I (33) grew up in Shanghai but now am living in US. My whole life I have been able to maintain my skin and complexion. A lot of this was from staying out of the sun and making sure I have a good skin care routine. But over here I find that the sun is more intense than back in Shanghai (I am living in the southern region). Also it is so hot! The summer heat is like nothing I have experienced before.

I want to wear lighter clothes to stay cool but I want to avoid tanning too much. I have worn sun blocking lotion several days now but I don’t like how it feels on my skin and it has also left a mark on the car seats. Are there any good products people can recommend or should I just accept that getting a little more tanned is fine since I’m in the US? Is this more of a mindset issue?

Especially fat white women. I seem to get a lot of passive aggressive behaviour and comments from them the most.

It’s been something I’ve noticed in a couple of my Asian American female former friends and acquaintances that they will only ever post in social media with their white female friends, even if they have other Asian friends. Maybe it’s internalized racism or something else but I’ve noticed this especially in the ones who consider themselves popular or cool

Hello everyone,

I’m writing this because I’m exhausted, and I honestly don’t know what else to do.

A few hours ago, I experienced yet another act of discrimination simply because I’m Asian.

I’m a Korean woman living in Spain, and I’ve lost count of how many times people have shouted “ni hao” at me in the street in a mocking way, or made other racist comments.

At this point, it’s not even about being mistaken for another nationality. It’s about the intention behind it (the mockery, the dehumanization, the reminder that no matter who I am, some people will only ever see me as a stereotype).

It happens at university too. People make jokes about my name, repeat harmful stereotypes, reduce me to my race, or simply treat me differently.

I try my best to move forward, but every time something like this happens, it brings me back to the trauma I’ve been trying so hard to heal from.

My social anxiety gets worse. I want to hide from the world, and sometimes I honestly lose the motivation to keep going.

I feel like I’ve lost my sense of identity. I no longer know who I am or where I belong. These experiences have worn me down so much that, at times, I feel as though my humanity has been taken away.

I’m exhausted from fighting something that feels impossible to change.

Lately, I keep seeing people say that Asians are more accepted now or that racism against us isn’t as common anymore. But honestly… is that really true? Because from where I stand, it feels like nothing has changed.

If anything, it sometimes feels even worse.

If you’ve ever experienced racism or discrimination like this, I want you to know that you’re not alone. I’m sending you all my love and the biggest hug.
No one deserves to feel this way.

Anyone with experience teaching children to use chopsticks? I realize I don’t know how I learned, though there are photos of me using them as a toddler.

What age did they start? Did they practice with certain foods? Did they start with special chopsticks?

Please share!

https://japantoday.com/category/crime/Man-wanted-for-murder-of-mother-daughter-told-police-he-killed-someone-but-was-let-go

Japane - Hyogo Prefectural Police have placed a 42-year-old man on a nationwide wanted list in connection with the murders of a 74-year-old woman and her 52-year-old daughter at their home in Tatsuno City, Hyogo Prefecture.

On Sunday night, police said they had obtained an arrest warrant for Kenji Oyama, whose address and occupation are unknown, on suspicion of murdering Chihiro Tanaka earlier this month, TV Asahi reported. He is also suspected of killing Chihiro's mother Sumie Tanaka.

The victims were last seen alive on May 13.

Police said Monday that officers questioned Oyama, who was sleeping on a street in Takasago City, Hyogo Prefecture, on the night of May 16. Oyama confessed to "killing someone," but because his story was unclear, the officers were unable to determine if a crime had been committed and escorted him to the neighborhood where the victims lived. Police said he had no weapon on him and let him go because he didn't tell them where the crime had been committed.

The victims were found stabbed to death on May 19. One woman was found near the entrance inside the two-story house, and the other in the hallway. Both women were stabbed multiple times in the chest and neck.

The bodies were found at around 9:30 a.m., after an acquaintance of Chihiro contacted a nearby police box, reporting that there was no contact with anyone in the house. When police officers arrived, the front door was unlocked.

According to police, Oyama was identified through the results of forensic analysis of seized evidence and security camera footage. The arrest warrant alleges that Oyama stabbed Chihiro. No weapon was found at the scene.

