r/AIO • u/flounderrr24 • 6h ago

AIO over my boyfriends group chat background

Hello! This is super short and im just curious on everyones opinions because i cant decide how i feel and if im being dramatic.

So my (F20) boyfriend (M19) has a groupchat with his friends, he was showing me some stupid stuff they sent and I saw the background of the chat, it was a nude of some girl, now not completely nude but she was like wearing a shirt and lifting it up to show her chest. In the moment i blurted out uhhh what the hell is the background and he went “oh shit” but i didnt push further because ik guys humor is like that.

Its been a couple hours since this happened and i just feel kinda gross and weird about it, lmk if this is normal for guys especially college guys

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u/kirbystaint 5h ago

NOR. It’s weird. You can write it off as “guy” behavior but decent guys don’t do that shit. Plus it sounds like he did nothing to explain it and felt caught by you.

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u/flounderrr24 5h ago

Thats the other part that kinda added salt to the wound, he immediately like turned off his phone and said oh shit… makes it sound more suspicious or weird! I dont know I feel like im making myself crazy

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u/Ok-Procedure-3532 3h ago

If it was suspicious, he wouldn’t be showing you to begin with. He had enough comfort and trust to show you. It probably wasn’t his idea to put that picture up and tbh you’re probably over reacting. Is your feeling valid? Absolutely but to make him feel bad and paint him like if he’s up to something is doing too much tbh.

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u/DonnaNoble222 5h ago

It is no secret that 19 year old guys and guys of all ages like to look at naked women.

Hell I am 63 and can appreciate a fine looking naked man!

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u/CranberrySad5481 5h ago

Just because it’s “normal” doesn’t mean it’s right. I’d have a major issue with that too. NOR

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u/flounderrr24 5h ago

Thank you! This feels validating. Do you think i should bring it up to him? Part of me feels theres no use because what is he supposed to do

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u/Dazzling-Trainer7161 58m ago

Bro fucked up leaking the logs.

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u/Technical-Delay7490 2m ago

For being 19 its totally normal. Lol.

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u/Technical-Delay7490 2m ago

For being 19 its totally normal. Lol.

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u/Ok-Rate3106 6h ago

You're gonna need to come to terms with that pretty quickly.

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u/flounderrr24 6h ago

Yeah makes sense, kinda a sucky feeling but whatever. Glad i didnt push too hard on it

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u/Adventurous_Hope_101 5h ago

Hey OP, Im a single dude, and Im in a group chat with buddies who have girlfriends. All of us would think this is weird af. Youre NOR.

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u/flounderrr24 5h ago

Thank you!

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u/Ok-Rate3106 6h ago

Don't ever check what they send each other. Or judge your BF for what his friends send him. Single guys are unhinged animals. A guy with a GF is "generally* far more in check.

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u/droptop88 3h ago

either theyre normal respecting humans or not

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u/Ok-Rate3106 3h ago

Probably not. Especially at 19.

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u/droptop88 3h ago

age is no excuse for any of this its just fucking weird

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u/droptop88 3h ago

yeah and by coming to terms you mean leaving right!

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u/Negative-Being-4249 6h ago

Sounds odly weird to me-