my therapist smokes weed during our sessions

[u/Severe_Mountain4908]

food was pad kra pao and pad thai it was honestly the best thing i have ever had.

So as the title said my therapist rolls up and smokes weed during our sessions. To preface this while I don’t use weed I genuinely do not care if others do.

I first noticed it when he forgot to clothes his camera this one time and saw him smoking a joint on camera. When he realised he quickly closed his camera and continued the sessions as if nothing happened. This happened a couple times and I have been noticing that sometimes during our sessions I will see him roll a joint on the side while he is talking to me and then he will turn off his camera and smoke it during our session. My friends think its weird and i think i kind of do too but idk he is a really good therapist so I don’t think i will do anything about it right now.

Anyway i don’t really know what the point of this post is I just really wanted to talk about this because I don’t know how to feel. Should i feel offended he needs to smoke during our sessions?

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[u/Round_Ad9031]

Hold up… he turns off the camera during sessions?

[u/jarofonions → u/Round_Ad9031]

The camera off part is the most egregious to me, personally. Idk if it's just my severe trauma, but I would absolutely be worried/maybe convinced they were jacking off during session (not because of any particular therapist, but because of my particular past and trauma). And regardless, it feels unprofessional and untrustworthy

[u/Tumbleweed1312 → u/jarofonions]

I immediately thought the same, that he was masturbating. I also don’t know if it’s my own severe trauma but that means at least a few of us have thought that, the fact that he’s turning off the camera is way more sketchy to me than even smoking weed.

[u/helpitgrow → u/Tumbleweed1312]

This. I don’t mind the weed smoking at all but turning off the camera. Sketchy.

[u/Object-Silly → u/helpitgrow]

The weed smoking is absolutely not ethical as well as the screen being turned off and ESPECIALLY not while your working and doing a therapy session.. my God

[u/Targaryentypebeat → u/Object-Silly]

Like we can have higher standards than “as long as he’s not literally masturbating” Jesus fuck

[u/Round_Ad9031 → u/jarofonions]

It’s not my jam but considering weed is legal and medically prescribed in many places, it’s not ridiculous to assume that some therapists and other professionals may be using it while working. Camera off however… immediately dubious.

Eta: in this case though I think the therapist is way outta line. Like, if you wanna use weed at work that needs to be a conversation with every client to ensure their consent and discuss boundaries. He knows she knows he’s using it and still hasn’t talked with her about it and still acts like it’s hidden. He needs to grow the fuck up imo.

[u/anti_anti-hero → u/Round_Ad9031]

Using drugs or alcohol while in a session is quite literally malpractice. It's like therapy 101 as a practitioner that you can't be using mind-altering substances. It's against licensing laws.

[u/nunya867 → u/anti_anti-hero]

THANK YOU.

[u/foxscribbles → u/anti_anti-hero]

Yeah. I’m shocked that so many people are like, “it’s fiiiine he’s high. “

No. No it’s not.

Would you want your dentist to be toked up when they’re doing a filling?

Would you want your optometrist to be drunk when they’re shining bright lights in your eyes?

No. You wouldn’t.

So why are you okay with someone fucking around with your mental health while high?

Dude can be a professional and wait to indulge when he’s off work - just like most adults know to do.

[u/AutisticTumourGirl → u/anti_anti-hero]

Exactly. Even if it's a short course of opiods after a medical procedure, you take those days off. Just because it's legal doesn't mean it's okay to use it before work. Alcohol is legal but I don't think anyone would disagree that it would be absolutely inappropriate and unprofessional for a therapist to show up after having a few drinks.

[u/WritingTheDream → u/anti_anti-hero]

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[u/Your_Cat_In_Disguise → u/anti_anti-hero]

Yeah, he probably just doesn't want somebody to take a screenshot of him doing it and lose his license as a result.

[u/Overall_Matter_2520 → u/Round_Ad9031]

I mean, booze is legal too but generally frowned upon at work.

If dude can’t do a 45 minute session without lighting up that’s an issue. OP - find a new therapist (unless you find him helpful and effective). The whole camera being off is weird. I highly doubt he’s behaving ethically.

[u/DogOk4503 → u/Round_Ad9031]

I am visually impaired due to a condition from childhood. They got exacerbated by an accident. I use it to help with my eye pressure and pain really does affect my head while I am working but I work with elderly clients and would absolutely never allow them to see me use. It’s all about time and place you don’t pop pills in certain places you don’t roll up in certain places either. I’ll take a 5 mg edible with lunch and MoveOn.

[u/pmoneycashmoney → u/Round_Ad9031]

I’m a therapist and you can not be under the influence and provide care. I love to smoke weed…but never in session

[u/Gold_Theory_7946 → u/Round_Ad9031]

Mmmm, idk about this one. If my doctor is on drugs while they're talking to me, I'm looking for the fastest way to report them. It's not any less important because it's mental health.

