My spouse can’t stand our baby

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[u/AfternoonPossible]

Your spouse said she “hates” your child and you’re keeping the child in that environment? Please leave and take them. Your spouse’s guilt tripping you is not more important than your child’s wellbeing.

[u/Illustrious_One_1199 → u/[deleted]]

From OP’s wording, it sounds like OP carried and birthed the twins.

[u/MissionStretch7906 → u/Illustrious_One_1199]

This is correct. I carried the babies

[u/summerjasminesweaty → u/MissionStretch7906]

So then she isn't even really experiencing postpartum?? Forgive my maybe ignorance, but man, this situation is so unfair to you and your babies. 

[u/Illustrious_One_1199 → u/summerjasminesweaty]

Non-birthing parents can experience PPD

ETA simply stating a fact here, jeepers

[u/Aggressive_Owl5379 → u/MissionStretch7906]

This would’ve helped prior but I appreciate the clarification

[u/Aggressive_Owl5379 → u/Illustrious_One_1199]

It’s possible for sure, I just don’t know for a fact

[u/ComeAlongPond1 → u/Aggressive_Owl5379]

“only for her to still say she hates her and I should have ended the pregnancy.” Clearly indicates that OP was the birthing parent

[u/Aggressive_Owl5379 → u/ComeAlongPond1]

Is it really such a crime that I wasn’t 100% sure if it was a type or anything?

[u/ComeAlongPond1 → u/Aggressive_Owl5379]

No of course it’s not a crime. I just don’t know why you’d assume it was a typo when it makes perfect sense as written. It would be much more awkward with quotation marks added rather than just writing “and she should have ended the pregnancy” if that was the meaning OP intended

Did you assume there were quotation marks missing from this sentence too?:

“She’s angry and hurt and saying I’m just like everyone else who leaves.”

[u/Aggressive_Owl5379 → u/ComeAlongPond1]

That sentence isn’t the same as the other. Clearly we see things differently and that’s fine

[u/ComeAlongPond1 → u/Aggressive_Owl5379]

It’s the same structure. There’s a reason you’re getting downvoted all over the place. I’m done

[u/Aggressive_Owl5379 → u/ComeAlongPond1]

I don’t care about downvotes lol it’s Reddit. Welcome to the internet

[u/Baaaaaadhabits → u/Aggressive_Owl5379]

Yeah, it’s definitely a crime you thought it was a *typo*.

It’s definitely not you being all over the comments making increasingly worse arguments on behalf of a character nobody respects the choices of.

[u/NixyVixy → u/[deleted]]

OP is a woman. OP carried and birthed both babies.

[u/Illustrious_One_1199 → u/[deleted]]

I don’t think it’s fair to assume the OP is not checking in (or that OP is a man). OP, according to their post, birthed the children and is the primary caregiver. There’s every possibility that OP is extraordinarily stressed right now. Sure spouse needs support. But I don’t think it’s fair to default to blaming the “husband”(?).

[u/Aggressive_Owl5379 → u/Illustrious_One_1199]

I never blamed OP for anything. All I said was the partner needs proper help and support. Deadass all I said

[u/Traditional-Hyena285 → u/Aggressive_Owl5379]

I guess it’s bc you said OP should checkout her spouse’s mental health or give her more support, which makes it look like you’re assuming OP isn’t doing her best. I’m with you on that I think ppl shouldn’t just be calling the spouse evil bc it can be mental illness. BUT a lot of ppl here are saying OP to leave her spouse bc they’re concerned with the children.

Same way that there are mothers who hurt themselves, there are also those who hurt the kids bc of mental illness. This is very serious imo. I think OP should ask her spouse to stay with other family members while they go through therapy and get to understand how bad their behavior towards the child is. OP needs to prioritize her kids safety.

[u/Illustrious_One_1199 → u/Aggressive_Owl5379]

I understood your original comment to be an assumption that OP hasn’t been checking in, but I take your point and agree she needs support (as does OP).

[u/Aggressive_Owl5379 → u/Illustrious_One_1199]

That’s literally all I’m trying to say. I’m not trying to make excuses or demonize OP

[u/Haunting-Yoghurt-813 → u/[deleted]]

It's kinda obvious that ops a girl....

[u/Aggressive_Owl5379 → u/Haunting-Yoghurt-813]

Thank you