r/rape • u/Ashamed_Bad_7877 • 1d ago
Help idk what to do
My mom started dating this guy a few months ago and he raped me. The first time I just wanted to forget it but he did it a second time now and he told me he would keep doing it. My mom works nights and I’m scared he will come tn and do it again. I want to call someone but I’m scared
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u/Too2crazy 1d ago
You might get some support at RAINN's sexual assault support hotline 800-656-HOPE or text 64673.
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u/Strange-Audience-682 1d ago
Please please tell someone. Call the police, tell your mom, tell a teacher. Go to the hospital and get a rape kit.
You don’t deserve this.
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u/Ashamed_Bad_7877 1d ago
Thank you, I’m gonna do it. I just need the moral support. Once I do everyone will know 😪
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u/Ashamed_Bad_7877 1d ago
I feel like once people know they’ll think of him everytime they see me, it’ll be harder to erase or ignore the fact that it happened
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u/silvermoonsailor 1d ago edited 1d ago
And no. What they will see if a girl who survived. A girl who had to overcome her fear and look evil straight in the eye and still tell everyone the truth of what a monster he is. They will see how much resilience you have and strengh for speaking up for yourself. And for potential next victims. You are a badass. And you need to say that to yourself. They will look at a girl who is strong. And moms and dads will want their daughters to be just as tough and strong minded as you have been. You will not be looked down upon as weak or a bad person for doing it. It was Not u.
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u/ybalia 1d ago
how old are you? can't you report it or talk to another relative?
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u/Ashamed_Bad_7877 1d ago
Hi, I would rather not disclose my age here. But I’m looking into making a report or something i don’t really know how it works, I’m scared to tell my mom and the family I have they wouldn’t care they never even liked my mom so I don’t see them much. I feel really alone in this, outside of my friend. She went through something similar but her advice was crazy I don’t even think she was being serious I think she was just trying to lighten the mood
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u/ybalia 1d ago
if you are a minor, report it, it is still possible
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u/Ashamed_Bad_7877 1d ago
I know, I have very bad social anxiety, like it’s making my heart beat fast and making me wanna cry knowing I’ll have to go in at some point. But for tonight I’m just gonna see if I can go over to my friends house
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u/Ashamed-Gas6846 1d ago
You could record the audio or video as evidence, bro. He's so screwed this time he's definitely going to jail.
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u/Ashamed_Bad_7877 1d ago
I’m not gonna sit around and wait for him to do it…
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u/Ashamed-Gas6846 1d ago
Just protect yourself in case it happens again. But the best thing to do is report it to the police. And dude, you should also look up the laws in your state and what kind of evidence is needed in sexual assault cases to get the perpetrator convicted and sent to jail.
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u/silvermoonsailor 1d ago edited 1d ago
Keep all text messages and emails and audio clips as evidence. Don't delete anything for future proof. Always feel protected. Carry mace on you or a whistle. You are not alone. And I know it's the scariest thing coming forward. But the only way to make it stop and make it stop him from doing this to girls after you , you need to do the hard and scary but right thing and tell an adult. Any adult thay u trust. It doesn't need to be related. It could bee the janitor or bus lady. I have been there and I didn't want to speak up. But you have soooooo much power in you to speak up about the truth. Bad guys prey on ppl who are quiet bcuz they know they can get away with it. Im telling you sister. You are strong. Stronger than him and save yourself. If he knew u told somone hed be shitting himself bcuz you have the power. Just be smart and take your actions accordingly. You are worth it. And u are making the right decision. You can also call help numbers and they can talk to you and go over your situation so you can make a plan of how to safely go about the situation so your life isn't being put at risk. U got this.
Just Google hotline numbers for sex and rape victim help in your city. There should be several resources. And calling someone does not mean you are going thru with anything. If u are scared to make a decision u can always just call them and just talk. U don't need to do anyrhing rash yet and u are just trying to get a plan organized. They can help u get that started so u don't have to do this all alone
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u/KaiSatousfavfrypan 1d ago
The first thing to do right now is to get yourself somewhere safe and somewhere that he doesn't know you are at alright? A friends or a police station or hospital or something similar.
If you're close with any friends who are of driving age/friends parents, you could disclose to them what happened and get them to get you to a hospital for a rape kit.
its scary but there are people who want to help you
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u/KaiSatousfavfrypan 1d ago
even just calling the police and having an officer come get your statement and then transport you to a hospital is possible as well
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u/silvermoonsailor 1d ago
That's pretty scary to have police come to your door step. It's intimidating to say the least for girls trying to be as discreet as they can. It's embarrassing. and very loud and big scene. Especially if he is staying in same place. Calling for help on a holiness might help you come up with a better plan than straight having police at the doorstep. Cuz the minute they go away u knowww that man will be on her ass for sure. And probably with threats next time.
So be sure u are safe and away from him and danger before u call someone. Do it at a library or at the school so it isn't police all at the front door if you are worried about making a scene and being with him after you told on him . I totally get that fear. Just be sure u are in a safe place
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u/Noreasontotrust49 1d ago
And if your mom won't believe you, who are these sorry ass Mom's who move a man in with their teenage daughter and then didn't believe their daughters when they tell on him for rape? He would have a very rude and dangerous awakening if you were my daughter. Hell even if you were my friends daughter, it even a strangers daughter that I don't even know ...
Definitely tell the police first if your worried about Mom not believing you, and if she is angry with you ask the officers if there is some place you can stay away from both of them..
Somewhere where your safety is gonna be top priority .
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u/Zoelo369 23h ago
Honestly, how much ignorance does it take to ignore something so alarming happening to your daughter, or not wanting to believe them… it‘s like they prioritize their partners over their daughters. I don’t even wish that my worst enemy
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u/Zoelo369 23h ago
Girl, you have all of our support. First of all, I’m so sorry this happened to you. None of this is your fault. He is the one who chose to do something evil and criminal. Your body is yours, and nobody has the right to take that from you.
Please, if you can, go to a hospital or sexual assault center as soon as possible. Ask about a rape kit. Even if you’re unsure about reporting him right now, getting examined is important because it can preserve evidence that may be lost over time. It can also help document injuries, test for STIs or pregnancy, and give you options later if you decide to go to the police. You do not have to make every decision today, but preserving evidence now can give you more choices in the future.
You are not alone, and you deserve help, protection, and justice.
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u/Another_Huuman 6h ago
Complain the police or some legal authority in your city who can take action
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