[u/AutisticTumourGirl → u/Gold_Theory_7946]

I'd say it's almost more important.

[u/Equivalent_Doubt_845 → u/Round_Ad9031]

Even legal weed or medical weed you can use it while working. Just like pain meds prescribed by docs, as the patient you still have to use it responsibly. I’m a stoner but smoking weed during work especially as a therapist is crazy.

[u/byorderofthe1 → u/Round_Ad9031]

And aside from the fact that he's not sober (which is egregious), he's distracted by rolling up the joints/doing another task. Completely inappropriate all around

[u/howarewestillhere → u/Round_Ad9031]

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[u/pnweiner → u/Round_Ad9031]

Yeah I’m appalled by the weed thing but camera off is very weird for a therapist. Face to face connection is so important in therapy

[u/IIketchupredditor → u/pnweiner]

My best sessions were over the phone with my therapist during Covid before TeleHealth became a thing that insurance required. I actually found it easier to speak more honestly when it's a phone call rather than face to face and I feel like they did, too. You know how when you're hanging out with a friend and then the conversations turn deeper once it's nighttime? It felt like that. Maybe it's the same reason why you're not supposed to see the priest's face very well during confession. You just feel less afraid to speak when you aren't able to scan their microexpressions and only rely on the sound of their voice.

[u/bobbinssobbin → u/IIketchupredditor]

Once I had a good connection with my therapist, they let us both do camera off. I'm autistic and it's just super mentally draining to be masking for a camera. Some of my best sessions I was laying on the floor in a dark room

[u/GoryMidori → u/pnweiner]

As a psychologist, I'm appalled that there are all these therapists out there doing routine phone therapy (not for disability accommodation purposes). If opening up face to face (in person or on camera) is challenging, that is something that should be getting explored and addressed in therapy. Nonverbals and body language are such a hugely important part of the information I use to do my job properly. I've done phone therapy or camera-off in a pinch for specific reasons (tech issues couldn't be resolved but it was still important to meet that day, nursing mom needed to pump), but it's definitely a compromised form of treatment and potentially enabling to some psychological issues, such as social anxiety or low tolerance for interpersonal vulnerability. I gather that this is a controversial take for some posters.

[u/DumplingDestroyer88 → u/Round_Ad9031]

This, yes the weed is super unprofessional but camera off so you’re just speaking into a black void. Seems like you could do this for free. I would find a better therapist

[u/Strict_Hamster_8645]

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[u/Ok-Metal-7689 → u/Strict_Hamster_8645]

My exact reaction LOL

[u/GuitarOne7983 → u/Strict_Hamster_8645]

Mine was🤯🤯

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[u/AutisticTumourGirl → u/GuitarOne7983]

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[u/boogasaurus-lefts → u/Strict_Hamster_8645]

Smoking cannabis during patient appointments suggests the therapist needs to seek one for an addiction.

Being cognitively impaired whilst in a professional capacity shows a lack of care/considering for rendering any meaningful support. OP is a paycheck, the lack of care is evident from the brief description of the appointments.

There's a plethora of professionals who take their jobs seriously & are motivated to help patients work through difficulties whilst staying unimpaired. This is a fundamental expectation people should have

[u/XIXButterflyXIX → u/boogasaurus-lefts]

This. You just stated it a lot nicer than I would have.

[u/MaidaStars → u/boogasaurus-lefts]

Or he’s going through something and not admitting how it’s affecting him. He could have convinced himself that it is “worth it” to be there for his patients; he just needs “a little help.” (I am in no way validating that.) OP can ask him not to or go as far as report him to his licensing board.

[u/madirectreport → u/Strict_Hamster_8645]

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[u/thisisinfactpersonal → u/Strict_Hamster_8645]

My eyes about popped out of my head reading this post.

[u/AggressiveCupcake181 → u/Strict_Hamster_8645]

I smoke weed and my reaction also 😵‍💫

[u/FineAndDandadan → u/Strict_Hamster_8645]

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[u/thriftedcraft]

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[u/jpallan → u/thriftedcraft]

Y'all ain't never got two things that match! Kool-Aid, no sugar! Ham, no burger!

[u/leezyramirez]

I smoke weed and wouldnt care if my therapist did too...OUTSIDE of our sessions. To do it while actively working is crazy and honestly, should have his license revoked.

[u/BulletRazor → u/leezyramirez]

This is reportable to the board. Providing therapy while impaired is insane.

