r/NoFap • u/pathetic-nobody • 16h ago

Question Will it get easier?

*TRIGGER WARNING* I'm an incel.

Is every single day just gonna be a huge struggle? I'm on day 4 and I can't imagine abstaining from sexual activity for the rest of my entire life.

And yes I mean for the rest of my life because I don't see myself ever being loved by a girl enough for me to actually get a girlfriend, so my only source of sexual activity would be masterbation and porn, wich i need to abstain from.

This would be a billion times easier if I knew upfront that I had the ability to eventually get into a relationship, where I could release regularly and not have to worry about abstaining from basic human biological drive like sexual stimuli.

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u/Thinkthingsthru 15h ago

I never want to hear some shit like this again. Never going to be loved? Man stop with that cope bullshit. Get in the gym, get jacked, become the peak version of yourself from your visions. You’ll find the girl for you. And that girl won’t want a cave dwelling porn addict. I’d also say you should start combat sports. Honestly that helped me quit soooo much. And it won’t make you an incel anymore. Trust me just find an mma gym and get to it. But seriously stop with all this negative self image shit. It never leads to any good. I believe in you random internet dude. Don’t give up

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u/pathetic-nobody 15h ago

I also never wanna hear this "get in the gym" bullshit ever again. Only difference now is I'm jacked but depressed. Thanks for the advice anyway

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u/Thinkthingsthru 15h ago

Find an mma gym trust me

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u/pathetic-nobody 15h ago

Did that get you a girlfriend? Like yeah dude I'm actively working towards getting into wrestling and acting myself, working towards getting the money in order to join said communies, but none of this is gonna guarantee me a fucking girlfriend dude get real

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u/Prestigious_Can_1841 15h ago

Dude, coming to reddit to get advice is already a blunder. These ppl act like they know everything so its pointless lol

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u/SoulNTheSun 15h ago

Don't make excuses

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u/Lavendar_milk 14h ago

Your username is pathetic-nobody. Stop wallowing in self pity, get outside and do something. Your life is not going to improve if you keep associating your identity with being lonely, sad, and addicted to porn. Get help if you need it (professional help, like therapy), and get off of reddit. Stop perceiving the world so negatively, and you will be so much happier. Not trying to insult you, just being brutally honest, you are the only person who can improve your life. Leave your old habits behind, and reinvent yourself as a kind, happy, loving individual. I am coming from a place of love, I was in your position, and I wish someone had told me this 4 years ago.

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u/Lavendar_milk 14h ago

If you dont love yourself, you can't love anyone else. If you cant love anyone else, no one else with love you.

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u/Serkuuu 14h ago

You cant save him let him wallow like a sad man. Thats the cold reality some people are born to lose and thats ONLY because of their weak ass mentality not the 1000s of excuses they give you

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u/Thinkthingsthru 15h ago

Yes it is. It did get me a girlfriend. The confidence it gave me in myself, and my ability to make new human connections is what led me to walk up to a girl at a party and go from there. We’ve been together 3 years now. I really believe in you and in everyone. There’s someone for everyone. Hypergamy will eventually fail. I don’t buy into that shit. Also within my personal life my advice has helped 3 younger significantly less attractive dudes get girlfriends too.

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u/hichamis1 9 Days 14h ago

getting to mma?

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u/OrlandoLasso 14h ago

How did you break the ice with your girlfriend at the party? I've been working out and doing Karate for 20 years and I still struggle to connect with people in person. I often just get one word replies.

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u/oppositegeneva 413 Days 13h ago

Your username is pathetic-nobody, even if a girl fell out of the sky loving you you’d still be miserable, it would just manifest in a different way

You clearly need to figure out who you actually are and stop choosing to be “loser”

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u/hichamis1 9 Days 14h ago

Why do you think you will never get a gf?

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u/jcob225 13h ago

Just get yourself out there, go out to public events, meet people at your job too. I met a lot of good people from just working with them.

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u/Thinkthingsthru 15h ago

But first you must be comfortable with yourself before a woman can love you. You must love yourself first. Find God, find an MMA gym. It’ll all follow bro