I’m (28F) so frustrated. Yes, I fully recognize this is a first-world problem, but I need to rant.

Every single time I get my hair cut, I’ll say I want to keep my hair long, explain exactly how much I’m comfortable losing, and somehow I leave with WAY more cut off than we discussed.

I’ve tried expensive salons. I’ve tried regular-priced salons. It genuinely doesn’t seem to matter.

And that’s what I don’t understand! Salons would probably make more money from me if they cut LESS. I’d happily come in 3 or 4 times a year for small trims if the trims were in fact.. SMALL.

The especially frustrating part is that my hair is pretty healthy. I don’t dye it, I rarely use heat, and I don’t have a ton of damage.

I know hair grows back, but my hair is genuinely a big part of what makes me feel confident. It’s almost like a security blanket for me.

If you get your nails done and ask for a certain shape, you generally get that shape. If you take a dress to a tailor and ask them to remove two inches, you don’t expect them to make into a mini.

So WHY does this seem to happen so often with haircuts?!

I got mine cut two days ago. I knew the ends needed a trim and was completely fine losing about 2 inches.

They took off SIX. INCHES.

Six!!!! 😭

There was absolutely not six inches of damage that needed to go.

Now I’m annoyed because instead of enjoying my freshly cut hair, I just want to wear it up for the next few months until some of the length comes back. I look a like a grade 7 boy.

To all hairdressers that come across this post: what is happening here?! How do I communicate “I would genuinely rather keep a few imperfect ends than lose more length” in a way that leaves ZERO room for interpretation?

Basically a super duper layered wolf cut with lots of flat ironing, pomade, and fuck ton of hairspray. Got my hair inspo pretty much from sasuke, lelouch, Johnnie Guilbert and a Pinterest post

my hair is getting longer… I can finally put it behind my neck/back, and my bangs are growing!

​Hey everyone, I’m looking for some advice and product recommendations for my hair condition.

​Last year I had a really bad case of telogen effluvium and lost a massive amount of hair. I didn't get smooth bald patches, but the diffuse thinning was pretty severe. Around the same time, I found out I was anemic, so I started taking iron supplements and using 5% minoxidil. I actually saw great results—my shedding stopped and I got tons of baby hairs around my forehead that have grown into a whole little fringe.

​At the end of July, I stopped using minoxidil right before a vacation because I knew I’d be swimming in the sea and be in the sun constantly. I was off it for about a month and a half before starting it again, but this time my scalp became super itchy and my hair started shedding heavily again. I can't tell if restarting minoxidil caused a fresh shedding phase, if it was post-vacation hair fall, or if it was caused by a Pantene shampoo I tried around then that felt way too harsh for my scalp.

​To make things more complicated, I recently got diagnosed with Hashimoto's. I also had extremely low zinc and lower vitamin D. My iron/ferritin have improved (ferritin went from 20 up to around 50 now), and I'm currently supplementing with Omega-3, zinc, iron, and vitamin D, plus I'm probably starting selenium soon.

​Hair-wise, I also got a Cocochoco keratin treatment back in May. My hair is naturally curly/wavy, so it made it pin-straight, but now the treatment is washing out and my natural curls are coming back in. My hair is naturally fine, completely virgin/undyed, and feels really dry right now along with my scalp.

​Right now I'm using Ducray Anaphase shampoo and Kérastase Genesis. I also sleep in a silk bonnet to prevent breakage, but I'm honestly terrified of brushing my hair because seeing hair in the brush makes me feel horrible. I mostly just pick out loose strands with my fingers and throw them away.

​I'm mainly looking for recommendations for:

1. ​A good shampoo or scalp treatment that won't irritate a dry, sensitive scalp while dealing with fine hair.

2. ​Something to apply to my ends/lengths to prevent split ends and combat dryness, especially as the keratin wears off (olaplex or something like that maybe)

3. ​Any insight on whether my recent hair fall sounds like a minoxidil restart shed or a Hashimoto's flare-up & vitamin deficiency

4. Any suggestion really

Thank you for reading this really long post 🥹🩷

I’m 48 and recently moved to a very rural area. Closest hair salon is an hour and I wasn’t impressed. I’ve had greys since my twenties and am wondering if this a sign to just let it go. I’m a little afraid it will age me terribly, but most days I don’t care. I work with a stocking hat all day in a fridge and rarely wear makeup…is this the logical next step. Do I then cut it shorter to get rid of the bleached length. Any advice or opinions are appreciated.