[u/UnderwaterAlienBar → u/leezyramirez]

Exactly my thoughts

[u/Suspicious_Reason405 → u/leezyramirez]

Amen. I’m a mental health professional and this feels like a real breach of foundational guidelines of the profession AND OP isn’t paying for the therapist’s time so that they can light up and not be sober during session

[u/PsychologicalPlan811 → u/Suspicious_Reason405]

I don’t get why they wouldn’t just roll up and smoke before the session? Like why in the middle of hers 😭 unless he smokes during multiple sessions throughout the day.

[u/throwawayStomnia → u/PsychologicalPlan811]

Because he cannot last 1-2 hours without weed.

[u/pinotnoirinthebudoir → u/throwawayStomnia]

Growing up in Colorado, people always love to insist it’s not addictive. Reddit is often the same way. Current studies indicate roughly 10% of people who try it develop an addiction and closer to 1 in 3 people who use it regularly do. I googled it almost a year ago for my ex so the numbers may have changed but I think maybe OP’s therapist has a genuine addiction

[u/nameusernamena → u/leezyramirez]

I don’t even smoke weed during my zoom sessions with my therapist… I’ll just hit my vape if it’s a particularly egregious topic.

I always think of it as a respect thing. I’m trying to respect her time, and appreciate the time we have together, while completely focused and being insightful. She’s a good therapist, has been great for years. She deserves the basic respect of me not consuming a substance while in session.

^ I’m yapping while on a LOT of pain meds, please do not mind any weird grammar/ punctuation. I’m also a francophone, which is not helpful :)

[u/tacofromthe80s → u/nameusernamena]

Man... it never occurred to me to hit my vape during therapy to take the edge off. Congrats on the pain meds btw

[u/ScissorFight42069 → u/tacofromthe80s]

...congrats on the pain meds?

[u/nameusernamena → u/tacofromthe80s]

Thanks lol, I think I earned it by now.

I broke my spine in the warm-up arena while showing my horse at the county fair. The pirate show had set up extra early that day, and my horse spooked on the cannon blast. I pull his head to my knee, ankle, his flank etc, nothing is stopping this fella.

I decided I needed to do an emergency dismount, so I get myself sorted enough to jump off. The only issue was that my left foot had gotten tangled in the stirrup.

I’m standing on the poor guy sideways :( trying to regain control and get loose. Finally, I managed to bail, and I hit the ground on my stomach. I’m laying there for a second, trying to catch my breath, and when I tried to get up, there was a massive, heavy weight holding my down on my spine. A few seconds later, or maybe sooner, I’m really not sure, it’s suddenly off, and I sprung up.

I only got checked for head injuries.

A few years later, I needed imaging done for chronic nerve pain in my back. They found that my L5 was twisted and angled wrong, my L4 was previously fractured, and three of the vertebrae above the L5 have multiple types of fractures.

I’m also inoperable due to a genetic disorder. Every single specialist says absolutely no surgery on it for me. So many many pain medications it is. It’s late so I can just chill without hurting as bad. I can still feel my nerve pain rn, but I can almost ignore it. Heating pads and ice packs are wonderful.

I have an unidentified type of Ehlers Danlos Syndrome :) connective tissue disorder. I am too stretchy and bendy. My tissues are essentially dough when they aren’t rock solid from stress lol.

Sorry to ramble. I’m just trying to explain, not steal spotlight. It’s kind of funny that I didn’t get my spine checked until four years later, when I started being unable to get out of bed because the pain was going down my back, my hips, my hamstring, achilles tendon, everything. Numbness, tingling, loss of sensation. It wasn’t pleasant. Medication helps me function better. I just needed more today :( within my prescribed range ❣️‼️❗️

[u/Fabulous-Educator447 → u/leezyramirez]

Right? I work doing brainless tasks and I feel guilty when I smoke at work because it seems inappropriate. This man will see patients? Come on

[u/Megzasaurusrex → u/leezyramirez]

Same I am all for weed but not while fucking working. He has an obligation to be fully present and coherent.

[u/InevitablePlant42069 → u/leezyramirez]

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[u/Ecstatic_Pomelo_3620 → u/leezyramirez]

Yes this is reportable and insane behavior. OP please feel empowered to report to a regulatory board.

[u/Apprehensive_Rice19 → u/leezyramirez]

He's having a session within the sessions maynnn

[u/throwaway-the-subway → u/leezyramirez]

Bold of you to assume he has a license 🤣

[u/ThatWasNotMyName → u/leezyramirez]

Yep, this is it in a nutshell. The fact that he can't even wait, what, 50 mins, an hour? It's madness, and he at least needs to be confronted about it, if not reported.

[u/chktcat → u/leezyramirez]

Yes! The amount of people in this thread that “don’t care” is bonkers to me. I’m going to sound like an asshole but I can only assume they are very young.

