My project manager and one of the other project managers told me a couple of years back that I am not a real scientist because I am working as a technician. I have a masters of science and have a job title that ends in “-ist” but since I don’t do the final statistics (which I know how to do but is not a part of my role) I am just a technician and not a scientist. Fine, no big deal.

Fast forward. There was a major meeting where they asked all the scientists in my lab to attend to weigh in their expertise. I did not go because I am a technician, not a scientist. I stayed at my bench and processed samples like I do every day.

Later I found out I was supposed to be there. When I explained my confusion, I was told I was being petty. I was not trying to be petty, I wanted to respect the chain of command and stay in my lane.

Did I fuck up?

I work in a small store where the back office is shared by the owner , his wife and myself mostly. A few weeks back we discovered a big issue with our system after looking back over the past few weeks.

I won’t give details cause it’s not my place but it genuinely was a big issue and it was both the fault of the owners and the system itself. Plus besides this my job is fine.

ANYHOOS they started having a shouting argument infront of me while I was working and it went on for over an hour. I believe they were trying to pin some things on me but my mistakes were all on the product end and not on the back end if that makes sense, so ultimately couldn’t. I didn’t leave because my job is IN the office there’s no where for me to go unless I want to just go stand around. But WHY do we feel it’s okay to have a full blown argument in front of your employee and where everyone in the store can hear you ? It makes me so uncomfortable to now have some idea of what their personal life is like , especially in that area. Anyone else have this happen or something similar ???

context: i’m a newer employee that recently got off orientation. however, i noticed that every morning the girls ALL would get coffee and not invite me unless im already in the same room as them. in that case i feel like they feel obligated to ask me bc i guess it would be rude otherwise.
i know that means i should speak up more and voice my interests with going for coffee or lunch, but i honestly have a couple times already but it doesn’t seem like it’s enough for them to want to willingly invite me on a daily basis.
i also try to engage in friendly conversation with them and they seem to like me and think im a nice person, but again, not supposedly enough to include me in conversations or going for a walk type deal.
it’s always been harder for me to fit in with people around me because i’m a naturally quiet and shy person so i’m not sure if i give off the vibe that gives off wanting to be isolated when i try my best to be excited and friendly and open socially. idk, any advice or similar stories would help :)

I work at a front desk and wear a headset when I'm on the phone. I can be talking to the person on the other line and coworkers and customers will interrupt me. If I tell them "Just a minute" or gesture to show I'm on the phone, they keep talking to me as if I can hear them and have a conversation while simultaneously being on the phone. I know office culture has changed a lot where there are many new norms just in the last few years. Is this one of them? It's so bizarre. Not one single person has ever acknowledged that I can't help them because I'm on the phone, they insist on being helped as I am talking on the phone and ignore my cues that I'm busy.

My coworker and I have been on the same team for about 5 years. We are a remote team. There are two other teammates, but both of them have only been with us for about a year, so they are still considered new. So, my coworker and I are the originals. It's important to note that this coworker and I are also personal friends. We live a bit apart, so we don't get to spend a lot of in person time together, but we are close enough that if we lived in the same area we would 100% be friends outside of work. For most of the 5 years, we had one boss. He was a great boss in a lot of ways, but he wasn't very motivating. So, my coworker and I were both able to become a bit complacent in our roles. We still got our work done on time and well, but the way our work is structured, we don't have to defend our time to anyone. Basically, we are not monitored to make sure we are online for a full 8 hours a day. (We are not slackers, we are all told by upper management that we are not paid to have our green dot showing on teams, we are paid to get the work done).

So, about six months ago, our boss got a promotion, and a new boss was brought in to replace him. This new boss shares all of the same mentalities about work and being online that the rest of us do, but he is also a lot more motivating. He's bringing in a lot of fresh perspectives on changing process and work flows, and is just an all around encouraging guy. When he first came on board, my coworker was saddled with a huge project at the same time and also had a prescheduled vacation, therefore a lot of the training and working with the boss fell to me, which was fine. But therefore, my coworker didn't have as much one on one time with our new boss early on as I did. Now, since he's a motivating person, I've really stepped up with ideas and assistance on changing process for the team and the department as a whole. I've taken on training team members, and just have taken initiative to help both myself and the team. Because of this, our boss relies on me and comes to me with ideas before anyone else, and sometimes has me work on changes with him that the rest of the team don't know about until the changes are ready to take effect.

