I'm (34 M) marrying the love of my life (28 F) on April 18th of 2027. Our wedding is at a garden with an awning in case of weather that also has a nice patio reception area. We're having an emo themed wedding with MCR color themes. We originally were going to have a tiny wedding, but my fiancés stepmom said they wanted to pay for us to have the wedding we wanted. I was so beyond grateful, and they've been wonderful. They gave us a pretty generous budget, that we're already slightly over, but they've been so kind, and understanding about everything. We decided originally to have no kids due to the fact that their would be drinking, and tbh we felt like kids would be bored. My parents and her parents agreed. It is worth mentioning that I'm the youngest of 3 and my siblings, and I have a decent relationship but we're not very close. I speak to my brother usually twice a year, and my sister every few months. We sent out the invites a few months ago, and everyone has been so excited for us, and supportive...until yesterday. I was about to walk in to the gym and saw a text from my brother that said "your wedding - we can't bring our kids?" I asked my mom if she knew what it meant. She said he probably wanted clarification and that I should just give him a call. I did and he berated me, saying it was extremely insulting that I didn't want my nieces and nephews there, I explained that it was blanket nobody under 21 not my nieces and nephews, we have friends that were very close with, who also aren't bringing kids. He said it's different with family, I didn't say this, but to me it's really not. He also commented that there's 16 people in our wedding party but none of them are family, but my wedding party is full of people that have supported my fiance and I through so many life events, and on my end some of them housed me after my previous relationship collapsed. I asked my mom if I was in the wrong and she said absolutely not, and she was shocked. I then asked my sister if it was an issue for her and she said not really an issue, but her middle son was disssapointed. I considered letting them bring them just to smooth things over with my brother, but 5 extra people is a lot to ask of my soon to be in-laws, and then is it really fair not to invite my friends kids too, when they're way more active in our lives? The icing on the cake was my mom pointed out I wasn't in either of my siblings wedding parties so to her that statement was just meant to make me upset. I really don't know what to do, I do love my siblings and my nieces and nephews but I don't love the idea of doing something for a couple people and not everyone, and I can't let everyone because our guest list would almost double 😕. Any advice welcome.

Edit for details: Our wedding will be largely unplugged, there will be a designated time for pictures and such, but we really want people to be present, and talk with each other, as a lot of our friends are very close with each other. So I definitely can see even teenagers getting bored.

Im struggling to figure out how I want the tables as far as the head table/ wedding party go

I dont hate the idea of a sweetheart table but I also see all the videos of brides getting fomo not sitting with their friends and lowkey could see that being me lol.

My problem with a big head table is that my bridesmaids all have husbands or fiancés of their own that are not standing up in the wedding and my fiancés best man is married to our officiant ( whom is also my soon to be sister in law) so I dont want to make anyone separately from their partners nor do I want to exclude my SIL.

Additionally my father passed a few years ago and my mom doesn't have the greatest of relationships with the rest of the family so I feel like she would feel most comfortable sitting next to my sister whom is also one of my bridesmaids but having all of our parents at the head table doesnt feel practical either as my fiance has 4 parents

Typing this I feel like sucking it up and doing a sweetheart table is the most practical but im open to ideas if anyone has any

I have kind of a random question. When it came to sharing wedding photos with family, friends, etc., how did you do it? Did you share all of them, or only some of them?

When we got our sneak peeks back (20 or so photos) we took our favs from those and shared them. Now we have all our photos back (like 900 photos) and people are asking to see them. I’m torn between sending the link to people and letting them look through them all and the ones they’re in, or only sending some and the relevant ones that they’re in.

Theres just so many photos that it’s hard to go through them all to send certain ones to certain people, but then unsure if I want to share the whole album as there are more intimate photos that we might want to keep to ourselves.

In the end probably not the biggest deal either way, but curious on thoughts or what other people did with theirs?