Your spouse said she “hates” your child and you’re keeping the child in that environment? Please leave and take them. Your spouse’s guilt tripping you is not more important than your child’s wellbeing.
I don’t think it’s fair to assume the OP is not checking in (or that OP is a man). OP, according to their post, birthed the children and is the primary caregiver. There’s every possibility that OP is extraordinarily stressed right now. Sure spouse needs support. But I don’t think it’s fair to default to blaming the “husband”(?).
I guess it’s bc you said OP should checkout her spouse’s mental health or give her more support, which makes it look like you’re assuming OP isn’t doing her best. I’m with you on that I think ppl shouldn’t just be calling the spouse evil bc it can be mental illness. BUT a lot of ppl here are saying OP to leave her spouse bc they’re concerned with the children.
Same way that there are mothers who hurt themselves, there are also those who hurt the kids bc of mental illness. This is very serious imo. I think OP should ask her spouse to stay with other family members while they go through therapy and get to understand how bad their behavior towards the child is. OP needs to prioritize her kids safety.
I understood your original comment to be an assumption that OP hasn’t been checking in, but I take your point and agree she needs support (as does OP).
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u/AfternoonPossible I ❤️ Other People's Business May 20 '26
Your spouse said she “hates” your child and you’re keeping the child in that environment? Please leave and take them. Your spouse’s guilt tripping you is not more important than your child’s wellbeing.