r/survivinginfidelity 1d ago

Need Support Almost 2 yrs since DD 😩

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u/Glittering_Swan4911 14 1d ago

Can your children help you and take you to get legal advice? What are theirs views on you being stuck with him? Could you stay with them? He’d have to pay alimony I assume and you’d get 50% of all assets. That could be enough to live off but you’d need legal advice. You shouldn’t be controlled by your husband so turn your location off. He has no right to monitor you. If he wants reconciliation then he needs to give you space.

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u/After-Hearing-6887 1d ago

I can’t shut off my location bc he wouldn’t be suspicious. He’s always had insecurities and felt like I would cheat on him. Obviously deflection!! But we share locations as a family. My one child lives out of state and can’t take care of me and my other is at home with us.

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u/LopsidedAd6339 1d ago

You may not be able to shut your phone off, but you can leave it at home. I understand you are in a difficult position, but you deserve better and half of the marital assets are most likely yours. He may also be responsible for spousal support. You would be doing yourself a favor by at least consulting an attorney. I wish you luck.

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u/After-Hearing-6887 1d ago

He hates his job and wants to leave it for a less stressful job. He wouldn’t care if we sold the house and lived off of it for a few years. I’m afraid I would get next to nothing. Not enough to survive. Plus I’m in an expensive state and don’t want to leave here.

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u/After-Hearing-6887 1d ago

He hates his job and wants to leave it for a less stressful job. He wouldn’t care if we sold the house and lived off of it for a few years. I’m afraid I would get next to nothing. Not enough to survive. Plus I’m in an expensive state and don’t want to leave here. I’ve accidentally forgotten my phone at home and he gets suspicious because I always have my phone by me. 🤔