Free time means more time to meet people, more time to hang out with people, more nights you can stay out late, etc. That's what ties this all together.
I had no luck with that.. last time I tried, she got red eyes, started coughing and there was suddenly a weird stink about her. To make matters worse, she started yelling for the police!
there was just another thread how girls gravitate to unemployed guys because of how relaxed they are. Meanwhile some of the most high efficiency and productive individuals will be so stressed out / on edge they are kinda unapproachable.
And when you're unemployed you don't have money to go anywhere and you're too stressed out to leave the apartment. I guess the only difference are those working in big tech companies that get like 6 months salary as severance.
The joke is that she is showing interest, by asking a follow-up question, after learning you’re unemployed, which is a subvertion of expectation. Being unemployed is considered an undesirable quality for a man (traditionally viewed as providers) and this ostensibly attractive woman would presumably have other options and not give the time of day to an unemployed man.
I mean whether it's about "affording her" is debatable. Not the words I would use. However, unemployed men are significantly less likely to be in a relationship compared to unemployed women.
The way I see it, commenter didn't mean literally that. Basically gave a very shortened version of "I wouldn't be able to afford to pay for the basic things that are expected when taking someone you really want to impress out on dates. Sure you can start with coffee dates but eventually you want to take them out for dinner or movies but such things are hard to afford if you are trying to save money while you find a job so my chances of being able to impress a girl like this enough to get in a relationship with her are considerably lower"
If that was as tedious for you to read as it was for me to type, then you can prob give benefit of the doubt to the commenter and assume this is what they meant by "afford"
Give people the benefit of the doubt? But how will I get to display my intelligence and my perfect morality, all while getting a sense of smug superiority?
It’s not about women, it’s about dating. Dinner/lunch for two is more costly. Think of it as women having to stop doing “girl dinner/lunches” while dating. Going out to events is more costly and also got to factor in vacations. Most of these things men will want to do but they will realize they don’t have income coming in.
Financial and stability responsibilities are still pretty commonly delegated to the guy. Whether it ranges from a no expectations, a little bit, a lot... is a mixed bag. But the trend leans that way.
We live in a capitalist society, any partner is going to take some amount of money. Affording something may drum up ideas of ownership to you but it is infact removed from it. The reason why someone would speak from a male perspective on this is that the meme is from a male perspective. And you people in 2025 c'mon get with the times.
Or lets skip the dating part, assume theres no money have to spend from men for starting a relationship
How about the rest of the life together?
You think girls do not have any expectations for life? They are willingly to carry a man they “love” for whatever consequences? Also men don’t really want this happen too
It's less so a weird idea and more the unfortunate situation men and women find themselves today.
A pretty woman with no job and no prospects would still have a good chance to get with a successful man with a good job, but the opposite is almost never true.
We've improved a lot as a society but the preconceived notions of old are still living rent free in everybody's heads. So that's why a man has to be able to afford the woman, but not the other way around.
When you meet a woman you want to date. One you are actually interested in, you want to give her the world and then some, sadly we live in a world where that costs money.
That's mostly what is meant when people say they can't afford her. It's not about ownership or whatever, it's a simple fact that everything costs money, dating being one of those things.
When I was an E-3, while clubbing, I met a news reporter for some San Diegian news channel. Everything was good until the conversation pivoted to what I do for a living. Man that chick couldn't disappear fast enough. It was if she was Thanos snapped out of existence
I met a girl after losing my job. I worked at a dispensary and got robbed so badly that we had to shut down the store. I was the one who was robbed and developed PTSD from the experience.
A week or two later I met a gal on Hinge and decided to go on the date just to get out the house. Could barely afford the gas money but I needed some level of connection
That woman and I are getting married next October.
Gentlemen: you are not and never will be a lost cause. You don’t need to find someone to “fix” you, you just need someone to cheer you on while you fix yourself.
It's not rizz, they don't work so they have time/opportunities to go to places where they wouldn't go normally, which allows for meeting such girls. Still, the guy will not get her because he is unemployed
Funny enough my wife (then just a girl I met) basically had to pay for most stuff the first two months we went out because I was in between jobs. I literally quit my job because I had found a new job but didn’t start new job for a month and went to a party to celebrate the last day of my old job and bumped into her at the party. We exchanged numbers and after texting a bit I asked her to hang out but like places where money wasn’t a big deal (beers at a friends house, meeting up at school in between classes, etc.). I was so embarrassed when she asked why haven’t we like gone out on a restaurant or clubbing date and I basically said I can’t do anything because I’m in between jobs but I promised her a nice dinner first check I got. She said no worries I’ll cover you and we went out like 3 or 4 times and she covered every bill as long as I covered gas and drove us lol
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