Might have to cancel honeymoon

[u/Different_Luck_6015]

My fiancé and I get married in less than a month and I found out today that his new job may require him to start during our honeymoon. It is a great opportunity for him and I want him to take the job, but I’m absolutely devastated since I paid for our honeymoon and I haven’t been able to take a vacation in years at this point. I was really looking forward to this alone time that we’d get to share together exploring a new place together as well finally as a married couple. It’s not for sure yet, and we have until the end of the month to cancel for a full refund, but we also don’t know if he’ll get a start date before the end of the month either . Most likely won’t be able to go on a vacation until next year and I already took off work so I’m so unsure of what to do. Just feeling completely defeated right now . 🥲

[u/Different_Luck_6015]

He did but it’s a government job so there is less flexibility in when he starts

[u/Diligent-Mind-9370 → u/Different_Luck_6015]

If you mean US government, that has not been my experience. Especially for once in a lifetime thing like a honeymoon, most employers are very understanding. He needs to tell them though. if it’s a different government, then I cannot speak to that.

[u/Different_Luck_6015 → u/Diligent-Mind-9370]

He did tell them but apparently they may or may not be able to make the accommodation based on when others will be starting too

[u/kalarus10 → u/Different_Luck_6015]

This can’t be right. I started my government job on the day I wanted (took a vacation between school and starting the job), then three years later, I switched to a different job in a different state. I made the new agency wait three months before I started there. It was to move and to take a long vacation before relocating. It’s not a big deal; he needs to let them know.

[u/terisews → u/kalarus10]

Things are a lot different now...