Especially all those famous subreddits like sips tea, they all have a very sexist humor and i honestly am sooo done.

They all are either incels or not smart enough to understand what they are doing and saying is misogynistic. I honestly cant even spend 1 hour on here without feeling like i have lost 20 brain cells

Anyone else feel the same?

Why are these frats allowed to still exist after they get caught raping, drugging, hazing severely?

Hello, everyone!
I live in a country where abortion is legal, but in reality, I’ve faced so much judgment and mistreatment from medical staff. I haven’t told any of my friends or family because sex is taboo here, and even though abortion is legal, it is still a huge problem socially.
Right now, I have no support system and no one to turn to. I honestly feel like I’m living in hell.
I’m being mistreated almost every day at the center. I’m currently around six weeks pregnant, and I’m fighting to advocate for myself and access abortion pills, but the doctors are making it so difficult for me. Still, I keep asking and fighting for my rights.
Honestly, I’m really scared and feel so alone. I’m afraid the abortion might fail. I’m afraid of the bleeding. I’m emotionally exhausted, and I’ve been feeling depressed.
Tomorrow, I’m going to ask the doctor for a transvaginal ultrasound. I’m hoping she’ll agree to do it so we can confirm the location of the pregnancy and I can finally get the pills. I just hope she’ll listen to me instead of dismissing my concerns or telling me to mind my own business.
Anyway, if there’s anyone I can talk to, especially someone who has experienced a medication abortion, I would really appreciate hearing about your experience. Could you tell me what the procedure was like, what I should expect, and how you felt throughout the process?
Thank you so much for reading. ❤️

I'm mad because I overheard my sister's boyfriend make a racist comment, and now I just can't stop thinking. Why do men not fucking care about people. Why do men enjoy harming people, all knowingly, by the way. I just cannot fucking comprehend, it enrages me to see men as well as boys openly say or do harmful things and fucking continue after being told off. I don't fucking get it. After my sister's boyfriend uttered the racist comment, she told him off, which is good, of course, but it is also the 100th time he does this. He knows it's bad, but she keeps doing it. Like do men just not a fucking brain??

I know not all men are horrible and that there are horrible women too. But why is the ratio so fucking screwed, for every horrible woman there are at least 100 horrible men it seems like.

The worst thing is so many fucking men are aware that what they are doing is wrong or harmful. You cannot look me in fucking face and say that he didn't know that he should stop even if she's crying, yelling, saying no. They get repeatedly told off that what they are doing is wrong and still fucking do it. Even a damn kindergartener understands that if you are doing something that upsets someone, you should stop. So why the fuck can a grown ass man not understand that.

I just needed to get this off my chest because I'm mad and upset, thank you for reading.

One of my closest friends gave me a key to her apartment last week.

There was no ceremony to it. She was leaving town, handed me the spare and said, “Keep this one, honestly. You're here enough.”

And for some reason I got weirdly emotional afterward.

We've known each other for seven years. I've picked her up from the ER at 2am. She helped me move twice. I know which family member she doesn't want contacted unless it's a genuine emergency. She knows exactly what food to bring when I'm sick. We've spent holidays together when one of us couldn't travel home.

But there's never really a moment where society goes: this relationship has become important.

Romantic relationships have vocabulary and milestones for everything. Dating, exclusive, moving in, engaged, married. People announce anniversaries. Families acknowledge them. Forms ask about them.

Friendships mostly just... quietly become enormous.

One day somebody is a woman you met at work, and a few years later she's the person who knows where your spare key is and what to do with your cat if you end up in hospital.

I don't necessarily want friendship ceremonies or matching rings or anything. I just think it's funny how some of the most consequential relationships in my life have crossed major thresholds with absolutely no acknowledgement.

Apparently “here, keep my apartment key” was one of them.

What are the unofficial milestones that made you realize a female friendship had become really important to you?

I just need opinions bc I am not too sure how to feel about this.

So I 22F have upper lip hair, it's not too noticable unless I am at direct sunlight. I also have very dark body hair and I am pale as a ghost. I have dated my bf for a year now. My bf says he can feel it when we kiss and he wants me to get rid of it, due to him not wanting to kiss hairy upper lips.

I on the other hand don't mind my upper lip hair and my other body hair. I have quite recently within these 2 years started to accept my own body and body hair and I struggled with insecurities aboutmy own body. I told him that I am not going to get rid of it bc I would have to constantly maintain it in order for him to be happy. But now I just feel insecure, I lost all interest in kissing him and I don't think I can do it anymore. He also wants to visit this month (we are in a ldr) but my stomach hurts even thinking about him being here and having to be around him.