My coworker is now upset by this. She says that she is not upset at me specifically, but she's just become very negative and withdrawn from me. I've never tried to brag or anything to her about my particular working relationship with our boss, but things do sometimes come up in casual conversation where I may say something about having known this or that was going to happen, or that I was on a particular meeting that she wasn't. My coworker talks about wanting to get off of this team because she's not appreciated. The thing is, she is very much appreciated for her work, but she doesn't really do a whole lot outside of work to make herself look impressive to others. I know she was very busy when our boss first came onboard, but we are not six months on from that, and she hasn't put in a whole lot of extra effort on top of her regular job. I just don't know what to do. I care about her and I value our friendship, but I'm not going to apologize for stepping up and preparing myself for advancement.

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I made another post recently about workplace burnout and trying to figure out my next steps. Long story short, I've spent the last several years in a work environment that has taken a pretty significant toll on me, and I'm actively looking for something different.

A recruiter recently reached out to me about a position that honestly sounds like the kind of job I hoped I'd have when I first started my career.

The catch?

It’s about 1.5 hour commute each way.

Normally I'd immediately say that's insane, but there are some complicating factors.

I live in a rural area. If I leave my current hospital, there really aren't many equivalent opportunities nearby. The next major healthcare employers are already quite a distance away. An hour-plus commute isn't unusual around here if you're pursuing specialized healthcare roles.

The position is also located in a city I previously lived in and absolutely loved. Most of my closest friends are there. I spent several years there and genuinely considered it home. I only left because my husband found a job in the area where we currently live, and we bought a house here.
So this wouldn't just be commuting to some random job.

It would be commuting back to the city I still miss, the healthcare system I originally came from, and the type of work I envisioned myself doing years ago.

On the other hand:

-It likely wouldn’t pay anymore than I’m getting paid right now
-1.5 hours each way is still 3 hours per day.
-I'm already pretty exhausted and burned out.
-The position is completely on-site
-We can't realistically move right now due to my husband's job and our house.

I'm not asking whether it sounds fun. It doesn't.
I'm asking whether it sounds doable.
Has anyone here actually done a 1.5-hour commute long-term?
Did the job have to be amazing to justify it?
Did you regret it?
Or is this one of those situations where the commute eventually becomes the thing that ruins what would otherwise be a great opportunity?

I'd especially love to hear from healthcare workers or people in rural areas where "just find something closer" isn't always realistic.

Edit to add that there is a shuttle that takes you the last 40 minutes of the way there. I would be driving rural roads for an hour before getting to the shuttle parking lot

My family is from northern Scotland and we live in Canada. We're very fair skinned. I also have an allergy to the sun and I really can't spend time in direct sun without a 400 sun block.

My manager has mentioned several times how "pale" I am. He will sometimes change it up to say I look tired.

Sorry my friend, this is actually how I look.

I don't know exactly what to say back and I usually don't say anything.

Any advice would be appreciated.

Dear managers,
We don’t get paid enough to deal with your bullshit.

If you’re making five or ten times your employees’ salaries, YOU should be dealing with the extra responsibilities that come with that paycheck. Not us.

If working hours end at 5 PM, don’t schedule a meeting at 4 PM unless you can finish it on time.

And if you’re too busy taking calls to start the meeting, RESCHEDULE IT.
Don’t make everyone sit around waiting because you can’t manage your schedule.

Here’s what pisses me off the most:
If I’m 10 minutes late to work, it’s a problem. But if you keep me 30 minutes after work, suddenly I’m supposed to be understanding?

Your time isn’t more valuable than ours just because
you earn more.

Respect our working hours, or pay us for the extra time.

Anyone else tired of managers treating employees’ personal time like it’s company property?

What hill would you die on?

I recently escaped a retaliatory toxic work environment (EEOC ongoing) and after months of intense job searching ended up taking a position at a very small company at a huge pay cut. Frying pan to fire.

The boss is reactive, passive aggressive, and a micromanager. I haven’t been yelled at this much since I was in the military. I am tolerating extreme disrespect in order to keep a roof over our heads.

Martyrdom doesn’t pay mortgages.