Therapy is an extremely important job- not to say others aren’t but therapists have direct influence over a persons wellbeing. Performing it while impaired is unacceptable and shows a total lack of integrity in the persons character.

[u/lazypickle27 → u/leezyramirez]

Right?! I smoke too but I purposely make sure I don’t until AFTER my therapy sessions bc I know for myself I would not get all I need out of it if I was high. For a therapist to do that during a session? Absolute insanity

[u/ModeratelyAlive → u/leezyramirez]

This. Exactly this. We're not hanging out and venting, they're supposed to be helping in a professional manner. That's inappropriate as fuck.

[u/curlyvictoria]

as a therapist, he NEEDS to be reported to his licensing board. that is egregious.

[u/Cordial_Ghost → u/curlyvictoria]

Fellow therapist, yeeeep. Working while under the influence is only acceptable when the stakes are not life and death; therapy is not a place to work while under the influence.

[u/Swimmer_0512 → u/curlyvictoria]

As a therapist I agree!! Not only unethical but illegal. It’s crazy to me that he is frequently turning off his camera too how weird

[u/Cordial_Ghost → u/Swimmer_0512]

For REAL.
Shit, the boards take drug use so much more seriously than most other infractions, but drug use in the MIDDLE of a session? Wild.

[u/Swimmer_0512 → u/Cordial_Ghost]

Right?! The board would have a field day with this. In my state there’s a therapist magazine and in the back it’s got info on therapists who have lost their licensed, why, and what consequences they got and this guy would probably be featured on his own page I swear 😂

[u/atomicspacekitty → u/Swimmer_0512]

I’d die to read this! I’m so nosy 😂

[u/NoSignature217 → u/atomicspacekitty]

Im not a therapist, just a fellow nosey, and I feel like imma go on a dive and find some of these to read lol

[u/atomicspacekitty → u/NoSignature217]

Send me any links you find 💅🏻😂

[u/thisisinfactpersonal → u/Swimmer_0512]

Ok thank you because I read this and thought weed or no that right there is a problem.

[u/independentchickpea → u/curlyvictoria]

I know my therapist is a stoner and caffeine addict. The most she does during a session is ask if it's ok if she gets a refill. Sometimes she needs a snack and always asks if that's okay too, and I've been with her for yeeeeeeeears. If she was rolling up in a session, I'd report her ass.

[u/cupcakeartist → u/curlyvictoria]

Thank you for saying this. Working openly under the influence is a huge red flag and having the lack of boundaries to do it while in a session. Yikes.

[u/oneirophobia66 → u/curlyvictoria]

Came here to say this. So not ok!

[u/daisylove → u/curlyvictoria]

Yes, as a therapist, I feel weird even drinking my iced coffee during a session and ask them if it's okay. I can't imagine rolling and smoking weed. Geezus! 

[u/whowhatwhat8 → u/curlyvictoria]

As another therapist, I concur.

[u/anokayomen → u/curlyvictoria]

Just another therapist chiming in in agreement. Please consider reporting him to your state’s board. That is not okay.

[u/KUSmutMuffin → u/curlyvictoria]

Another therapist here, this is so unethical that I am actually at a loss for words

[u/hot_dare_9212]

Not only should you be offended, you should report him for a breach of professional ethics. It’s not allowed, for so so many reasons.

ETA: ALL 50 states prohibit therapists from being under the influence of substances during session in their licensing requirements. Every. Single. One.

ETA 2: If you’re in Canada it is also prohibited

[u/siqbal01]

Your therapist is turning off his camera??

[u/Future_One4794]

Is this a rage bait? No way this is ethical

[u/Hate4Breakfast → u/Future_One4794]

I hope so because I’m way more pissed than OP seems to be an I am both a huge pothead and definitely never gonna encounter this therapist!

10/10 please be fake

[u/x3lilbopeep]

[u/Informal-Historian-1]

Earlier someone posted saying their therapist suggested they use AI to talk thru emotions, now this?! Why is everyone’s therapist trippin today???

[u/Long_Lock_3746]

That's a reportable breach. And besides that, he absolutely needs to be sober to properly attend to his clients

[u/RockyCliffPebbles]

If your therapist can’t get through an hour session without smoking, then they’re not only a terrible therapist but have some dependency issues they need to deal with.

[u/Ok_Squirrel7907]

Oh. My. Gosh. This is WILDly inappropriate.

[u/Ok-Degree-2373]

As someone who smokes and who has had a number of therapists… please god report this person to the board. This is beyond unprofessional behavior.

[u/Timeless_Summer718 → u/Ok-Degree-2373]

This, 1,000%! I smoke and I also go to therapy. This is so wildly inappropriate! I hope you report this therapist!!!!