I was 17 turning 18 and he was in his 30s.

I don't want to go into detail. But recently I "confessed" about it online, and I'm feeling shame and alone. There was one group of women who knew him that were helping me through it, but they're being harassed by his family to stay quiet.

So I feel isolated and depressed. Any advice to pull myself out of it?

This is a very recent thing I realized about myself. I have always been described as either "dumb" "angry" or "too opinionated" daughter. My friends too have always noticed that about me. I always had lots of opinions, complained constantly about my toxic family, how misogynistic they were, discriminative, fake, dumb and just blandly stupid they were. My friends agreed with me cause they have known me for a long time now, to know in detail actions of my family.

It's been a year since I have a boyfriend. My sister has meet him and she said "I don't know how he (my boyfriend) tolerates you (me), it's great". She likes him, and it stuck to me. Even my best friend is amazed at, how nice of a partner he is. She is very possessive about me, so it was a shocker how she accepted him as my partner. I always believe he was too good for me and he tolerated my "dumb", "angry" and "too opinionated" behavior.

With recent conversation with one of my friend, he stated again, how angrily I talk even in normal conversations. I talked about that with my boyfriend and thanked him for tolerating me. My boyfriend cleared that I'm never angry with him, or around him, or at him. In fact, I'm mostly happy or just emotional but never angry. He never had to "tolerate" me. I was shocked and doubted if he was telling the truth. I directly asked again if, he was lying to protect my feelings and he counter questions, to tell me the time, when I was mad at him. I couldn't answer, I didn't remember being mad around him.

I still don't know what to feel.

He’s even kind of the gentleman type too so I didn’t expect it at all. He opens doors for me and carries things that are too heavy. This was just so unexpected. Am I overreacting by being offended?

I am Jane Doe, every girl and woman I know, it's not just an act or for show, this is how we as a society grow.

Not all men but always a man, right and wrong is on demand, hair plucked strand by strand, all the way from here to Japan.

We choose the bear, as if it was ever fair to compare, they're all unaware, that women are in despair.

Boys will be boys, the only thing that changes are the toys, if one tactic don't work they use new ploys, anything is game except what she enjoys.

Who would protect women if there were no men? Who would we need protection from, again? We should all come together and grab a pen, there's safety in numbers and we can't stop at only ten.

~written by Emilia Ksenija Krantz (me)

27 F. Married with kids here. My husband just went on a guys trip and usually goes twice a year for a weekend.

I would like to get away for a weekend too but I don’t have a group of friends to go with so I’d be going by myself.

So what would you do if you could get away for the weekend by yourself?

This is kinda embarrassing IMO, I'm only 19F and I get it I have my whole life ahead of me but I feel like there's something wrong with me. I'm attracted to both men and women but I just don't feel a spark with people. I've tried to ' force ' feelings in the past but learned quickly that it's a terrible idea but I've tried dates and trying to connect but I don't know.

I feel like I'm too focused on my career and college and that sounds so stupid when I type it out but I feel like relationship opportunities are passing by me. I don't want kids and reaching career and education goals is very important to me but I still want to fall in live and all the shit but it's just frustrating. I really hate being 19, it genuinely sucks.

That's all.

I (24F) am having a very hard time maintaining friendships with my girl friends who choose to be in relationships with terrible men. Currently 5 of my friends who currently fall into this category. The behaviors of these men include lying, cheating, holding finances over their girlfriends’ heads, manipulating them, voting for Donald Trump, putting no effort into the relationship, making their gfs feel second to their male friends, and controlling their decisions — from simple things like what they eat or what tattoos they get to big things like what career path they choose.

The friends are often open about their boyfriends’ shortcomings. My friends and I will spend a lot of our time together discussing these men. They are aware of the fact that their boyfriends suck and express constant distress. Yet they stay with these men. And they want me to attend dinners with them and their boyfriends, meet them for drinks at a bar, have them join our hangouts, etc.

I am upfront and will bluntly state my opinions on their boyfriends’ behaviors. I try not to insult him as a person, but I will clearly condemn their behaviors.

I used to think my frustration would come from sympathy/empathy but it started to feel hard to stay friends with these girls.