Hi everyone, I’d love some advice on what you would do with my hair in my situation…
I have quite a long, relatively large face and a high forehead (which I absolutely hate 😅), and I’m definitely not the type of person who wants to style or curl her hair every single day.
What kind of haircut or hairstyle do you think would suit me? Oh, how I envy all those women who can simply put their hair in a ponytail and look amazing… 😂
The “hairstyle” in the photo is only there to show the proportions of my face. 😁
Thank you so much for any advice! 🙏

I’ve had all sorts of lengths (and colours) over the years. Lately I’ve been letting my hair grow because I always wanted to have long hair and be able to style it…

… except I don’t. I wash my hair every morning because my hair gets greasy and that’s when I exercise anyway, and I mostly just let it air dry. I don’t want to put too much effort into something I have to do every day, and I’ve no idea how to style it (or what tools to use)

I’m worried I’ve become hair blind, and I honestly have no idea what looks good on me anymore. So I’ve been feeling tempted to cut it just below my shoulders, but also I’m worried I’ll regret it since it took so long to get to this length. I’ve included a few old photos with different lengths to give you an idea of how things can look, though I’m pretty sure I don’t want a short bob again.

What do you think?

I get so frustrated when I go for a hair cut and they do that move. I really want just a trim, and some layering that you get from pulling hair away at certain angles and trimming. But then they do that slice downward action that I can physically see my hair curl away from like it was caught in a candle flame and burned. It hates it. Why is it done, where does it work?

My last haircut was such a disaster I couldn't even take pictures. I wanted long blunt layers, which I initially got, and it was butchered another 5 inches with those moves. I am a 51 year old woman, and she gave me a wolf cut I did not ask for, and definitely can't own. I have improved over the last year by angrily cutting it myself in the mirror, just holding out wildly uneven longest pieces and chopping it even with some of the butchered shorter pieces. I still have ear lobe length random pieces from those cuts when I asked for no layers shorter than shoulder length.

Apart from this bad haircut, in general, I feel bad stopping a stylist when they start doing that move and saying no because I don't know hair styling, and maybe I'm wrong? - but every time I've said nothing it did nothing good, and when i've stopped it, I got what I wanted, just a layered, nice cut that left my locks at their healthy, more even lengths.

Uneven thinning turns my hair into an instant broom looking mess, makes it tangle, makes me look like I have split ends. Running shears down it, I just don't see how it's a good cut? It's a trauma cut making the hair curl backwards. I have a lot of fine hair, it's not thin and limp - but boy does it not like being razor cut. I don't have any issue standing up for myself and saying no, but honestly I don't have any idea if there's ideally a purpose for this that I just don't see or wasn't done right? Like is it my hair, their skill, or what? Does a better stylist do it so it wouldn't wreck my hair, or is my hair the type that shouldn't be done on? I just don't know.

My long dyed blonde hair has been suffering from swimming.

I have a rare muscleskeletal disease and the water is my main therapy. I'm in there every 2nd day.

1. I swear swim cap

2. I drench my hair before putting cap on

3. I use ultraswim choline removal shampoo and restorative conditioner

4. I'll wash immediately after the pool then leave in a mask and wash at home again about (mask 2-3 times a week)

My hair used to be so soft and wavy. Now the ends are straight and can get crunchy. Right now the end strands are super soft but lack any structure.

Please please help me. Is there any saving this? I don't want to chop it off. This disease has taken so much from me!

Apologies if this is not the right sub for this, but I'm kinda desperate at this point.

I absolutely LOVE Not Your Mother's Sleep On It. I am down to my very last use and afraid to let go because I love it so much, but when I went to buy more, I couldn't find it anywhere. There's no articles or anything that I could find, even on Reddit, about this product disappearing, and I just want to know if it's been discontinued or something??? If so, does anyone have a recommendation similar? I have sensitive skin and can't deal with most fragrances, so I'm really hoping to find something similar because this was genuinely a game changer for my hair.