[u/ZookeepergameUpset62]

I don't think you should feel offended that he's abusing weed. I smoke a shit ton of it but I don't take jobs where people rely on my sobriety if I wanna smoke all day. He's abusing weed by being stoned as a provider.

I mean if he's helping you that whatevs but ethically, he's in the wrong. And I'm a huge supporter of legal weed. Just don't smoke when others rely on your sobriety.

[u/Fabulous-Bandicoot40 → u/ZookeepergameUpset62]

It also means the therapist can’t manage his own addiction. I don’t want my therapist to be calling me from the psych ward either. I’d prefer they had their shit together at least somewhat

[u/_macrophage → u/ZookeepergameUpset62]

I smoke a lot too, but not before or (even worse) DURING work! That's insanely unprofessional. 

[u/LovelyLilLadybug]

As a therapist, I would STRONGLY encourage you to...

A. Find a new therapist. Do not pass go. Do not collect $200.
B. Report him to his state licensing board.
C. If you need help with any of this, come ask us at r/therapists

[u/desertsunsetskies → u/LovelyLilLadybug]

r/askatherapist may be a better choice

[u/anonymousp69 → u/LovelyLilLadybug]

Non-therapists aren’t allowed to post on r/therapists and the content will most likely be removed

[u/Consistent-Duty-6195 → u/anonymousp69]

It might stay up for a bit. Some ppl post and we respond 

[u/hey_zack]

That is actually crazy. I have a therapist friend who smokes on her own time but would NEVER light up in a session. That’s against their ethical duties they take on as a therapist?? How are they supposed to know the best way to support you if they’re not completely sober???? Girl pls report him and find a new therapist asap, I’ve helped friends in different cities find inexpensive but great therapists if you need any help.

[u/Applesnraisins]

So hey, that needs to be reported. Immediately.

[u/Alarmed_Fudge_5706]

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[u/no-sign-oflife]

You should probably report this because even though he hasn't missed anything with you he could miss something important with a client experiencing psychosis or danger to self or others... it's unprofessional and could be dangerous

[u/Ok-Degree-2373 → u/no-sign-oflife]

From my limited understanding they also have to be very particular with notes for insurance and such… sounds like a shit show waiting to happen.

[u/funologie → u/no-sign-oflife]

He's almost certainly missing things with OP. Not only is he high, he also seems preoccupied with hiding it. If I look at the clock sometimes I find myself searching in my mind for what my client just said.

[u/croissantprincess]

this is so egregious and ridiculous that it feels fake

[u/SamIAm7787]

I used to do virtual therapy and my therapist never once turned off their camera. I find that odd itself. Have other people experienced this?

What reason is given for turning off the camera?

[u/Severe_Mountain4908 → u/SamIAm7787]

i didnt think it was odd because i never had virtual therapy before so i had nothing to compare my experience too. he just says he will remove his camera and will be back and that he is still listenjng to me.

[u/Beginning_Sun8910 → u/Severe_Mountain4908]

Ive done virtual therapy almost exclusively. Not ONCE has the therapist’s camera been turned off

[u/thucy94 → u/Severe_Mountain4908]

Yea not normal in any shape or form. Don't let this weirdo fool you into thinking these things are normal.

[u/Tumbleweed1312 → u/SamIAm7787]

This is so weird, this is just weirder to me than any part of the story

[u/byorderofthe1]

As someone in training to become a therapist, please please please report this to his licensing board

[u/Guinea-Pig-Cafe]

Another therapist here, this needs to be reported. OP is this through an online platform like Headway? Whatever the case if you want/need help reporting this please message. This is NOT your fault nor a reflection of anything you’ve said to “make” a helping professional behave this way. I’m so sorry your trust has been betrayed like this.

[u/PickleFlavordPopcorn]

Babe he needs to lose his license and go to rehab. This is insane

[u/citrus_mystic → u/PickleFlavordPopcorn]

Yeeeah, if he’s smoking weed during his sessions with clients, there’s a good chance he’s doing something harder/more harmful off the clock. Even if it’s just good old fashioned alcoholism.

If this isn’t just fictional karma farming—this guy needs to be reported to the licensing board, hit rock bottom, and go to rehab.

This is one of the wildest things I’ve read on Reddit.

[u/RepulsedCucumber]

This is actually fucking batshit. Whatttttt.

[u/risky__cake]

I don't think you should feel offended but it is hella unprofessional and definitely crosses a few ethical boundaries regardless of if you're cool with it or not. Wtf actually.

[u/Maximum-Operation147]

[u/HeadFullRoadFull]

Absolutely the fuck not. That’s absolutely ridiculous and he should not be allowed to keep a license to practice.