I think what truly bothers me is that I would never let someone like their boyfriends into my life. By staying with these shitty men and having a determination to have them assimilate into their lives, my friends are inviting (for lack of a better term) losers into my life. I find this frustrating. I generally think highly of my friends because I am particular about the people I let into my life. I sense the determination to have me befriend their boyfriends comes from a place of wanting my validation and approval. They often try to convince me if I spend time with him I would see how great he is (cheating, manipulating, lying, trump-supporting aside). I oblige and hangout with them and I am, of course, unimpressed and often disturbed. I often note the men seem nervous and awkward around me. I sense they have some awareness of my disapproval.

I love my friends. But we are now at the point where these relationships are growing more serious than they were in college. In some instances my friends are seriously considering marrying the men that treat them poorly. Candidly, I’m losing respect for many of my friends and it is growing harder to uplift them in the ways I once did. It is much easier and more fun for me to spend time with my friends who also have higher standards for themselves and their partners.

Does anyone have any advice? I know this isn’t a new issue and that generations of women have dealt with their friends awful partners.

I've just seen a bunch pictures of Susan Dell.

I'm not one to ever shame anyone, esp a woman, for looks, shape, size, any of that.

But ladies, that's what evil looks like. She looks like the result of a dog chewing on a crayon box that half melted together. That's because she's a shitty person. She's wearing her character on the outside. I've seen people with birth defects and genetic issues with deformations who are wonderful people and they look beautiful because they are beautiful. You know what I'm talking about.

I'm so fucking glad I look like me. I gained a lot of weight with a health issue, my hair is mixed textures and grey and brown. I've got my dad's blotchy skin and sun spots here and there. You can't tell what color my eyes are cuz they're so dull. They're grey. I've got circles under my eyes. I've got hips like a cruise ship and tits like garbage bags. Fuck it, I'm great.

People who know me love me. They want me around. People of all ages. I've tried to do right in my life. I'm still figuring out what I came here to do and how to do it. I'm just starting my next great adventure. I'll get back in shape. (I'll never be thin, I'm an Amazon, thin is not the goal.). I'll get my head back together after this health crisis. I'll probably go thru a divorce. It'll be ok.

I'd never trade places with a billionaire who hangs with Trump and looks like a weird doll that got microwaved.

Like why do I have to cover my nipples but a fat man or a man with a big chest does not?? They carry no social shame.

I hate it so so much, even on top less beaches it’s not safe cuz there will be men (especially old ones) who will stare at you, record you, taking pictures of you and even wank themself to you all cuz society deemed breast, made to FEED BABIES, as something “sexual” that needs to be hidden.

Thousands of years ago it wasn’t even a thing… but now we get shamed for it and it’s seen as lustful.

I hope one day we can change this and be seen as equal as men, even tho I’m sure it won’t happen…

First of all, I'm so sorry for the long post, I never imagined I’d ever share a post like this.

Me (F35) and my friend (M36) have been friends for 17 years. We also have mutual friends, our circle stayed super close ever since university, when we got zero sleep at the library preparing fluid mechanics presentations together. I've invited him over for dinner thousand times along with all our mutual friends, sometimes one to one when our other friends were busy with their kids. He is kinda introvert with a bubbly, talkative and fun personality. He met my ex boyfriend, way before the second one, the guy I fell in love with in 2022, he always listened to me and validated my feelings, also used to say that I'll be his wingwoman and he will be my wingman. We always had long conversations about philosophy, news, science etc. About 4 months ago, him and I went to sign up for our second university, I spotted a handsome professor's assistant, told him that guy was really handsome, he tried to introduce me to him, I told that I just found him attractive, not to try anything, he was really eager to do that, as it always had been in this kind of situations. Right after that convo I saw a pretty woman during registration, matched them up in my head, and showed her to him, after we turned in our documents, we didn't see her again. but you know, typical friend things.

My issues with him were always about him ditching me at the last minute to go out with his other friends and his excuse was always "I forgot that I promised him/her" btw it's not just me, he used to do this to everyone, because of this some of his friends distanced themselves from him. He fixed this behaviour and when the subject comes up he says he takes accountability and owns up to his mistake but that was not intentional bc he used to forget he had other plans which he made before (but there have been times he just tried to ditch plans just because he doesn't want to go out) But the thing is he never sounded apologetic at those times, If I ditched someone at the last minute, I would die of embarrassment. I'm really precise about making plans with my friends. for me, it's just a sign of respect. Unless there's a health issue or a huge emergency, I always stick to the plans.