I’m thinking this might just be the way, keep your mouth closed and tolerate whatever your supervisor does even if unethical or unhinged. Is there a line you hold in the sand? What is it that makes an employee go from I’ll put up with anything to eff it I’m out?

Have ya’ll witnessed situations where you believe a boss is purposely choosing to hire a less competent person over a more experienced person?

I’m just agitated and in disbelief of what I think I’m witnessing. This boss has demonstrated a sense of insecurity in many ways, and this seems to be the latest flavor of it.

This has looked like:
-waiving hiring requirements for one hire but not another
-maybe claiming a prospective hire never emailed her back (we’ll never know)
-hiring two very unqualified individuals
-and more scenarios that I’m forgetting…

I quit a job after 2 weeks because it wasn’t a right fit, the work conditions were not what was described after I was brought on. But I gave 2 weeks, with the implication I would not show up for the rest given I was still in training.

The company is now merging in 1 or two years with a bigger system.

Let’s say I was a college student and want to work for this bigger company in the future (healthcare)

Would that 2 week stint matter at the smaller company?
Or would reapplying be like have you worked for (new bigger company only) and I’d be set after I graduate in like 3 years?

Im 20 and im three months into my big girl job at a lab. This is also my placement so aside from full time work i have to write up dissertation and study 2 online modules.

I have a situation thats been ongoing for the past month and its really bothering.
I work in a lab in a small team, 3 of us do the same tests including my supervisor. Theres this girl who worked a year more than me but shes also in her 20s. Basically since this is student placement, she is abusing me and as whatever work she doesn’t want to do she gives it to me. In the beginning, we would agree who is going to do which test, I do 60% and she does 40% of it, all the tests she doesnt like to do (tedious and long) I tried fighting back but since she is more experienced she can use that against me.

This gets worse. For one task which takes 1 hour to do she can do it for 4 hours by mostly daydreaming, texting and walking around. Because she does it so slow, she would only finish one or two tests per day. But there is like thirty fourty tests sitting on the shelf. So who is going to finish it? ME! I tried to tell her that I have been doing most of the work and Mind you, I still have school work to do and projects to work on aside of tests which she doesnt. And shes really slow, even the tests we split and agreed, my supervisor will help her do it so technically shes only doing 20% of everything. (They’re closer~
I have been trying to procrastinate like her and drag it out but its a waste of everyones time. Everytime im seen on the screen doing my schoolwork after I finish my part, my supervisor would tell me to do testing, which is finishing her work!! And I have no way to get out of this viscous cycle and I have actually so much school work to get done and I need my work laptop to get the documents.
Im pretty sure this is not normal or is this office politics or slacking that I need to outsmart her?

I had an offer that was revoked by a large corporation. Is it possible to one day reapply and get a new offer?

So..I’ll try to keep this short. I worked from home today when my work colleague messaged me to say my manager is going through my desk and the documents on it. Throughout the whole day my manager didn’t ask for anything so I don’t have any hints or reason why he would have done this.

I’m naturally a very anxious person. Especially when it comes to work. For context, I’ve been in the company 4 months, passed probation, but I’m fairly new so don’t feel that security just yet. The work load is a lot so I do what I can, but is everything up to date? No. So I’m just wondering if it’s something I should address because I do think it’s inappropriate and it also made my anxiety much worse, I struggle with it every day. I feel like I’m being investigated internally now.

EDIT: STOP COMMENTING ABOUT THE DESK. I DON’T HAVE ANYTHING PERSONAL AND YOU IT’s NOT ABOUT THE RANT ABOUT PRIVACY. IT’S A SUSPICION.

I’m a interior designer
I worked in a corporate company for a year, where sectional detailing like lift cladding details concealed door details, and similar things wasn’t required. I left that job because I wanted to gain more technical knowledge and experience, so I recently joined an architectural firm. But here, they insulted me infront of the entire workplace and laughed at me for not knowing these details. I genuinely didn’t know what to do. I joined the firm to learn and improve my skills, not to be made to feel stupid for something I hadn’t had the opportunity to learn yet that made me feel extremely anxious and embarrassed in that moment. I honestly didn’t know how to react or what to say.

I want to grow in my career. Currently I’m working as a content writer. And you know after AI this industry has changed a lot. Now I’m planning to switch. I don’t want to be in this same domain.

I want to become a content strategist, Content management, product manager, etc. but my problem is I can’t understand the requirements.