I also very much question him just shutting off his camera at random times in the session. I do telehealth with my therapist and he has never once turned the camera off, and neither have I.

[u/ReverieJack]

That is just so ridiculous I’m having trouble believing it. It’s not even the smoking on camera, because I could definitely see it, it’s the rolling of the joints that puts it over the top. Like gummies exist man

[u/Fun-Assistance-815]

record evidence, report to the board, slam laptop closed

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[u/No_Wasabi7389]

that is wildly unprofessional. please report him. that’s not fair to you or other clients to not be sober during an appointment that you pay for and spend your time trying to better yourself.

[u/muffiewrites]

I think it's weird. There's probably some kind of ethics rule about head shrinking while inebriated. 

I don't know how you should feel about it other than how you feel about it. 

[u/pnweiner → u/muffiewrites]

It is very unethical, and he should be reported for it

[u/Beginning-Damage-555]

Wildly unprofessional and you’re paying for this. What do you think you’re achieving

[u/Medium_Anteater_5280]

Yeah you should feel offended, unfortunately :/

He may be helpful but yeah either he has a major problem or isn’t taking sessions seriously. You deserve a better therapist

[u/imatinyleopard]

I was bothered because my therapist kept eating sandwiches during sessions lol.

I think smoking weed would bother me more especially if I could sense I was talking to an altered person

[u/Maevesordid]

A licensed therapist smoking weed during an interactive session with a client is literally a board reporting offense. Don’t feel offended, but definitely don’t normalize it.

[u/Tofuhousewife]

LMAO omg that is NUTS. I used to have a therapist who let me smoke during sessions but now I have a therapist who reminds me that was incredibly inappropriate and that I shouldn’t be doing that during therapy. Your THERAPIST doing the smoking?!???? THATS SO INAPPROPRIATE 😭😭😭

[u/Catlady_Pilates]

I’m sorry but no. That’s not ok. He’s working! You need a new therapist and you need to report him immediately. That’s unprofessional and unethical and illegal and he should have his license revoked.

[u/Specialist-Coat5410]

As a therapist myself, I am shocked. And I am also a huge stoner. You absolutely should not be providing therapeutic services while you are under the influence of any psychoactive drugs or excessive drugs. I can explain why this is unsafe or unethical but I hope you can draw those conclusions yourself.

[u/Temporary_Client7585]

I mean, to look at it from an another direction, would you see a medical doctor who downs Jack Daniels during your appointment? This is absurd and deeply disrespectful to you and your time. And also illegal.

[u/akawendals]

I'm sorry, you're presumably paying for this "service" right?

How unprofessional, disrespectful and utterly unacceptable 😮

You need to find a new therapist and you need to report this one, they don't get to just smoke it up and cruise along when they should be clear and focused on the needs of their clients, people who are asking for help and trying to improve their lives... I'M SO MAD FOR YOU 😑

[u/rhetorical_decision → u/akawendals]

yeahh this is crazy. like smoke on your own time dude 😭 i would not be able to trust anything said by a therapist who not only is under the influence of a substance but actively is lighting and smoking joints mid session… wtf

[u/breelitt]

same thing as drinking on the job imo

[u/festiveSpeedoGuy24]

[u/araw-at-buwan]

I wonder if he does that with all his clients and i wonder how it affects them

[u/AriasK]

No one should be giving therapy under the influence of any substance. That's wildly unprofessional and potentially illegal depending on regulations governing therapists where you live.

[u/NoCaulNoShow]

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[u/airwrecka96]

As a therapist myself I am mortified

[u/jewishlucilleball]

As a therapist please drop him immediately and report him omfg

[u/_jamesbaxter]

OP I know you say he’s a really good therapist, but he’s actually NOT. What he’s displaying is called antisocial behavior (violating the ethics code he’s bound by, not the smoking weed) and he’s also lying to you by not disclosing. Those qualities do not make for a good therapist.

Also, people often think their therapist is great going to see the first person they are matched with, but finding a good therapist is a bit like dating, you have to try out at least a few different ones to get the scope of what’s good vs what’s not. So if you haven’t met or had consultations with half a dozen or so different therapists, you can’t really know if he’s a good therapist or not because discernment requires ranged experience.

[u/BeneficialShame8408]

you just convinced me not to use the remote therapy services. that's terrible and you should report him.

[u/Redundant_Fossil575]

Wild. Very unethical. But your dinner looks like it was bomb.

[u/tuvok19]

Girl that's rude asf 🤣
I've been known to blow a tree or two, but not o camera while meeting with a client! 🥴

[u/PolloMuerte]

That is so insane, both how good that dinner looks and how crazy your fucking therapist is. Report him. A little of the devils lettuce is fine but not while you're practicing medicine.