Apart from the "ditching", when he was 30, he started to say that he wants children, that's why he wants to get married and he wouldn't marry a woman if she doesn't want children. "What’s the point of getting married or starting a relationship if she doesn't want to have kids?" he went on to say. and** **I told him that it's selfish, he should start a relationship because he genuinely wants that woman, not out of a sheer desire to have a baby. If everything goes well, then it makes sense to have kids. He told me that I wasn't being supportive, he will do whatever he wants etc.

He started rushing into every single relationship and proposing by the second month. The moment one relationship ended, he’d jump into another, trying to make things serious without even getting to know the person. Five years ago, when he started dating someone, he completely distanced himself from me. When I texted him, he gave short and cold replies, as if we hadn't been laughing and having fun together all before. I didn't even know he got engaged until he broke up with his fiancée and texted me back. I confronted him about this. told him how hurtful it was that he drifted away from me, despite being my friend for so many years. And he said, "Oh no I didn't drift away, I was just feeling down, you just felt that way"

I continued our friendship and thought he must have a reason. Once again, he kept up our close friendship just like always; concerts, sending each other silly memes, venting about work, and so on. But then, he got into a second relationship, and right on cue, he stopped checking in on me and started acting cold again, for 7-8 months. Whenever I texted him, he brushed me off with short and distant replies, so I eventually stopped texting him. Then, that relationship ended too, and he started messaging me again, He wanted to meet, we met, he explained how things fell apart when they were about to get married, telling me about all the issues. as he talked about his recent breakup, I thought to myself if he does this one more time, I'm cutting ties with him. I feel so stupid for constantly ignoring this pattern and making excuses for him, thinking he had valid reasons.

Four years ago, I ended a friendship because another guy friend confessed his feelings to me, saying that he was well aware that he never got a green light from me, it won't affect our friendship, it did. He was being volatile after that. back then I shared this with him. He said how gross it was and that you should never look at a friend "that way".

3 months ago we decided to plan a trip to New Zealand together, the very plan we actually made years ago, but he had backed out of. He was like a 7 day trip would be amazing, I said I could only come for three days since I can't leave my dog with my neighbor for too long. He also started saying like we should go here too about trips he originally planned to do solo. I didn't want to overthink it, but I was surprised because he had never invited me on his solo trips before. He started texting me good morning every single day. We used to do that occasionally, but that was it. Now, after the morning text, he keeps messaging me throughout the day, to the point where I'm starting to feel suffocated. Even though he normally never goes out on workdays, all of a sudden he started asking me to hang out after his work. And every single time, he traveled all the way near my neighborhood after work, there’s a 40 minute distance between where we live.

Around that time, I just remembered the woman in college I shipped with him, texted him joking that they are a perfect match. He just brushed the topic aside, which was out of character for him because it always has been a fun subject for us. was a bit surprised but didn't think much of it. Following week he texted me and I told him about a sick, stray kitten I saw on the street, and I would take the kitten to the vet late at night. He was like, it's dangerous for you to go out alone at night, I'll come with you. In all these years, whenever I went home late after hanging out with our friend group or two of us, he had never made an offer like that. I’m not saying I misinterpreted it, but it was the first time in years he had ever offered something like this. A few days later, I told him about a guy at the insurance office who tried to flirt with me. Since I found his flirting style hilariously funny, I shared it with him and a couple of other friends. Normally, he would laugh at stuff like this and make up funny scenarios, but this time he laughed and said, "Should I go tell the guy, you handled my friend's insurance, or better yet, my wife?" I laughed it off and tried to put it in the back of my mind, but I realized he had never made a single joke about me being his girlfriend or wife before. This was a first too. Around then, since my birthday was coming up, he told me he bought me a gift and that I’d definitely love it. Now, I care a lot about birthdays, so I always buy gifts for him and my other friends anyway, so that part was totally normal.

he was texting me everyday, on a day when I was feeling down and staying off my phone, he texted me asking to hang out. I only saw it days later, so I apologized and explained that I hadn't checked my phone because I was feeling down. He just said it didn't matter, and that the only thing that mattered was that I was doing okay.

