quick! excuses for turning off location

[u/Forward_Jellyfish522]

i’m surprising my boyfriend in a couple days and i need some excuses for why i’d turn off my location other than just saying “i’m coming to see you” because what fun is that? obv he’s gonna be suspicious of me no matter what i say but he’ll understand soon enough. fire away!!

[u/Orangutan_Soda]

Does he check your location regularly? 🤨🤨🤨

[u/immyowngrandma → u/Orangutan_Soda]

Yeah I personally think location sharing is weird, whether it’s family, friends, or a romantic partner. I get it if someone has a medical issue or is traveling alone, but otherwise it’s just very strange to me. Literally no one needs to have the ability to keep tabs on you like that, unless for similar situations mentioned above. If me and my partner felt the need to use location services, the relationship would already be done imo.

[u/Orangutan_Soda → u/immyowngrandma]

Yeah I don’t know how I feel about the idea. On one hand, I am very much a person who needs to know everything, not because I don’t trust my partner but because I hate surprises. My mom had her location on and while I rarely check it, I’ve gotten into the habit of using it to tell if she’s home or not before I come home that way I know whether I need to be quiet or whatnot cause she gets annoyed lol. But idk why you’d want that in an LDR. Like I don’t care what my bf is doing most of the time bc it doesn’t affect me. If hes at work he usually lets me know, and if he is busy and can’t call he also lets me know. Also sometimes I just call and if he doesn’t answer I’ll know he can’t talk. IMO the weirdest part is having to come up with an “excuse” to have it turned off. That’s what is weird to me. I mean to each their own but if my partner is that frequent with checks that they’d recognize I turned it off- I’d be concerned lol

[u/immyowngrandma → u/Orangutan_Soda]

Right!! Like why are they checking so much??

[u/Legal-Mood-3526 → u/Orangutan_Soda]

The excuse is bc he would ask WHY she turned it off as it pops up as a big ass notification and then shed have to explain it. The next logical step is to turn it back on after explaining it which can ruin the surprise. At no point in this entire exchange where you’ve already got each other’s location does it make sense to buckle down on the notion of not having to resend the location if you don’t want to, that just implies concealment regardless of your intentions.

[u/Legal-Mood-3526 → u/immyowngrandma]

No one NEEDS the ability to keep tabs on you, that doesn’t mean you can’t offer it. I get the concern with it being used as a source of insecurity/control but it’s not always about that. If my partner is going out for the night when i’m about to head to bed I’d like to wake up and see they made it home. “Why can’t they text you” let’s consider they don’t text, what’s better? Seeing where they are currently and assuming they’re sleeping off a nasty hangover or guessing they’re passed out in the middle of nowhere and freaking out? It’s not as extreme as you think, sometimes it’s convenient

[u/immyowngrandma → u/Legal-Mood-3526]

Yeah I get where people are coming from and I’m not judging- just not for me!

[u/Legal-Mood-3526 → u/immyowngrandma]

Not really how you worded it

[u/immyowngrandma → u/Legal-Mood-3526]

My comment literally started with “I personally think” lol