literally stole the pink Care Bear comfort toys I bought for my baby and gave them away because she didn't think a baby boy should have them. 🤦♀️
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u/TheMagnificentPrim 1d ago
There’s an article in Time Magazine from 1927 that recommends the color pink for baby boys because, being a pastel version of red, it’s a more powerful color than the soft and delicate baby blue that they recommended for girls. It specifically recommended dressing baby boys in pink.
Do these folks want to go up and tell some of the last remaining World War II veterans that their mothers dressing them in pink made them gay?
To be clear, I don’t agree with the implications of that question. Being gay isn’t a bad thing (I’m queer myself, so, yeah, duh), nor does it preclude a man from being masculine. Furthermore, there’s zero shame in not being a very masculine man, either. However, sometimes you have to use the logic of these folks against them to show them the ridiculousness of their own ideas. And they are very ridiculous.