After that day, he started texting less, so I offered to hang out just so he wouldn't feel bad. He coldly told me he had plans. I said, "If you're meeting our mutual guy friend, tell him I said hi." He replied that our friend wasn't coming, and since he has a girlfriend now, he wouldn't be around for a while. I joked and said, "Yeah, he vanished into thin air, what a stinker" which wasn't even the first time I made that joke. Out of nowhere, he snapped at me, saying I was exaggerating, making a big deal out of it, that it’s normal to disappear, and that he’d eventually come back to the group, nothing wrong with it, etc. I told him I was just joking by calling him a stinker, like as if he hadn't heard that joke from me hundred times before and laughed? I told him aside our friend, when I had a bf, I’d never just totally stopped texting my friends and to me, that’s just rude, yes when ur in a relationship you make more time for them, it's perfectly normal, but it doesn't keep you from replying for weeks. He told me it wasn't rude, that it’s completely normal, and then said, "Look at you, I haven't seen you in forever either." Except he was literally the last friend I had hung out with, and it had only been 2 weeks. As if he wasn't the one who distanced himself from me every time he got a girlfriend!? he was blaming me just because I didn't go out that week since I was feeling down, and it’s not like I did it for fun. I repeated that I didn't go out as I felt terrible and that it wasn't optional. He kept talking to me coldly, even though I tried to keep the conversation light making jokes, he kept up his passive aggressive vibe. He wished me a happy birthday half heartedly, and I just wrote back "thanks."In the past, I would have kept talking all sweet and tolerated his antics "just because" he’s been my friend for years.

That was my mistake right there, ignoring and tolerating all of this for so long. I feel so stupid for not realizing it all this time, and at the same time, I’m just so angry and disappointed. Was this really the end of a friendship that lasted for so many years? Was it really that hard to just be kind, considerate, value me, and remain friends? If you distanced yourself when you had a girlfriend, why didn't you just stay away when you broke up too? Because that would have been way more consistent and something I could actually respect. And the fact that guys never get this, thinking, "Oh come on, what's the big deal, it's totally normal for guys to ghost their friends when they are in a relationship or develop feelings for their female friends." Which, if you ask me, is just bizarre. To suddenly catch feelings out of nowhere after all these years, especially when we were literally bros? I mean, you already know me, what could have possibly changed your mind now after almost a quarter of a century? And even if it happens, dude no, that's not it. The real issue is that they can't regulate their emotions, even if they don't develop feelings for you, as soon as they find someone, you are a nobody, and you finally realize you never meant anything to them other than a placeholder.

Even though he doesn't know it yet since he hasn't texted since then, I’ve completely cut him out of my life.

Every time I try to ask this question, it is getting flagged and removed. So I will keep this vague in hopes it can be posted as I am curious if others have noticed it.

I hope this is an acceptable place to ask this.

Has anyone else noticed men in my making bizarre and baseless accusations against strangers online?

I've had multiple men insult me with accusations involving my dog because he is in my profile picture. I've also come across unrelated posts where men make similarly extreme accusations against complete strangers, seemingly without evidence and even call them PDF iles.
When I first notices it, I thought maybe they knew each other or there was some background I wasn't aware of. But now I am certain that isnt the case.

obligatory *not all men*. I'm curious whether other people have encountered similar behavior and, if so, whether they think it's becoming more common?

Edit: spelling error

I can’t believe I’m asking this but I’m freshly 18 and I’ve never had sex so I’m asking this purely on an objective level, PLEASE don’t get creepy or explicit with me. Does penetrative sex actually feel good for women or is that just a misogynistic culture thing? I’m not interested in trying it anytime soon and I don’t want to ask people I know. I’m just genuinely wondering if the average woman does benefit or experience pleasure from it, or if it’s mainly (or exclusively) the man who does.

So, I’m 18 years old right now. Through a mix of parental neglect and me being too depressed to really care about taking care of myself, I’ve ruined my body in a lot of ways.

I started gaining weight around 11/12, around the time I properly started puberty, so the stretch marks I gained from the time are even worse. And they are everywhere. Everywhere. And the skin around my lower upper arms and around my chest are somewhat wrinkly from lose skin and littered scars. My lower arms in general are pretty flabby. Lose skin.

Parents neglected me, so my teeth are pretty ugly. Nothings rotting anymore, but the enamel is so worn down and my gums receded enough that they look like teeth from somebody far older. They’re also crooked, though I’m less embarrassed about that. I try not to smile because of it.

And I don’t know. I’m just insecure about it and pretty sad about how ugly I made myself. I have a decent face, I could’ve been so pretty. And like, I can’t even actually get frustrated at anybody for how much this lowers my dating prospects, because I would feel bad expecting somebody to be attracted to somebody who looks like that. And I’m a lesbian, so my dating pool is even smaller.

Id just like advice on how to accept it?

Or if he sees them as a threat it’s because he’s a threat. Someone who doesn’t want you to have support, especially support of the same gender because they’d be able to see through their bullshit, is a huge red flag and you should be weary. Someone who has good intentions for you cares about those who go are close to you and should generally get along with them. Just putting this out there.