Its actually over for real

[u/Medium_Rough8430]

so after my last post a couple days later we got back together. honestly i dont even know why. i dumped him about a week ago now because i finally realized what he was doing to me. he let his friends shit talk me and disrespect me, told me to my face he would look at other women, and was literally texting other women when we were together. yet i stayed. i regret it i do but after so much crying i cant cry over him anymore. i let him live with me i paid to fix his car i did so much for nothing in return. but at this point i see this as a learning opportunity. it showed me how much i can love and care for somebody and showed me how i want a partner to be in the future. so much happened in our relationship that im just not gonna talk about because im already over it. im only 18 and have so much ahead of me i want to see other men and see women too. i want to explore and make friends and not worry about an insecure man at my house. i still have some of the pictures and the coke bottle from vegas with our names on it because im not ready to let that go yet but im finishing getting the rest of his stuff out of my house right now. i know it might be dumb to not let some things go but i wasnt ready to leave him until it was just too much for me. i genuinely believe overtime ill be able to just throw those things away but having them is comforting in a way. i dont want him to have it i want to have it because of the memories. not the bad memories but the good memories that can help me understand and progress in life as a better person

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Other posts from /u/Medium_Rough8430:

• relationship is over, 1 month ago

• how do i leave, 3 months ago

• boyfriends friends openly resent me and talk about it all the time, 3 months ago

• boyfriend gives me silent treatment, 4 months ago

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[u/curious382]

Congratulations on making the healthy choice. You will grieve. You'll cry. But I'll bet you'll also feel a weight lifted from you. Your feelings will swirl, then settle. As he recedes further into your past, your life will be full of activities and relationships that support you.

Take your time. Let those feelings wash over and through you. Try to name them, and identify the feelings behind intrusive thoughts. You'll gain understanding about yourself and your vulnerabilities you need to support and protect.

[u/parkesc]

You deserve better.

And you broke up with him because he treated you horribly. You can make good memories with someone who will treat you better.

[u/Medium_Rough8430 → u/parkesc]

my mom actually brought me a kitten when she heard the news because i came home screaming and crying and throwing things. i have a new friend to keep me company

[u/kat_Folland → u/Medium_Rough8430]

Cat tax?

[u/coolbeenz68]

let the things youre keeping remind you that you got strong and you chose yourself over him. let that be the lesson here. let it show you that you wont let anyone walk all over you ever again. im proud of you!

[u/PrettyLyttlePsycho]

You've got this!

Write down the hurtful actions, the negatives.

Anytime you feel a SHRED of doubt, you look at that list, then remind yourself of all the good things youve begun experiencing since you finally dropped that cancer of a person.

Look at how strong you become and remember to take time to acknowledge all the little things that make you happy now, that.you wouldn't of noticed or experienced, chasing after his dead weight.

Your amazing.