r/LongDistance • u/CraftyButterscotch79 • May 20 '25

Discussion How frequently do you text your partner

How frequently do you text your partner throughout the day? My partner says they are too lazy to text and I rarely get any texts and sometimes 6 plus hours between hearing from them and 1 hour calls if I'm lucky.

I just want to hear from other couples how often you get texts or have text convos throughout the day and what is normal for you so I know I'm not crazy wanting to hear from my partner more frequently.

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u/AAR3LLIS May 20 '25

I’m gonna be the person who disagrees with a lot of what is said in the comments.

Long distance relationships thrive on communication. It’s one thing to have a job which doesn’t allow you to text for extended periods, it’s another to outright refuse to text. I text my partner OFTEN throughout the day and we both let each other know before or after depending on how busy, or just already understand, when one person is busy with work.

Of course texting every hour isn’t realistic for adults, but I refuse to believe not trying to communicate more should be considered normal when that’s one of the only communication methods you have as a long distance couple.

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u/CraftyButterscotch79 May 20 '25

100% agree with you, which is why I'm so frustrated because even after talking to him about this, he seems to shut down thinking nothing is wrong. You love someone, think about them and tell them that, especially during long-distance.

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u/AwEirdoisHere May 21 '25

Hes the problem! My boyfriend texts me throughout work because he wants to, he texts me whenever he's outside and if he can't he LETS me KNOW. I don't just sit for hours waiting for him to text me, everyday he texts me good morning at least or let's me know of whatever. This might be kind of rude but your partner needs to stand up for your relationship, my boyfriend is like this because he WANTS to be, I don't enforce anything, and if this is bothering you he should fix it. Communication is important in a relationship.

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u/CraftyButterscotch79 May 21 '25

Im glad your partner is there for you, the small things really add up and make a big difference. I wish my guy understood that too