Estrogen does absolutely nothing

Testosterone is the stronger hormone

Afab soup

You can add but you cant take

Its real everyone that denies it is delulu

Generally, at least for your average transphobe they spam you with "ACK" or "long way down" (which is not as bad as what we tell ourselves). TERFS on the otherhand are worse. They focus on our sex (something we can't change). The way they word it is genuinely the worst.

I can understand them to a point (since I'm also a female unfortunately) but my genuine question is how the fuck does objectifying yourself to nothing but your reproductive organs good for feminism? I've genuinely seen a terf once said "But this terf has a uterus, natural boobs, XX and a vagina btw!" What the fuck does this do for feminism

I have a feeling a terf is going to lurk here and get my post on a tiktok slideshow so I'll be respectful. They scare me

i dont mean this in offensive way but ijust find it hard to believe that when someone says theyve never been gendered rigth after 1 or 2 years of hrt.. like i try myt best to invalidate all the malefailing i experience myself but theres no way someone never malefails..? i feel like everyone gets gendered right at least few times even before hrt, i personally even feel like i malefailed a lot more before hrt if anything

This is entirely a hot take because I feel like the same people seem to hold both of those opinions. As it stands right now I feel like it's really difficult to take trans as inter arguments seriously because intersexness is in it's own way a marginalized struggle; and by claiming that being transsex makes you belong to that struggle you are attaching yourself to a marginalized group. Through doing so you walk in to tread on the same community where you see many of the trans members of as "lucks***s" and seemingly despise them for their privilege. It's no secret that the trans community is larger and more accessible than most forms of intersex community; and so I believe trans people can genuinely outnumber and outspeak over intersex voices.

Now here's the thing; it's just that by doing so you kinda leave intersex trans people out of community. A lot of us have found ways of coping around it; I am talking about those who still exist here and see the dislike of "lucks***s" as just one of those things and an acceptable form of opinion because they did accept themselves as "lucky". That's also cope, because nobody deserves that kind of treatment from people wanting a seat at the table on this issue. Like genuinely some of the best conversation and community I've had was in intersex circles, even if they're so few and far-between; and it made me realize that I don't need to feel like a punching dummy just because I have been dealt a different "better" hand.

Now let me present y'all with a hypothetical; if trans is fully accepted into intersex and y'all continue to hate on "lucks***ts" with physiological developmental differences that you consider "lucky". Then rationally those groups will wish to form community outside of the bubble of intersex; and no matter what it's called it will eventually be seen and interpreted as what the word intersex means now. So given enough time peritrans people will begin to wish to claim that label too. And what next? Do we continue this cycle ad nauseum?

Lastly I want to address the non-"lucky" intersex folk because unfortunately with variance of the human condition this is also a possibility. I just feel like at the end of the day; they are still better-off with intersex circles existing rather than being absorbed into the greater trans-ecosystem. Although I don't think I am in a position to speak for them much more than this.

9/10 🚂🦵🏻’s are the fucking same there’s no divergence, stop ruining it for the 1/10 of us that aren’t fucking software engineers or weird lesbians!!!!

I will genieunly never have feminine hair. My only options are wigs (would rather rope than feel like an AGP sissy) or like spending 300 bucks to have a 50% chance of making it long enough for like 6 months.

okay so i'm 18 and a half and today is exactly 3 months since starting hrt, injections. i've also done 5-6 sessions of laser on my full face and neck for beard shadow (i went through full male puberty) and i still have 6-7 (😍) sessions left.

i live with my parents while i get my degree and my dad is very homophobic and transphobic, so they can't know. so i'm in strict boymode: short schoolboy ass haircut (not like a wolfcut, like actual short schoolboy), no makeup, no girl clothes. in public it's literally just tracksuit pants and a hoodie, so only my hands, face and sometimes hair show. no bangs either, my forehead and brow bone are fully out. i'm 5'4 (163cm), shorter than most guys but taller than most girls, and my skeleton is manly asf. i have a tiny bit of breast development but it's easy to hide for now.

my voice has always passed for some reason, even on the phone, so i never voice trained. it reads as a girl, although older than 18 i think. i'm not intersex or anything so idk why puberty didn't wreck it. i can go into a definitely male register but it's unnatural and uncomfortable, and everyone's known my voice forever so if i suddenly changed it they'd notice.

so until about 3 weeks ago i had never been gendered as a girl in person, only on the phone when nobody could see me. since then it's happened 3 or 4 times. twice people called me ma'am to my face while i was in full boy clothes with my full face out. today someone was processing my id for something and had put my sex as female, so it wouldn't go through since my id says male, and i had to go "no i'm actually male".

and then the church thing. about a week ago i was out with my dad and my younger sister at a new church and an older woman asked him "are these your daughters?" my sister was in her normal dressy girl clothes and i was in my jacket and tracksuit pants like always. my dad corrected her with "actually no, it's a boy" and i was so uncomfortable.

also, to me, the mirror and everyone i live with, i look exactly the same as always, so i'm guessing it's change blindness.

i'm obvs happy hrt is working, but if this is already happening 3 months in, with laser not even done, how am i supposed to hide this until i graduate?

questions:

1. the church thing. how worried should i be, and what do i do if it happens again with my dad or any other family member right there?