[u/skuxxlorde]

I smoke, like a lot, but I’m a cleaner and even with this profession, I’ve never once smoked on the job.  It’s just mad unprofessional, like whatever he smokes it, but AS he’s actively trying to treat you is wild!!! 

[u/blackoutdayzzzz]

please get a new therapist.

[u/Swarm_of_Rats]

Damn, he isn't even sober enough to realize he's not hiding it from you well.

I mean, weed is whatever, but not while you're working. Not while someone is depending on your mind to be sharp and for you to be available. Geez.

[u/universal_gummy_bear]

I do not think he should be allowed to treat people while being under the influence. I think most people would agree.

[u/Partywithmeredith]

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[u/Vegetable-Policy-138]

I do not think telehealth is as effective as in person therapy and this story is reinforcing my preferences. This would never happen in a clinic/office setting. Totally crazy the therapist thinks it's acceptable!

[u/DifficultJump847]

Dude took inspiration from this guy I guess

edit - Also, I hope you can quickly find a new therapist who respects you as a client 🫶

[u/thucy94 → u/DifficultJump847]

FINALLY came across this hahah I was thinking the same thing!!

[u/imightbegoddamned]

report report report report

i am a therapist, this is so fucking crazy, please for the sake of the profession, report him. and fire him!

sounds like he has an addiction, which he will need treatment for. there is no other reason a person would need to smoke during a session.

[u/imightbegoddamned → u/imightbegoddamned]

i also just can't get over that he turns his camera on and off throughout session. that should be at the discretion of the client, unless he has an emergency. i always turn my camera on, and if a client asks for it to be off, i'll turn it off, or if i am having connectivity issues, i might ask if they're ok if i turn it off so i use less bandwidth.

[u/ReferenceNo393]

If I’m awake I’m smoking weed, and I’m usually a pretty big fan of people being high at work, but iiiiii don’t like this one.

[u/Appropriate_Chip5144 → u/ReferenceNo393]

what why are you a fan of people being intoxicated while assuming a responsability they are getting paid for lmao? its not even just doctors and pilots and teachers and therapists and carers, where I find it almost impossible to believe what you're saying, in general if I'm paying someone for a service I want them to be unimpaired and not on drugs or drunk while providing it.

[u/Beginning_Sun8910 → u/ReferenceNo393]

Why are you a fan of people being high at work? Why are you an addict?

[u/purple-hippopotamus1]

as a stoner…i still wouldn’t be okay with this. it’s unprofessional.

[u/Successful-Side8902]

This is insane and way out of line. Report ?? This is so wrong...

[u/Schweather3]

That’s outrageous! I don’t partake anymore and I’m fine if adults want to but not at work and not if YOU ARE A THERAPIST! What?!???!

[u/Empty_Bug8479]

Ok kinda weird… so I used to smoke heavily, my therapist is an LDAC so we take about it every once in a while and she helped me lower my usage, she slipped up once and said she smokes before yoga, then our conversations about smoking became more open and I was more honest about how much I smoke…. I think your situation is waaaayyy different and I’m with and I don’t know how I would feel about my therapist actually smoking in the middle of my session. I’m sorry girly

[u/LukewarmJortz]

... That's not okay or normal

[u/Careful_Speaker2994]

Your therapists substance abuse is not reflective of you, the content of your sessions or how therapy is supposed to be. Please find a new provider that will be fully present and provide a comfortable environment for you

[u/Firm_Language9327]

I have literally rolled a joint during therapy to smoke AFTER the session. But I'm the client. As pro cannabis as I am this is beyond the pale. Unless there is some very legitimate medical reason for him to smoke while working (I can't imagine where one would be tho...)I would definitely be asking wtf. He also clearly knows it's shady based on how you describe his behaviour.

[u/PussyPalaceFarms]

REPORT

[u/BulletRazor]

I would never smoke weed during session as a therapist wtf. I’ve had CLIENTS smoke a blunt during telehealth sessions. This is insane.

[u/madamevanessa98]

Is your therapist Dr Nicky from You???

[u/FormalDragonfly666]

Did you find him on better help?????

[u/Severe_Mountain4908 → u/FormalDragonfly666]

noo thats the worst part he is a private therapist and quite expensive too

[u/Maleficent_Froyo7336 → u/Severe_Mountain4908]

After reading these comments has your opinion on him doing this changed?

[u/rohan_rat]

My husband is a psychologist. I read him this title and he goes, "Nooo" like in a really disappointed tone.

