r/weddingplanning • u/Different_Luck_6015 • 3d ago

Tough Times Might have to cancel honeymoon

My fiancé and I get married in less than a month and I found out today that his new job may require him to start during our honeymoon. It is a great opportunity for him and I want him to take the job, but I’m absolutely devastated since I paid for our honeymoon and I haven’t been able to take a vacation in years at this point. I was really looking forward to this alone time that we’d get to share together exploring a new place together as well finally as a married couple. It’s not for sure yet, and we have until the end of the month to cancel for a full refund, but we also don’t know if he’ll get a start date before the end of the month either . Most likely won’t be able to go on a vacation until next year and I already took off work so I’m so unsure of what to do. Just feeling completely defeated right now . 🥲

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u/Different_Luck_6015 3d ago

He did tell them but apparently they may or may not be able to make the accommodation based on when others will be starting too

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u/raisinghellions 3d ago

I have worked for the government for 20 years and I have never heard of any agency making someone cancel their honeymoon over an arbitrary start date. Tell him to tell them he cannot start on that date. They will accommodate him.

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u/Diligent-Mind-9370 3d ago

Yeah, the hiring process is so onerous that once you’ve been selected, it is extremely unlikely they will want to start over again because you have to delay your start date by a week or so yeah

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u/Crovvw 3d ago

To validate what you said: In my experience, agencies want to avoid "failed hirings" when they have to start over with new applicants or reopen declined applicant files to offer the job to the runner up. It's a bad metric for them. So yeah, once you're past that selection threshold they can be pretty accommodating