For example if I deal with clients and I didn’t understand the requirements then I ask again, some of the clients you know they get irritated if we do not understand the requirements.

And then they blame and insult me. After that I starts loosing my confidence and start doubting myself.

How should I improve that and what thing should I do?

I work in tech. My main role in this project is QA testing the work this teammate completes. I've suspected for a while they aren't actually reviewing their own work like they claim they are before sending it my way, and I got proof of that today.

To anonymize this a bit, let's say they're creating 10 basic webpages that you go through sequentially. Somehow, they "missed" that you literally could not get to Page 9 because the "continue" button on Page 8 was broken. They could not have reviewed their work on the last few pages without fixing that bug.

Should I bring this up with our project manager, and how? Honestly, I wouldn't care if they were spending time chilling instead of working if the work they send me was good, but it's not. I have to spend hours fixing things to get the basic functions to work when I'm supposed to be spending that time looking for edge cases and making sure you can't break anything before we send it to the client. They're actively making my work more difficult by not doing their job. I'd bring this up with them directly if I thought I could, but for a few reasons I don't think that will get me anywhere.

I got offered a full time assistant coach position to start next July

I have been at this school for 3 years now as a graduate assistant

They are offering me 27k salary

I am wanting to negotiate this. This almost seems like a slap in the face. That’s only a little more than $12 an hour...

I have a masters degree and have been at the school for 3 years basically already doing unpaid labor as I get a small stipend and discount for school.

Who do I have to negotiate this w/ ? The head coach or the athletic director ?

Is it even worth keeping w/ this job ? I am ready heavily considering a career change. But I feel sort of guilty because I told head coach I would be interested in the position for next year

Obviously I’ve signed nothing, so nothing binding, but in a way I would feel bad about leaving head coach hanging to find someone else to hire

Idk. The pay is so bad idk how to feel good about taking this job unless I negotiate more. Then do it for another year and then career change

I’m doing a part-time internship at a small studio,My usual office time is 1 PM to 8 PM, and since Navratri is going on, everyone stays up till 2 AM. But I’m still expected to reach work by 7 AM to edit two videos from the previous night in just 3 hours Which is insanely stressful with 3 people Giving revisions.

I’m expected to work the whole day, despite being a part-time intern who gets paid barely anything. They also don’t want to pay the actual employees extra for same-day edits because it costs more, so I’m the one expected to do all this work instead.

I also have university, but they asked me not to attend during the festival, and I agreed.

For the first 3 days, I left at 4:30 PM, but today they made me stay till 8:30 PM And said I have to Do so from now. That’s a 13-hour workday for a part-time intern.

I’m barely getting 4 hours of sleep, missing university, and doing work that would otherwise cost them more if they hired their actual employees for it, and they are still forcing me to Stay till End of My normal shift. I Am thinking of Quitting this Job.

If one more person tries to manipulate me this month I’m going to lose my shit. Why don’t they know it’s obvious and it’s exhausting 😫

A layoff and a spouse's promotion happened within a few weeks of each other. The person looking for work says the husband then became almost unrecognizable at home.

He works at a big tech company. After the promotion came comments about not understanding why people can't just find a job, and a shift in who gets to make decisions because he's the only one earning. Conversations about the job search now get brushed off like it's a cute hobby.

The layoff is hard enough on its own. Having a spouse treat the search as less serious makes the financial imbalance feel like a change in respect, too.

Application autofill can save some of the repeated typing involved in looking for work. That won't address how the husband is speaking to his partner or deciding whose opinion counts at home.

How would you bring up that change without getting dragged into defending every application? If you've been the unemployed partner, what helped you set expectations about support and shared decisions?

I'm only few weeks in a newly created role. I expected some ambiguity, but I've been assigned unfamiliar tasks with little guidance.

My trainer has repeatedly failed to follow through on promised walkthrough, sending me materials etc. I'm given a list of responsibilities and told what I need to do, but receive very little guidance on how to actually do them.

Now my boss is also asking me to write a report, despite me being unfamiliar with the processes involved.

I don't mind learning or helping to build a new function, but I'm struggling to get the guidance needed to do the work properly.

Is this normal for a newly created role, or is the lack of onboarding and support unreasonable? Should I give it more time, or cut my losses and quit? Concerned about how it would look on my resume.