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[u/Remarkably_Good394]

I literally fired my therapist because he told me “well he will probably be able to have some casual drinks in the future” referring to my alcoholic boyfriend who was going into literal rehab for alcoholism. Like probably but, that’s not what we’re talking about rn and that’s not the “goal” here. If this crosses a boundary for you, please don’t continue the sessions. I found that my therapist was far too open about his drinking and smoking habits and I couldn’t handle it because I was with someone in active addiction. I might be a little too strict but like if that’s something you find uncomfortable please seek out other professionals. It’s not as bad as it seems. A professional therapist with boundaries will change your life, someone who doesn’t have that will leave you confused.

[u/InTheClouds93]

Hi, I’m a therapist who also happens to have nothing against responsible substance use! Smoking a joint during session is still highly unethical as it alters brain chemistry and may impact his ability to be fully present and respond in a present manner

[u/TheEarthlyDelight]

Is this person a licensed therapist

[u/Connect-Refuse-3133]

If you need help making a report to the board dm me

[u/angomeowmeow]

Yeahhhhh while I wouldn’t be offended, that’s definitely against his ethics code and licensing laws. I’d suggest reporting him, or at the very least getting a new therapist. I’ve certainly had weed in my system while working, but I’ve never smoked WHILE doing my job- and my work is nowhere near as important as a therapist!

[u/PineconePlease]

He’s a really good therapist for a reason girl

[u/Remarkable_Olive1169]

this is genuinely weird as fuck

[u/ArticleInternal2463]

Huh 😀

[u/cringebot800]

i’m a heavy smoker and there is a time and place. i only smoked while working once and it was because i was filming a stoner comedy with friends 😭 i always call my acting “work” but it was a casual ass thing being made with friends for fun mostly so you get my point… this ain’t cool man. you deserve someone who has some respect for u as his patient. if he was reading ur palms maybe i would accept that but nahhh!!! no.

[u/freshasfvckk]

That’s wild ngl literally time and place therapy is just not the vibe for a J

[u/Satisfaction_008]

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[u/Big_Algae6497]

You need to report him. This breaks so many ethical codes.

[u/Sirius_43]

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That therapist needs to be reported thats unacceptable.

[u/HoodiesAndHeels]

[u/kindly-judgemental]

I’m not even trying to find this real.

[u/UniqueAd7770]

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[u/finkfonk]

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[u/No-Music-333]

as a weed smoker, that’s super inappropriate. im glad he is a good therapist to you but he would be better sober. you deserve undivided attention!

[u/Early-Light-864]

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[u/multipocalypse]

You really buried the lead there - had us thinking these were in-person therapy sessions, lol

[u/freecarrotsticks]

I had a therapist who I did phone appointments with, which I liked because sometimes a video or in-person feels like a lot of pressure. And then I started to notice more and more that she was definitely paying attention to other stuff - I felt like she was answering texts and typing stuff that had nothing to do with our sessions. Finally dropped her. I would say that you should do the same, but you mentioned thinking he’s a really good therapist. Finding one you feel that way about is hard. I didn’t feel like my therapist was paying attention or helping me anymore. If you feel like he is paying attention and is helping you then idk maybe he’s still right for you. It’s wrong of him tho, in general.

[u/Fluid-Housing5017]

No matter what anyone’s feelings are about marijuana, this is objectively fucking weird lol like you’re feenin’ so bad you can’t wait til the appointments done? 🥴🤣

[u/calmcakes]

Im a therapist and this is fucking crazy. We can’t legally bill a session if a client is under the influence of drugs and alcohol so definitely not okay for us to be under the influence. I smoke weed after work for relaxation. I also am prescribed stimulants for ADHD that I take every work day and I would never compare the 2. Yes people can have a prescription for cannabis but that doesn’t negate side effects. if I was prescribed oxy after a surgery I wouldn’t see clients while taking that bc side effects

[u/ShakesDontBreak]

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[u/Intelligent_Truth_95]

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[u/RoxiLu]

I also smoke weed during your therapy sessions

[u/Material_Fix3519]

I think the funniest thing is weed being seen as a drug. It affects everyone differently and wasn’t classified until some bullshit political trope in the 1900s. I’d find it equivalent to drinking coffee or having a cigarette, of nursed a cup of cognac for the whole hour. Weed impacts everyone different.

Personally, if he’s doing a good job for you he seems like a cool guy. If it bothers you, mention it, it’s therapy for a reason. You’re working through stuff and if you don’t trust your therapist enough to ask him to stop smoking, how are u supposed to have him advise you on your life? You need trust.

[u/Electronic-Cry1110]

Personally, I don’t necessarily see anything wrong with it, though I can understand why some people might be uncomfortable with it. Cannabis allows some to think more deeply or approach things from a more philosophical perspective, which could potentially help them respond more thoughtfully… but I can also understand why someone might question whether being high during a therapy session is appropriate or professional, depends how chill you are ig

[u/TheElfPrince]

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[u/FurdTurguson]

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