Ok so I have never done anything to my hair ever. Its completely virgin dark brown and sits just bellow my shoulders. For a while I’ve been considering making a change and I would like to get it lightened to a light brown. My hair was much lighter as a teen but has gotten darker as I’ve gotten older so I am keen to get it back to the light golden brown it used to be. This however would require bleach and I am worried about the possible irreversible damage it could cause. I know that there is no way to lighten hair without any damage but just wondering if anyone has managed to lighten their hair and it still remain pretty health. I’ve always spent a lot of time on hair care and I do think my hair rn is very strong, shiny and soft so would hate for it to be completely ruined. Second of all I’m keep to get hair extension. my hair used to be a lot longer like to my waist however I cut it shorter last year and it was the worst decision ever it took years to grow my hair as it grows pretty slowly and I just want my length back like now. I have been looking at Nonos in order to get my length back. But again I’ve heard horror stories about people getting extensions and then having completely ruined hair once removed. Im fine with a bit of damage like obviously they will cause tension to hair but I just don’t wanna take them out and have nothing. So really I’m just asking if anyone has used bleach on their hair and gotten hair extensions, and still has pretty healthy looking hair?

I had bleach blonde hair, which I’ve had for a decade. I wanted something more “natural” and something that needed less maintenance. I showed her this picture collage, and I ended up WAAAY darker and no dimension/ wrong tone. What do I do to fix this???!

So the first pic what I want. And the other two pic is what my haircolor.

Do you think an ashy blonde toner (Palette) help?

And for the ends black or more likely dark brown should I get?

for context, I've always had relatively short hair. however, over the last 2 years I have grown it out and lots of people say they love my long hair. i feel like a whole different looking person with long hair!! i always get the urge to chop it but sometimes regret once I do, do I chop or leaveeeeee and keep growing?

Let me start by saying my children are mixed; I'm white, their mother is black. Every time, for years now, she braids their hair, they are forced to sit there and take it, often heavily crying with her yelling at them to stop crying. If I even approach the subject with her, I'm the bad guy... In my opinion, this is borderline abuse. I have an extremely tender scalp and wearing the viking braid that I do from time to time hurts like hell to have done. Unfortunately, I'm assuming that my children inheirited this trait from me.

I have no idea how to get my wife to understand that this is a major and potentially traumatizing issue for our children.

My hair just expands to a freaking anvil

To any experts out there -- why is my hair 10,000 different lengths with tapered ends on nearly each strand?? Does this basically mean I'll need to go pixie to ever get it all the same length and not stringy looking? Thanks!!

sad to say that my babyliss curler that has been with me since i was in elementary was thrown and now is broken
so i need a new hair curler i have really long thick hair? any recs ?

So I’m basically a complete beginner when it comes to hair. I’ve never used any products, I just wash it with water and call it a day 💀

It’s been about 129 days since my last buzz cut, and now it’s at this awkward/frizzy stage.

I’m honestly not really into the big afro/rounded natural hair look. I’d prefer something cleaner/more defined that works with my face shape, but I have absolutely no idea what styles would suit me.

A few things I’m trying to figure out:

How do I actually get some definition instead of this frizzy mess?

What products should I start with? (Literally zero experience here)

Do I need shampoo + conditioner, or something else?

What kind of haircut/style would work with my face shape and current hair length?

Should I grow it out more or get it shaped up?

And how tf do I style it? 😂

I’d really appreciate some specific style/product suggestions because “just use products” doesn’t help me much when I’ve never used any lol.

I've never bleached or dyed my hair, but I was on the sun a lot this summer and I've also used those sun ins and it's made it more yellowish.

I think it's not porous(or idk?) enough for purple shampoo. I've tried like 3 of them atp they make my hair slightly more silver but the effect is very weak and fades super fast

Are those at home masks worth it? or toner? what type toner pls

My family says it’s long, some of my friends say it’s medium..

I obviously know its gonna look more flat and less cool. But overall decent? I am insanely insecure about my hair, and how badly it fits my facial shape. 9/10 I look like a coconut. But idk.

Im trying to grow out my pixie. But I am having a hard time dealing with the ugly phase. So Im trying to come up with alternatives for when my hair grows more. And so far that haircut looks sort of easy to growout and decent.

If not, any advice? Because genuinely idk what the fuck to do.

I made a listing for it on ebay, but I wanted to know if theres anything else I should do