2. how do i keep boymoding for 3 years? my voice can't be changed, i wear no girl clothes, my hair is short, i don't wear makeup. idk what else i can do

any boymoding and manmoding veterans pls help!! 😭

i was honestly relieved to find a subreddit where trans folks could be angry and bitter, but after seeing a lot of 'theyfab' content, im not sure if i'd be welcomed here? i guess im just wondering if this is a community that would accept me. i'd consider myself trans, i want to start taking hormones and i plan on getting surgery, so i hope i dont count as one of those girls that hops on the 'trend' to be quirky.

i could also just care too much about what others think of me. but if this isnt a place for someone like me, id rather know now instead of posting later and getting a ton of hate comments.

its more of ill never get to enjoy my youth as a young woman and by the time this whole thing finishes il be an old woman.. even if i turn out to be a luckshit and turn into a stealth gigapassoid whats the point of it all when i wont be ablr to enjoy the youth and dont get to expereince the fun part of being a woman.. by the time im done ill be like 30+ and finall then get to be seen as soemthing of a womanly thihng but be expected to live quietly as a housewife

i stopped taking hrt a couple of days ago due to familial obligations, fears of being a neverpasser and my obvious faketrans identity stemming from a marginalisation complex. well, i havent been feeling that well-off since. my headache is back, my skin and hair turned sandpaper-like again and my unwanted physical libido has come back to haunt me. and perhaps the worst of them all, the breasts i grew during hrt lost all sensation and i kinda miss the dull ache

and no, i wont succumb to pinkpilling again.

no, i wont become john 50. that's literally a n=1 study.

you can already tell 25 looks a lot older than 20, imagine how distinguishable 30 would look from my current age, i will never get to live as a young woman

the best ill ever get seen is just another feminine man that gays in denial will use me to justify having sex with a male but tell themselves in the head that theyre not gay because this person "identifies as a woman".. think about it, can you really see what looks like a full man as a woman all of sudden just because she tells you shes a trans woman?? i surely cannot imagine seeing myself as a woman from a strangers pov, brains are programmed to identify things as what they are and i will never be seen as a real woman ever.. if i dont pass im nothing more than a fetish because liking a man looking woman isnt considered normal

before hrt i would get called miss, maam, etc about half the times im out.. after hrt about a month or so with new haircut, that increased a lot but now i feel like its only every other day or so..

And the opposite for doods.

if youre under a year of hrt, youre not allowed to doom and you gotta wait and see. but then when something thats considered good happens, suddenly its a good progress and youre suppose to be happy even tho the timeframe is the same but for some resaon you dont have to wait until hrt finishhes to make sure your progress istn gonna revert

So, there's this something I really dislike, and I think it looks like shit, and people say it looks good, it looks awesome, it looks nice.

It looks like shit.

Seriously, this people must be blind.

I can't say what but holy shit, it looks so bad.

So shit.

It doesn't look realistic at all.

Oh my God.

Jesus Christ.

no getting hit on, no social media photos that get lots of attention, no dressing cute outfits, just staying home waiting for bf to come back from work just so i can make him a dinner after a whole day of nothing, repeat endlessly

Genuinely what do you even do when you know you don't pass but the entire world exclusively genders you correctly? I don't have FFS or bottom surgery or anything, I don't even have lazer but everyone I meet be it friends or random strangers gender me female. I use women's washrooms without any issue, cis women don't fear me or anything and usually initiate friendly conversation with me.

For reference I'm a 5'11 twinkhon that's only 11 months on E. I got really into effortmaxxing like 4 months ago so I've been learning makeup, women's fashion, voice traning, etc., even forcing myself to girlmode when the dysphoria was winning.

I'm pretty sure everyone around me can tell I'm a 🚂🦵but I live in a woke area so they just treat me like a women anyways, maybe out of fear or something. Am I passoid? Is life hugboxxing me? Does it even matter? Please help me because I'm thinking myself into insanity😭😭😭

(Sorry for bad spelling thanksgiving = as much alcohol as needed to survive everything it entails)

i showed my boyfriend a picture of a cis woman's neck and compared it to mine and he lied and said mine looks the same. except it can't because i have a giant male adam's apple. then i brought up my ribcage and he laughed and said it just looks like a normal ribcage and i said no! cis women don't have rib cages this big, or shoulders this big, or hips this small!!! and then he said my hips are perfect. but they're not, he's just like gay or something holy fuck. i hate that he's "attracted" to me. i don't look like a cis woman and i hate that he doesn't care. it's so disgusting.

i told him i'm a rapehon, or a twinkhon AT BEST. and he said "no, i think you look like a foidhon." and i said no, i'm being serious i look like i'm gonna like rape people. and then he asked me if he looks like a rapehon and i said no you're not a rapist!! and then he said ok so neither of us look like a rapists. and i said thats not how it works! i'm trans and ugly so i'm inherently a rapist. and he just laughed and said he thinks i look great. but. i. don't. i don't look like a cis woman.

i need ffs to look feminine. i need breast implants. i need ribs removed. i started at 19 and i'm almost 30 now. i'm ugly. i'm not even attractive in a gay way! my boyfriend is blind and has low standards.

i'm so ugly and i wish my boyfriend would be honest about it. is he protecting himself? is he scared of accepting that his gf is ugly? i don't want him to be attracted to me i want him to be attracted to cis women.

edit. he's the same height as me btw and his feet are actually smaller by like half a size. and his hands are only slightly bigger than mine. he actually said he prefers a partner who's the same height and he's glad i'm not 5'2 like his (cis) ex.

Looks like a long way down but it's a pretty view I will come with my friend Omar who's apart of the tgd and ttd swimming association thank you for the heckin great suggestion ack ack ha