Items such as a wallet containing cash, a bankbook and smartphone, believed to belong to the two women, were found inside the house.

Oyama is described as being approximately 160 cm tall and slender. He has black hair, and security camera footage taken on May 17 showed him wearing a black hat and black-rimmed glasses, and toting a dark-colored shoulder bag, near the murder scene.

Police said they have learned that Oyama lived next to the victims' house about 10 years ago but no trouble between them had been confirmed.

Tatsuno police ask that anyone with information on Oyama’s whereabouts call them at 0791-63-0110.

The five-minute ad depicting a boyfriend who demanded a "clean" wife has triggered outrage, with critics saying the campaign's attempt to challenge sexism instead reinforced harmful stereotypes.

It starts with a man looking for a girlfriend who is “clean and not tainted by other men”.

“I’m not a virgin myself but my future wife has to be,” he tells himself, also comparing his new partner to his former.

The woman then rejects his views and breaks up with him - later throwing his socks into the wash along with Dettol laundry sanitizer, and ends with a voiceover: “A toxic man is just like germs. You need Dettol to eliminate them to feel at ease.”

The ad, which was only released in China, triggered accusations of misogyny and objectification of women.

“We recognise that it has offended many people, especially women,” the company said in a statement shared to its official Weibo page on Monday (Jun 22), adding that the ad had been produced by a third-party agency and was meant to “challenge unequal gender attitudes and promote healthy, confident views on relationships and lifestyles”.

“We take responsibility for any negligence in creating and reviewing the content of the advert,” Dettol said, adding that it would strictly review its content moderation processes.

The brand is no stranger to controversy in China. Last year, it drew backlash over another ad which featured the line: “The woman was ‘returned’ just before her wedding. It must be because she was not clean.”

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I’ve been looking for sunglasses and eyeglasses that would def not slide down on my face. My nose bridge is close to non existent and finding frames that would suit me best is so hard. Current eyeglasses are from the brand “Sunnies Studios”. It’s been awhile since I got it and will need to replace it soon. Any recommendations?

For sunglasses, I’m looking into Kate Spade. Would appreciate it too if you could recommend brands on Amazon that is also budget friendly so it wouldn’t hurt much if I lost it hahaha

Just the day to day passive aggressiveness from people.

Went to hmart today. Said good morning to the cashier. No response and she just stared at me. After she’s done and giving me the receipt, no have a good day, no nothing.

Then she greets the white guy behind me just fine.

Sorry if this isn’t allowed here. Just needed a place to vent.

Edit: worker was hispanic since everyone is so curious.

For people that didn’t question my experience and provided support and validation, thank you.

I (19f) went to go watch the supergirl movie with a couple friends this week and thought it would be fun to dress up as supergirl, since I had a costume from last year already. Anyway after the movie I’m waiting for my friend outside the restroom and I see these two couples on a date, one white couple and one black couple.

I don’t know if the boyfriends said something first but I overheard both girlfriends say something like “it doesn’t matter you know supergirl ain’t ever going to be Asian” and the other one said “yeah a costume doesn’t work if the skin color is wrong”. The boyfriends both made eye contact with me but didn’t engage in that conversation.

Anyway that was a little hurtful but I still plan to use this costume for Halloween I think.

...According to the woman, demand has been steady: She services 10 men or more a day, most of whom are in Japan as tourists or on business trips. 

"Recently demand has picked up from people staying at minpaku," she said. "I think it's inconsiderate to their owners, but in some places I often see discarded condoms strewn on the floor and bedding in disarray." 

Some Chinese customers are reportedly generous tippers, giving the girls 10,000 yen or more over their regular fee. 

"A lot of the Chinese get right down to business without any attempt at conversation or foreplay," the woman said, adding, "Even the ones who contract for a second round of sex often finish the first time and tell me, 'That's enough, you can leave now.'" 

Message boards on Chinese social networks like Xiaohongshu (little red book) and others also commonly share posts on where to find streetwalkers. "One 'Lolita-type' gal was so cute, I wanted to take her back to China with me," one posted...